Boyfriend being weird about how I watched the coronation

[Annoyedandconfused8]

I’ve been feeling annoyed and confused since this happened yesterday.

I am in a ldr with my bf. We were texting on Saturday morning and he was watching the coronation. I had got it on as well, but on the iPad rather than the tv. I had things to do so it was easier to half watch bits as I could just take the iPad with me.

My son was playing on the Xbox. He’d seen a bit of what was going on when I was in the room and we had a few conversations about what was happening, so he’d taken a bit of an interest in it but generally find these occasions boring.

I told my bf I was watching on the iPad and he was shocked I wasn’t putting it on the main tv, said I was demoted to the iPad (I wasn’t I chose to watch it on there) his reaction was ‘my god, I give up’. When asked what he meant he said it was ridiculous, unpatriotic, it’s a big deal and we were both unbothered, we weren’t his type of people and said I needed to be teaching him etc.

Am I being unreasonable to think this is not a normal reaction?

Very weird. DD1 wanted to see the crowns so I stuck it on my phone propped up with a box while she ate her snack for 5 mins. Then she wandered off and I turned it off as we were going out. I don't know how unpatriotic that makes us

Not a normal reaction, utterly bizarre in fact. Please don't ignore this HUGE red flag and end this relationship, it'll only get worse much worse. He's showing you the type of person he is don't ignore it and make excuses for him.

it's none of his Dam business how you and your child conduct yourselves in your own home.

To have the attitude that it must be watched on the tv and not an iPad! I’m 51 and watched it even though I’m not a royalist.

Hilarious

That’s cool then and suiting you both.

Quite a lot of an over-reaction.

Just in my immediate family there was a huge range of interest (or disinterest). In my house we've had our Union Jack flying from one of the upstairs windows, I bought a commemorative tea towel and tin of biscuits. The TV went on at 9:45 and was turned off after the red arrows fly-past. Only stopped watching to make a few quick nibbles during the talking heads post-parade.

Over at my mums, she recorded it and watched it in-between going for a swim and reading the newspaper.

My sister and her partner went out for the day and didn't watch a single second. They generally don't have any interest in any world events that don't directly impact on them or their immediate circle.

It comes across that he was more concerned the mum and son weren’t watching it together and the son thought playing on his x box more important- different priorities that prob wouldn’t gell well as a family. There’s no way I would have let my son do that

Nothing like a royal event to bring out the freaks. You only need to read though the threads on here to see that.

@OMG12 I think the 94 comment was a reference to the vanishing interest in the RF among younger people. As proven by large surveys carried out recently. Not a personal slight to you.

for the record I’m 55 and a republican. Couldn’t give a stuff about the coronation though I enjoyed looking at the frocks 🤷‍♀️

This hit me really hard. I'm not a man, but my stepdad was (and is) a horrible man. My sisters and I all left home at 16 because the environment at home was so toxic. He'd pick fights with all of us constantly, he and my mum were always screaming at each other. My mum didn't drink when she met him, but has developed severe alcoholism over the years (as has my stepdad). They've been unhappily married for over 30 years and made our teenage years absolute hell. It's affected all of us so badly, we've all struggled with anxiety and depression for our whole adult lives.

For all of the above reasons, if my partner and I separated I would never move a new man in while my kids were still living with me. I know there are many wonderful stepparents out there, but I just couldn't risk it after everything we went through. Boyfriends yes, but definitely no to co-habiting.

OP, I really think you should get him out of your life. Things like this sound trivial in isolation, but they add up to utter hell when you live with it day in, day out.

"It comes across that he was more concerned the mum and son weren’t watching it together and the son thought playing on his x box more important- different priorities that prob wouldn’t gell well as a family. There’s no way I would have let my son do that"

I find this attitude odd. The son obviously didn't want to watch it and the op wanted it on but in the background while she was doing other things and it was easier to have it on the iPad so she could take it with her. Surely that's sensible? Or does the adult who only wants it on in the background trump the kid who wants to actually play a game?

In my house, if I wanted to sit and watch something then my kids use their laptop to watch something else. But if it's just on in the background while I'm doing other things then it's fair game.

Your last paragraph here, you wouldn’t just tell him x, y or z. This means that you can’t ever live with him.

the fact that he resents you for popping to the shops for a specific ingredient for something your ds likes to eat is a huge red flag, added to this comment it’s clear from his mutterings this weekend is that if you were stupid enough to allow this to continue, to have this bloke move in, that he’d be cruel to your ds and put a stop to what he thinks is wilful indulgence.

What he means by "you don't listen to me" is "You don't do as I tell you"

He's manipulative and controlling and you need to move him away from you and your son. He's buying your compliance with his "nice" actions.