Letting children wee in the night yes or no?

[ToWeeornotToWee]

Do you let your children wee during the night? I’m talking school age children who are old enough to hold out till morning.

Imagine the noise of them using the toilet wakes up the grown ups in the house disturbing their sleep.

Does that change your opinion?

Edited by MNHQ to add that there's a bit of a vital update from the OP that should be read before responding later in the thread

Has he actually said he doesn't allow them to go to the toilet during the night?

Read all of OP’s posts - it’s right there! And more!

This is vile and my children wouldn't be going to their dads. Can you imagine bursting on a pee at 2am knowing you're going to get in trouble for it? How physically and mentally damaging

Exactly and the poor little mites would also (I don't doubt for one second let alone one minute )get into trouble for weeing the bed. Well their bully of a father can't have it both ways.

As a starting point, it would be useful to flag up with the school the issue around toilet use, and ask them to make sure that if the kids ask to go in lesson time they are allowed to do so immediately, no questions asked (regardless of any general policy). That could then lead into a discussion with the safeguarding lead about not wanting to let them stay with their Dad because of this behaviour around this matter, but you're concerned that if you do he'll use it against you in the family court. Hopefully you'll get some decent advice from them, or pointers towards someone good in social services who can help.

Tell him they are both ill with uti's & him stopping them going to the toilet is the cause. Court Orders aren't worth the paper they are written on, nobody will throw you in prison for stopping them going. If you are worried, speak to SS or Women's Aid for advice.

I hope you’re ok @ToWeeornotToWee

@ToWeeornotToWee what happened?

It would be extremely controlling to tell another human when they are allowed and not allowed to urinate 😳

What happened? Are the poor kids allowed to use the toilet when they need to?

This is either goady on purpose or you are absurd. You cannot be serious, “ letting children use the toilet”. “Waking up adults” ffs get a kitten instead. No scrap that,,, poor kitten. Children should use the toilet whenever they want and I cannot believe you actually need to get advice on this.

If she really is in safeguarding you should report her to the local lado at the council and her workplace for this.

You could try reading even the bottom couple of lines in the OP.

The original post is from May last year and the op last posted then.

How is it going OP?

Why on earth would you stop anybody going to the toilet at anytime??? What a ridiculous question

Unbelievable. DH and I are elderly and we go to the loo at least 3 times during the night.
We don't flush as we live in a flat and don't want to disturb other residents.
Just ask your child to go quietly, and not to flush.
No one can sleep if their bladder is full.

Would love an update on this. I really hope OP managed to put a stop to this.

@ToWeeornotToWee has this been resolved? I really hope you managed to find a way forward here.

I bet he or his new woman would use the toilet in the night if they needed to. Record events and dates, stop contact, end this controlling abuse.

Hope you got the help you needed