to think I've just done something which would shock a lot of Mumsnetters?

[EmmaGrundyForPM]

From my reading on here, I've concluded that answering the door when you're not expecting someone is a complete no-no for the majority of MumsNetters.

The doorbell went at lunchtime, I wasn't expecting anyone, but I answered it anyway!

It was a man who was lost, didn't know the area, trying to find a local church where a funeral was being held. I explained where it was, where to park etc. He then asked if I could recommend a pub or somewhere where he could get changed as he'd just driven 3 hours.

So I offered him our spare room to change in, made him a cup of tea and left him to get on with it. He was very appreciative and has now set off for the Church.

No biggie, we don't have anything valuable to nick, he seemed very nice although a bit flustered about being lost / getting to the Church.

So have I just broken all the MN rules or would most people have done the same?

For crying out loud!!! Presumably the man only asked about somewhere to change as he was already standing on the doorstep asking for directions to the church.

Calm down.

Again, surely you would have planned that before leaving.

I have a church near me but the nearest supermarket or pub is 10 miles away.
You can’t just head to the church and hope to find a pub on the way.

It doesn’t make sense that he was on the way to the church yet wanted to go to a pub or somewhere first.
You’d go to the place you wanted to get changed at before going to the church .

I work with a woman who was waiting in line for a taxi from the airport with her husband. The man next to her asked about decent cheap hotels downtown. He was english but his BA flight had been horribly delayed and he missed his bus to Maine. He was going to Maine because his brother had had a major health crisis and his sister in law and 2 small children were beside themselves so he flew over to help.

They brought him home with them, he stayed the night on their sofa and they dropped him to the bus station in the morning.

I answered the door once early evening to a woman clearly distressed, asking to use a phone as her battery was dead. She said she was trying to contact her mental health crisis team but was just getting an answerphone. She was very tearful and agitated.
DH and I offered to drive her to the hospital where she'd just been discharged from. We are both nurses so not fazed, just felt she needed help and we could do that small thing. She was so grateful, we chatted on the way, dropped her off and felt satisfied that she'd access some help.
A month later when we were on holiday, a man knocked on the door and asked for DH. DS said we were away and he left.
He returned the week after and he and DH had a brief conversation on the doorstep. His wife (the afore mentioned distressed woman) had told him that she and DH were having an affair and she'd spent the weekend with him. She told her DH his name and that he was a nurse and where he lived.
The weekend was when we were in Florida on a family holiday so he knew it wasn't true.
She was very ill and delusional. But that could have turned nasty had we not been away when he called, hellbent on confronting DH.
It put me off helping anyone, sadly.

@SecretsIWouldNeverTell was your Nan Scottish? I grew up with the same white rabbits superstition and haven't seen it mentioned on here before! I'm from north Scotland.

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I let my Asda delivery man use my toilet during covid and he crapped all over the bathroom

No. Deathly serious.

What??

I'm just pleased it's not your autopsy report we're reading.

You invited a total stranger into your home so he could take his clothes off? Just,wow.

I think you were crazy letting him in your house , husband there or not .

Didn't he have a phone for finding the church, like everyone else does?

Less risky asking him to come in and change if your h was there, but I don't think I'd have done it anyway.

This would make a good Criminal Minds Episode

The Doorknocker

Unsub pretends he is going to a funeral and a woman feels sorry for him and lets him change in her house...

Then he lies low and moves onto The Next House.

The BAU name him The Doorknocker.

I always open the door and would give someone instructions if they were lost.

Inviting someone indoors to remove their clothes in my bedroom is an entirely
different circumstance altogether.

I am not sure why people are treating these two scenarios as the same. They both require very different levels of risk assessment.

Oh and I would also not invite a strange woman upstairs to get changed.

Would you like a medal? Internet brownie points?

You clearly haven't watched Luther.

I always lock my front door when I'm at home now 🤣

😃I'd watch it.

Thank you 😊