Would DH be unreasonable to wear a short suit to a wedding?

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We have a few weddings coming up this July and August. Given the very hot weather last year and that DH runs warm, he’s considering wearing a short suit if the weather is hot. We’re young, and the weddings we’ve been invited to are relaxed and casual, rather than a traditional occasion. We’re not part of the wedding party, and as DH is tall he tends to be at the back of photos. Here are some examples for styles he’s looking at. I know some of these are styled casually, but DH will be in a shirt and smart shoes. I know it’s bit left field but would be interested to see what the view is as DH is considered about sweltering in a traditional suit but also doesn’t want to go totally rogue.

Personally I don't like the look of those, chino or linen type shorts with just a shirt would look better. He should wear what he likes though.

@moleeye @SirSamVimesCityWatch i can’t imagine actually being annoyed at what someone chose to wear to my wedding. While the short suits are not to my taste I think being upset because a guest wore one at your wedding is bordering on bridezilla territory.

How are shorts disrespectful?

This would make me laugh so hard if I saw that at a wedding 🤣

No, he'll look ridiculous, particularly when accessorised with a shirt and smart shoes 😂
What's the point?

God no. Just no.
Linen instead.

I am confused how a long sleeved jacket with shorts is going to be the cool option (temperature wise), but I don't see how it's worth anybody getting upset about.

That’s hardly a reason. I wouldn’t wear a strappy maxi dress to work but it doesn’t mean it’s inappropriate for a wedding.

Equally my husband has several pastel wool suits he wears to weddings but would feel they are way too formal and out there for a casual office.

Workwear and wedding attire do not have the same rules.

It's just me that thinks it's ok. And I'm not young. I think this style is very cool and I would think it would look great if I saw it at a summer wedding.

It's a no from me

Unless the weddings are in a beach in somewhere like Greece/ Mediterranean

I think this is only acceptable for a beach wedding where it can be worn with sandals

This

Could you ask the couples if they would be bothered by this?

Such a bizarre thread to start, it's like the chat forum equivalent of buying your husband's socks and pants for him 😂😂

"Darling, I know I'm treating you like a 5 year old but I've asked some complete strangers about what you should wear!"

They look great on the models! But I've never seen anyone wearing such a suit. Can't imagine it would be that cool anyway wearing a jacket in extreme heat. I'd have thought loose, lightweight trousers and just a shirt would be cooler.

Is he six foot, stacked & ripped, under 27, and fire AF? Do you actually like the bride and groom?

We had three weddings last summer, and my DH wanted a new outfit to wear. He was tired of the same old navy or black suit that men are tied to, so he bought a sky blue short suit from Zara. He wore non matching dark trousers for the ceremonies, then changed into the matching shorts when he got to warm. He got lots of compliments for being clever and looking very smart.

Caveat: he is tall and thin/muscular legs so the shorts fitted well and weren't too small. He also wore loafers sockless which is pretty on trend for men.

😂😂

So true

Thank you!

It honestly wouldn't bother me at all if someone wore one to my wedding. In fact, I think it's pretty sensible.

If in doubt, ask the bride and groom!

Only if he’s a toddler. Kilts are acceptable wedding attire if he must get his legs out but I’ve been to many wedding on hot days and all the men have managed in suits.

😂 even the models look ridiculous. I inadvertently clicked on the picture and the shoes are just as bad. It’s a non, op. I mean come on.

Now I can relate to the getting hot. He can wear linen trousers and linen jacket and even take the jacket off. Op, you’re talking about a few inches more of linen fabric on his lower legs. Not much different than shorts temperature wise but totally more appropriate.

Have mercy on your h and put a firm kibosh on the shorts. Just no. And no sandals for him either before you get any other ideas. “But my toes are hot.”

If its causal, can he get away with short sleeved and taking his jacket off?

Who are the weddings? I'd prob casually mention it to the bride or groom in passing tho if he really wants the suit.

I wouldn't have minded tho, church wedding altho it was cold in April so if have been shocked 😂

My logical head says yes fine, guests should be comfortable. But my instinctive reaction would be “who’s that guy who’s forgotten his trousers.”

Suggest a linen jacket, linen shirt and chinos. Very cool and comfortable. Actually would be a lot cooler than many of the “occasion” dresses which tend to be fitted, lined and made of man made fibres.

Also thinking about all the times I as a woman have been uncomfortable for the sake of looking appropriate (feet hurting in heels, freezing in a dress and wrap at spring weddings) while men get to be warm and comfy in their suits, I don’t have too much sympathy.

I'm a big fan of shorts generally and relaxed dress codes specifically. The issue to be solved would be around the whole "smart shoes" business.

What kind of smart shoes does he plan to wear? What socks will he wear? Usual smart black lace ups with short black shoes would look imo a bit odd. Maybe invisible socks with tan loafers might work but is that what he means by 'smart shoes'?

As it happens, I think long, loose linen trousers might absolutely be cooler than shorts. Hope it goes well, men's dress codes can surprisingly sometimes be more tricky than women's.