To think friend was embarrassed by what I wore?

[bartygk]

I met up with friends for lunch and drinks. They were dressed casually, one was in a long silk kind skirt with trainers and the other two were in jeans.

I had on a black strap dress with a slit and heels, I saw friends eyes widen when I walked in and it made me worry I was overdressed compared to them.

That's their problem, not yours.

I've never heard anyone pronounce it Mack Donald's in England!

That’s your takeaway (no pun intended) from this whole thread?

What did your friends actually say to you?

I don't think you were overdressed or that they were underdressed. I go to all sorts of places and you see people dressed in a wide variety of ways. I don't think it's unusual and I don't think most people care.
If I'd have seen your group I might have clocked that you were dressed up
but I wouldn't have thought anything of it.

😂 it’s a bit disappointing. I thought op wanted to discuss the issue of feeling “overdressed” when meeting friends.

Macdonald’s is just a spelling mistake or typo. It doesn’t go much deeper than that.

It’s not just you, I’m getting the vibe that the OP thinks they were jealous rather than embarrassed.

Personally, I think anything goes these days and different people have very different styles. I can’t wear heels anymore, my feet can’t deal with them, but I’ve got a wide selection of trainers and Vans in a rainbow of colours to match every outfit.

It does sound a little bit like you were embarrassed having overdressed for lunch OP.

However underdressed is always worse I think. I bet you looked lovely.

So why is it a Big Mac and not a Big Mc then?

<wanders back out again>

’Dressed’ is the important bit.

Everything else is a matter of opinion, peer pressure and subjective.

Go to the opera in London and there will be people in evening gowns and tiaras sitting next to ‘corporate work suit clothes’ on one side and jeans on the other.

Did you have a good time?

Good point!

In Australia it is nicknamed "Maccas". There is even some McDonalds with the sign saying "Maccas". I'll try and find one.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say that yes I would be a bit annoyed if somebody turned up to a casual lunch with friends dressed like they were going out on the pull in a nightclub -- being generous they just don't know what style of dress is appropriate and embarrased on their behalf, but really I would more likely be thinking it's just rude and signaling you would rather do the thing you are dressed for i.e attempting to unsubtly hint you'd rather the meet up be out clubbing than a friendly lunch.

And 'Maccy D' / 'Maccies'? That's all over MN.

I demand answers. Sod the slitty dress.

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Goodness me. Why not just make a joke out of it to your friends. and get on with your life?

I am here for this discussion.

It's not a Big Mc is it?

Or McCies?

Having said that (pivots), Mac is NN for blokes isn't it? Who possibly have a Mc-surname.

However, having done a quick Google, Mac is a disambiguation, sooo...

...You're all right!

Hurrah!

It sounds like you were overdressed and clearly your friends noted that but that's not something they would feel embarrassment about.

Maybe second hand embarrassment for you?

What would be classed as stylish shoes?

I don't think your friend was particularly embarrassed, I think you were. You made a social faux pas but really nothing to get worried about.
As long as you were polite and friendly no ones likely to be judging you. It's possible someone who doesn't know you well might refer to you as 'You know, her in the black dress', but I doubt you're attire even got mentioned again.
I'm 'old' so not so invested in what other people think. I'm sure you looked lovely. In your situation I'd have 'owned it' and said something jokey along the lines of "Only the best for my bezzie friend" or "Well I think it's clear who's intended to party on into the night"

Ok I’ll go with this odd thread tangent..

Mac is a disambiguation

Oh good word! I was going to point out that dh has a friend with the McDonald surname and they all call him Macca.

I must admit I feel a bit duped that a slitty dress thread has been steered of course by the op 😂

it was changed to TK Max in the uk to differentiate it from TJ Hughes I believe.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/TK_Maxx#:~:text=In%201976%2C%20TJ%20Maxx%20was,is%20not%20affiliated%20with%20TJX).

What made you think your friends felt embarrassed?

If it’s still worrying you and you thought there was a weird elephant in the room, could you mention it next time you speak?

e.g I’m probably being silly but I hope I didn’t make you feel embarrassed by turning up in a dress and heels! I was worried I was a bit overdressed”

Perhaps you have a tendency to overthink social situations or look at things in a very rigid way by sticking to “rules”
e.g:
-McDonalds must be spelt correctly
-A cocktail dress and heels is the correct attire for a cocktail bar

These days, unless there’s a dress code given, pretty much anything goes.

If you wanted to be really pedantic, it's actually McDonald's 😊

Where I live (Scotland) “Mac” and “Mc” have very different connotations. There’s no evidence to support it, but the commonly held view is that Macs are Protestant and Mcs are Catholic /Irish. Also extends to Mcs (micks) being poorer. Calling someone “a mick” can be used as an insult if the person is catholic.

sorry@bartygk - very off topic!

Your updates are a bit odd and stilted @bartygk

Setting aside the burger issue, can you elaborate/respond?