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ID of Starbucks non binary Southampton manager revealed

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Birthdaygirltoday33 · 13/05/2023 12:42

Their name is Luna Spain

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www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12077475/Starbucks-manager-sacked-transphobia-rant-activist-terrifies-neighbours.html?ico=related-replace

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Mentalheath · 14/05/2023 16:19

SchoolShenanigans · 14/05/2023 10:29

To be honest, Mrs Thomas sounds like an utter twat. Complaining about it being cashless, and then when the manager stepped in (Luna), she said "I wasn't talking to you, I was talking to this lady" which is just rude. Luna was presumably stepping in as Mrs Thomas was being a stroppy bitch.

Sorry, but this was all clearly a blown up situation, in which Mrs Thomas was antagonistic and Luna was unprofessional.

Ok let’s assume that Mrs Thomas was an utter twat.

What about Mr Thomas? Quietly standing there filming when Luna stormed towards him, had an altercation and demanded the phone?

If Mrs Thomas was a twat why was Luna sacked? Starbucks could have released their video showing she was the aggressive one to begin with and that she was banned, or she was under arrest etc.

If Luna was in the right why flew the scene?

Customers complain all the time. Staff don’t do what Luna did. I’ve seen staff called all the racist names cunts under the sun, they haven’t reacted in the way Luna did.

StarbucksKaren · 14/05/2023 16:29

Mentalheath · 14/05/2023 16:19

Ok let’s assume that Mrs Thomas was an utter twat.

What about Mr Thomas? Quietly standing there filming when Luna stormed towards him, had an altercation and demanded the phone?

If Mrs Thomas was a twat why was Luna sacked? Starbucks could have released their video showing she was the aggressive one to begin with and that she was banned, or she was under arrest etc.

If Luna was in the right why flew the scene?

Customers complain all the time. Staff don’t do what Luna did. I’ve seen staff called all the racist names cunts under the sun, they haven’t reacted in the way Luna did.

No one has called Vanessa Mrs Thomas before @SchoolShenanigans goady post - which also called her a twat and stroppy bitch.

Her partner has a different surname

StarbucksKaren · 14/05/2023 16:31

She’s already been misnamed by Luna on film so I’m a bit defensive about any more of that 😂😂😂

Mentalheath · 14/05/2023 16:40

Oh I didn’t know his name so assumed it was Mr Thomas. Wonder if cameraman would be enraged that I mis names him 😂

Oh it was completely a goady post. I just wanted to hear the word gymnastics defending Luna for that assault and attempted mugging 😂

Vanessa calmness says everything tbh. If she was a goady fucker to begin with she would have continued rather than you don’t know me. Even after she got called Karen she just carried on repeating you don’t know me

Mentalheath · 14/05/2023 16:47

WallaceinAnderland · 14/05/2023 15:28

This is a typical TRA comment on twitter. Says it all really.

'I don’t need to hear from the victim to know that it wasn’t being called “lady” that set them off. It was 100% the old crone’s reaction to being corrected that caused the problem.'

Oh I’ve read some batshit things on Twitter about this video

Omg why would you post this? There was no need. It’s just going to cause more violence towards the T community (no supporting evidence ever appears outside T’s in South America who are sex worker, just like other sex workers)

The video has been edited

That old couple set up the manager cos they travelled there. Who travels for a coffee?

why didn’t cameraman go and help? …. Told you, they set up the poor manager

Addicted2Kale · 14/05/2023 16:50

Luna has rightly been publically outed as a misogynist and a danger to women. Thuggery like that must NEVER be tolerated.

Addicted2Kale · 14/05/2023 17:04

For goodness sakes. Holding trans people to account for public egregious behaviour is not transphobic. Saying it is, in this context, is to support amd normalise dangerous hostile behaviour towards women which is a VERY slippery slope and completely wrong.

GailBlancheViola · 14/05/2023 17:19

WallaceinAnderland · 14/05/2023 15:28

This is a typical TRA comment on twitter. Says it all really.

'I don’t need to hear from the victim to know that it wasn’t being called “lady” that set them off. It was 100% the old crone’s reaction to being corrected that caused the problem.'

Old crone they do love their insults and dehumanising language don't they but blow a gasket at referring to a clearly female person as lady. Nasty individuals.

StarbucksKaren · 14/05/2023 17:48

Mentalheath · 14/05/2023 16:40

Oh I didn’t know his name so assumed it was Mr Thomas. Wonder if cameraman would be enraged that I mis names him 😂

Oh it was completely a goady post. I just wanted to hear the word gymnastics defending Luna for that assault and attempted mugging 😂

Vanessa calmness says everything tbh. If she was a goady fucker to begin with she would have continued rather than you don’t know me. Even after she got called Karen she just carried on repeating you don’t know me

Think cameraman would be totally chilled @Mentalheath 😂😂😂and would know you weren’t misnaming him intentionally. Hope we’re not misgendering him??

I agree with you about Vanessa’s calmness. I’ve name changed in honour of it because I don’t think I could stay calm in the face of the seal clapping in face and Karen slur etc

StarbucksKaren · 14/05/2023 17:53

Mentalheath · 14/05/2023 16:47

Oh I’ve read some batshit things on Twitter about this video

Omg why would you post this? There was no need. It’s just going to cause more violence towards the T community (no supporting evidence ever appears outside T’s in South America who are sex worker, just like other sex workers)

The video has been edited

That old couple set up the manager cos they travelled there. Who travels for a coffee?

why didn’t cameraman go and help? …. Told you, they set up the poor manager

Took a ferry from the Isle of Wight to go and have a coffee and mess with trans people, yeah right

StarbucksKaren · 14/05/2023 18:29

Addicted2Kale · 14/05/2023 17:04

For goodness sakes. Holding trans people to account for public egregious behaviour is not transphobic. Saying it is, in this context, is to support amd normalise dangerous hostile behaviour towards women which is a VERY slippery slope and completely wrong.

Yes @Addicted2Kale a VERY slippery slope. There’s been so much public egregious behaviour in recent years.

It’s been reported but most people see it as something going on in the ‘activism spaces’ of a terf vs tra war. Unless it’s impacted previously safe spaces or whatever, it hasn’t affected most people’s daily lives yet.

This incident has got people’s attention because it took place in such an everyday context. We can all relate to popping into a cafe to order a coffee

Murdoch1949 · 15/05/2023 02:49

The non binary person was the person serving, whom the customer referred to as the 'lady', that's when the male manager went off on one. How was the customer supposed to know that a server who looked like a woman was actually presenting as non binary? All got to be psychic have we? The manager - how did he get to be a manager - was aggressive and threatening and totally deserved to lose his job. The very abusive transwomen like this man, go out of their way to offend and belittle women. He could have just said, they prefer to be called them, or just kept his neb out and let the assistant speak for themselves.

Americano75 · 16/05/2023 17:03

I would have thought that Starbucks would have their own CCTV footage that they would be able to review the full incident.

maddening · 16/05/2023 17:24

AnonyMenOhPee · 13/05/2023 13:13

I really do think you have to take the reporting with a pinch of salt on this. The woman says she just wanted to pay by cash but in the video is asking for a refund - clearly there’s more to it than the video shows. Anyway whatever happened Luna has been sacked - what is there to be gained by sharing her identity? Hoping for a pile on? People to take the piss out of her appearance? What’s your motivation OP?

She asked for a refund as she was being kicked out without the drink she had paid for.

Someone who looked like a woman was referred to as a woman as no-one is psychic- then Luna berated her and told her to get out and she said fine but she wanted her money back as.well.as defending herself against the accusation of transphobia.

Proudtobeabitch · 17/05/2023 14:50

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waterlego · 17/05/2023 15:05

How was the customer supposed to know that a server who looked like a woman was actually presenting as non binary?

They were probably wearing a special badge, but that’s not much use to people with poor eyesight or poor literacy or those of us who are very unobservant (I’m the sort of person who doesn’t notice when someone’s lost 3 stone or had their hair redesigned so the chances of me noticing a pronoun badge are minimal).

CountZacular · 17/05/2023 15:12

GailBlancheViola · 14/05/2023 12:24

Always got to find a way to blame the woman, Rufus never, ever, ever, blame the violent, abusive male for being violent and abusive. No surprise that VAWG is endemic, posters on here excusing the behaviour of this male are an intrinsic part of the problem.

I think it’s actually really telling when people do this. If TWAW then these types of posters would be telling us all what a stroppy, hysterical bitch the employee was being but they do seem to note enough difference that the usual misogynistic insults and always blame women doesn’t actually apply to TW.

GailBlancheViola · 17/05/2023 15:46

Indeed, @CountZacular it just cements the fact that people know exactly what sex Luna and every other non binary male or transwoman is.

overnightangel · 17/05/2023 22:26

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Jesus, your husband is a right prick

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