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Would DH be unreasonable to wear a short suit to a wedding?

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toastofthetown · 13/05/2023 17:42

We have a few weddings coming up this July and August. Given the very hot weather last year and that DH runs warm, he’s considering wearing a short suit if the weather is hot. We’re young, and the weddings we’ve been invited to are relaxed and casual, rather than a traditional occasion. We’re not part of the wedding party, and as DH is tall he tends to be at the back of photos. Here are some examples for styles he’s looking at. I know some of these are styled casually, but DH will be in a shirt and smart shoes. I know it’s bit left field but would be interested to see what the view is as DH is considered about sweltering in a traditional suit but also doesn’t want to go totally rogue.

Would DH be unreasonable to wear a short suit to a wedding?
Would DH be unreasonable to wear a short suit to a wedding?
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WoolyMammoth55 · 13/05/2023 18:29

OP, don't let the negativity on here put you off - the last wedding I went to, the groom wore one of these shorts suits! Your DH would have fitted right in :)

The shoes are the tricky thing honestly. IIRC the groom last summer wore smart dark trainers - I think a dress show would look a bit mad, honestly. But if your DH is comfortable then I don't see why not.

IceStationHorse · 13/05/2023 18:30

He would look like a twit 😂

Shhhquirrel · 13/05/2023 18:30

Awful

MrsDoylesDoily · 13/05/2023 18:30

I can't imagine how I'd feel if I caught my husband on a public forum, posting photos of potential dresses I might want to wear to a wedding, and asking stranger's advice! 🙈🙈

sweatervest · 13/05/2023 18:31

it reminds me of the bacardi advert from the 80s ("getting the last bus home ... if you're drinking barcadi" - and lots of men running down a jetty jumping into a boat). i think it looks fab and it wouldn't bother me at all and people wear all sorts to weddings nowadays.

Fourpeasinapodcast · 13/05/2023 18:31

Just William.

Neilsfavouritechilli · 13/05/2023 18:32

I don't get the negativity, I've been to a fair few UK summer weddings where blokes (and a woman in one case) have worn very similar short suits and neither looked out of place or disrespectful - in fact they looked great. Pictures were not ruined and no one was scandalised. We're a relaxed bunch though and everyone is just happy to see everyone else there.

SleepingStandingUp · 13/05/2023 18:32

minipie · 13/05/2023 18:28

My logical head says yes fine, guests should be comfortable. But my instinctive reaction would be “who’s that guy who’s forgotten his trousers.”

Suggest a linen jacket, linen shirt and chinos. Very cool and comfortable. Actually would be a lot cooler than many of the “occasion” dresses which tend to be fitted, lined and made of man made fibres.

Also thinking about all the times I as a woman have been uncomfortable for the sake of looking appropriate (feet hurting in heels, freezing in a dress and wrap at spring weddings) while men get to be warm and comfy in their suits, I don’t have too much sympathy.

What wedding stipulated heels only and not wearing warm enough clothes? You'd have been fine in flatter shoes and a jacket

DiddyHeck · 13/05/2023 18:32

Have mercy on your h and put a firm kibosh on the shorts. Just no. And no sandals for him either before you get any other ideas. “But my toes are hot.”

And make sure you comb his hair and get him to blow into a tissue before you leave the house 🙄

WhatTheFlipToDo · 13/05/2023 18:34

As long as it is 30+ degrees then it’s fine. I’d like to see this become more normal in the UK. I always feel sorry for men/teenage boys in hot weather as there are so few smart options for them. As a previous poster said, it’s still far smarter than some wedding attire worn by females at weddings (those weird hole-in-the shoulder dresses, flip flops, vest top style dresses with bra straps showing etc)

EarringsandLipstick · 13/05/2023 18:34

user1494050295 · 13/05/2023 17:47

Does he look like george clooney? If yes then got for it

This.

The only way this can work is if your DH is amazing looking & with a great body

It's just not a forgiving style.

Deadringer · 13/05/2023 18:34

Awful. If its a casual wedding why not just a nice shirt and light trousers. Those short suits look like something a small boy would wear for a formal occasion.

Neilsfavouritechilli · 13/05/2023 18:34

Also not getting the linen love, it creases like fuck and looks tatty within mins as a result.

Oysterbabe · 13/05/2023 18:35

If he's older than 6 then no.

LubaLuca · 13/05/2023 18:36

If it's so hot that only shorts would be suitable, it's definitely not blazer weather. If these are all relaxed weddings in informal settings, it would be much more sensible to ditch the jacket than the lower half of his trousers.

Chickenkeev · 13/05/2023 18:36

All those saying no, genuinely why the f*ck not? It's smart, it's not jeans and a t shirt. Why should fellas have to swelter? I think it looks great. And you can't dictate what someone wears to your wedding anyway ffs.

SleepingStandingUp · 13/05/2023 18:37

DiddyHeck · 13/05/2023 18:32

Have mercy on your h and put a firm kibosh on the shorts. Just no. And no sandals for him either before you get any other ideas. “But my toes are hot.”

And make sure you comb his hair and get him to blow into a tissue before you leave the house 🙄

You forgot a just in case wee

Letsallgotothebeach · 13/05/2023 18:38

My husband always takes smart shorts to change into when it feels right

Chickenkeev · 13/05/2023 18:38

LubaLuca · 13/05/2023 18:36

If it's so hot that only shorts would be suitable, it's definitely not blazer weather. If these are all relaxed weddings in informal settings, it would be much more sensible to ditch the jacket than the lower half of his trousers.

Why though? Women's legs are always on show! Mens legs are a bit less attractive (imo) but they're just legs like! He's not wandering about with his willy hanging out!

gogohmm · 13/05/2023 18:38

Linen is very cool, actually better in sun because if protects your skin. If he wants to be noticed go for the shorts (he'll be gossiped about for years) if he wants to blend go for linen trouser suit or pale lightweight trousers, contrasting jacket and a shirt that works well open collared so he can whip off his tie if other guests aren't wearing them (think regatta look). In the U.K. it's just as likely to need a jumper in the summer!

SundaeLove · 13/05/2023 18:38

Twiceover · 13/05/2023 17:51

God, why not? I think they're nice and wouldn't look out of place at a fairly laid back wedding.

Agree.

gogohmm · 13/05/2023 18:39

If they are really casual then skip the jacket entirely I should add

NewbieSoberista · 13/05/2023 18:40

Looks fine to me. I'm 39

Chickenkeev · 13/05/2023 18:40

SleepingStandingUp · 13/05/2023 18:37

You forgot a just in case wee

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Iknowthis1 · 13/05/2023 18:40

Unless the wedding is in Bermuda, no😂