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Boyfriend being weird about how I watched the coronation

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Annoyedandconfused8 · 07/05/2023 08:45

I’ve been feeling annoyed and confused since this happened yesterday.

I am in a ldr with my bf. We were texting on Saturday morning and he was watching the coronation. I had got it on as well, but on the iPad rather than the tv. I had things to do so it was easier to half watch bits as I could just take the iPad with me.

My son was playing on the Xbox. He’d seen a bit of what was going on when I was in the room and we had a few conversations about what was happening, so he’d taken a bit of an interest in it but generally find these occasions boring.

I told my bf I was watching on the iPad and he was shocked I wasn’t putting it on the main tv, said I was demoted to the iPad (I wasn’t I chose to watch it on there) his reaction was ‘my god, I give up’. When asked what he meant he said it was ridiculous, unpatriotic, it’s a big deal and we were both unbothered, we weren’t his type of people and said I needed to be teaching him etc.

Am I being unreasonable to think this is not a normal reaction?

OP posts:
Polarsnare · 07/05/2023 08:45

No it wasn't a normal reaction, it was very bloody odd.

Thinkwicebeforeyouleavemylife · 07/05/2023 08:46

Yanbu. He's being very weird.

NewLifter · 07/05/2023 08:46

I don't know what LDR is, but it sounds like he isn't the one for you!

bunnyrabbitsandbutterflies · 07/05/2023 08:46

Very odd. Tell him It's 2023 ya know!

TheyIndeed · 07/05/2023 08:47

You mean your ex-boyfriend, right? (Fun though it is to date nationalists)

StrawberryWasp · 07/05/2023 08:47

No it's not a normal reaction.

Normal people don't care whether or how other people watch the coronation.

I was really in to it. My DH and sons didn't care. No one judged the others.

sleeplessinsouthhampton · 07/05/2023 08:48

grim

where's he get off telling you what to do in your own home

Couldyounot · 07/05/2023 08:48

Is he always this peculiar?

XBealtaine · 07/05/2023 08:48

he sounds controlling. ie you must do things the way I would do them or you're doing them wrong. I remember my x having a go at me because I got the bus to wimbledon. he said the train is quicker. I said ''but I wanted to get the bus'' and he just argued back with me for ages. I had gone to wimbledon wrong and he wouldn't let it drop til I admitted I should have gone by train. Really eye-opening.

SweetSakura · 07/05/2023 08:49

Bonkers reaction.

I didn't watch it at all, I took dd clothes shopping. I think Dh vaguely watched it on his phone while the boys played on the Xbox

BranchGold · 07/05/2023 08:49

Yanbu, how long have you been together? It seems like he thinks you’re incompatible, which is a fair enough conclusion to reach when you’re finding out about someone. What isn’t fair enough is criticising someone in the expectation that they should change themselves to be more like them.

CarpetSlipper · 07/05/2023 08:50

I’d tell him he wasn’t my type of person.

Seas164 · 07/05/2023 08:50

Why is he assuming this level of control over you and your child? This is not normal.

At best a misguided uptight controlling flag shagger. Do not live with him ever. Ever.

Menopants · 07/05/2023 08:51

I now have a mental image of your boyfriend standing in front of his tv in Union Jack y fronts saluting and weeping with patriotism. Bit of an ick tbh

YukoandHiro · 07/05/2023 08:52

He said "we weren’t his type of people"???

I'd be reconsidering that relationship. He sounds like as superior arsehole who thinks he knows better than you - and I would suspect this extends way beyond his views on the coronation?

YukoandHiro · 07/05/2023 08:52

NewLifter · 07/05/2023 08:46

I don't know what LDR is, but it sounds like he isn't the one for you!

Long distance relationship

CindersAgain · 07/05/2023 08:52

NewLifter · 07/05/2023 08:46

I don't know what LDR is, but it sounds like he isn't the one for you!

Long distance relationship

CindersAgain · 07/05/2023 08:53

I wonder if this is a comment on your child taking priority.

LIZS · 07/05/2023 08:53

Bin him . What business is it of his how you chose to watch, or not,

LadyWithLapdog · 07/05/2023 08:54

You have a gammon. Bin him.

lemmein · 07/05/2023 08:54

CindersAgain · 07/05/2023 08:53

I wonder if this is a comment on your child taking priority.

That's what I thought.

Keep this man away from your child OP - he doesn't like him!

TookTheBook · 07/05/2023 08:54

This isn't really about the coronation but about his expectations and behaviour. He thinks he should have a say over you and your child living your own lives in your own home. That is ridiculous and unacceptable. You're not being unreasonable - this should be your make or break moment, and the answer is break it off.

Original poster
Annoyedandconfused8 · 07/05/2023 08:54

Thanks for the replies. I do think it is very weird and there has been things like this before where I feel he is saying how I do something is wrong. It seems particularly ridiculous as it’s usually about what I’d see about fairly trivial things.

OP posts:
grinner83 · 07/05/2023 08:54

I'm not anti the royals but I didn't watch it at all! Caught up on the best bits online later, but I had better things to do yesterday than sit through it all. My partner did watch it, which was fine. I'm not sure my teenagers even realised it was happening 😂

His reaction was at best disproportionate, and at worst really controlling.

Alargeoneplease89 · 07/05/2023 08:55

Maybe its a mix of things, do you let your son always have his xbox on if you want to watch something? Does he feel your son controls you?

On the other hand I would find it a bit odd and controlling for your boyfriend to say something like that.

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