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To think friend was embarrassed by what I wore?

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bartygk · 14/05/2023 00:38

I met up with friends for lunch and drinks. They were dressed casually, one was in a long silk kind skirt with trainers and the other two were in jeans.

I had on a black strap dress with a slit and heels, I saw friends eyes widen when I walked in and it made me worry I was overdressed compared to them.

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itsrainin · 14/05/2023 00:40

Why do you think they were embarrassed?

DiddyHeck · 14/05/2023 00:43

Literally not a single person here will be able to tell you if they were embarrassed.

From what you've described, you were overdressed compared to them but quite why that would embarrass them isn't something any of us can say.

Yerroblemom1923 · 14/05/2023 00:46

We need a picture of the dress.

SchoolShenanigans · 14/05/2023 00:46

I wouldn't feel embarrassed of a friend if they overdressed. I'd probably think, good on you!

I think your outfit was probably better suited to dinner out, but even so, who cares? Where what you want, life is too short.

CountMushroom · 14/05/2023 00:47

Of course you were overdressed compared to them if two were in jeans and you were in a strappy dress and heels? Why did you dress for lunch as though you were on a night out, anyway?

Wellhellother · 14/05/2023 00:49

It does sound like you were very overdressed

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/05/2023 00:49

That's a lot for lunch so it was probably surprise.

My friends would have taken the piss!

MrsDoylesDoily · 14/05/2023 00:51

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/05/2023 00:49

That's a lot for lunch so it was probably surprise.

My friends would have taken the piss!

Mine too and we would've had a good laugh about it 😂

frankgu · 14/05/2023 00:53

It's a bit weird no one mentioned it or is that your normal style?

TomatoSandwiches · 14/05/2023 00:54

I suppose it's marginally better to be overdressed than under but my friends would have started calling me Duchess or Ma'am and probably curtsey every time I had to get up 😂

Not a big issue though is it.

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bartygk · 14/05/2023 00:57

CountMushroom · 14/05/2023 00:47

Of course you were overdressed compared to them if two were in jeans and you were in a strappy dress and heels? Why did you dress for lunch as though you were on a night out, anyway?

It’s a cocktail place so I thought I’d dress nice, I didn’t expect them to be so casual

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neilyoungismyhero · 14/05/2023 00:57

Not the usual attire for MacDonalds I don't suppose...

Twerpsichore · 14/05/2023 00:57

Sounds a bit much for lunch but you must have known that so just own it.

RightOnTheEdge · 14/05/2023 00:58

I have to say, I'd probably be surprised if one of my friends dressed up like that for lunch. They were probably surprised not embarrassed.
Don't worry about it though, it doesn't matter as long as you enjoyed it. If they're good friends they won't care what you wore.

DiddyHeck · 14/05/2023 01:00

Why are you so worried about it OP?

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bartygk · 14/05/2023 01:02

neilyoungismyhero · 14/05/2023 00:57

Not the usual attire for MacDonalds I don't suppose...

It’s McDonalds not Mac.

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Womencanlift · 14/05/2023 01:23

Do you think they were embarrassed by the fact that you were overdressed or that they were underdressed?

I will be honest I would probably think you were overdressed if you were my friend and you turned up like that for lunch but I would keep that to myself

Toottooot · 14/05/2023 01:27

How were all the other customers in the place dressed?

ashitghost · 14/05/2023 01:32

I’m sure you looked lovely. Try not to let it worry you.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 14/05/2023 01:35

But if you’re good friends could you not just all have a laugh about it?

SmileyClare · 14/05/2023 01:43

I always think it’s best in these situations to laugh it off or at least level with your friends with a bit of self deprecation- “oh god I thought you’d all dress up, I feel a bit overdressed now..you looked a bit shocked Sue when I walked in..haha “

Its a shame you don’t have that sort of openness with this set of friends and instead you felt uncomfortable, didn’t tell them and you’re now dwelling on it.

I mean maybe your friends felt embarrassed that they hadn’t dressed up too? I don’t think anyone here can tell you what they were thinking.

Get any I worried out in the open next time?

Did you have a good time? I’m sure it was all forgotten after a couple of drinks so don’t make this into a big thing in your mind x

Lavenderandbrown · 14/05/2023 01:48

You can wear anything as long as you wear it with confidence.

GeraltsBathtub · 14/05/2023 01:51

Well that does sound more like an evening than lunch outfit but why would your friends have been embarrassed? Even if you had turned up in a full ballgown the most I would have thought is ‘that’s a bold look’ rather than being embarrassed. Unless of course you started doing the cancan on the table after a few cocktails 😉

NotMeSecretFormular · 14/05/2023 01:53

I’m often "overdressed" doing the school run. Couldn't give a fuck, it's whatever I've chosen to wear that day because I like it. Did you feel good about how you looked? That's all that matters.

SmileyClare · 14/05/2023 01:53

frankgu · 14/05/2023 00:53

It's a bit weird no one mentioned it or is that your normal style?

Very weird amongst friends I think?
Not even a “nice dress” or “I don’t usually see you in heels” comment?

It all sounds a bit uncomfortable. Friends usually acknowledge when someone’s made an big effort or has a different look to the clothes they usually see you in.

Are they new friends you don’t feel particularly at ease with?