He called his ex when drunk

[confuseddotcom201]

My partner went out and had a few too many.
When he got home I heard him on the phone telling someone he thought of them every single day.
He also said he missed them and something about a holiday.
I snooped on his phone this morning and it was his ex.
Aibu to think he still has feelings for her? They split properly 4 months ago but I think things were rocky for a bit before that.

Red flags and take heed of them. You only see him twice a month and he is ringing his ex when has a few drinks and telling her he thinks of her and misses her. Have more self belief in yourself and move on from him as this is not a good start to any relationship and you can be sure it is not the first time he has been ringing her. Set your standards higher and do not even think about having him move in as far too soon and he is chatting to his ex.

You only see him twice a month and on one of these occasions he rings his ex? I wonder what he does when you’re not together.

Throw this one back OP.

He’s obviously not over her and you’re going to be the one that gets hurt.

The fact that she was speaking to him on the phone about this (I assume late at night too) means she obviously has feelings too.

I know that is the only time he has called her.
She doesn't talk to him. The phone call was 12 minutes. I saw it on his call log. He also asked her why she blocked him.

@randomusername2020

I'm very concerned this thread is still here 😂

How would he know he’s blocked unless he’s been trying to get in contact with her?

You see him twice a month. You know what he tells you.

This relationship will not work.
Please do not move a man you're with a matter of months, into the same house as your children.

If you change your mind on one thing..let it be that.

Get rid of him, he obviously hasn't got over his ex and your a rebound. He has a new partner and hes saying that to his ex. Run 🏃🏼‍♀️ while it's still early doors.

I bet if his ex was to want to start over with him he'll just straight at it and leave you. That's so disrespectful towards you just leave!

I've got cheese in my fridge longer than your relationship. It's really premature to call someone your "partner" after dating long distant for 4 months.
Add in the extra complications of children from a previous relationship and drunk calling his ex. You don't really know him yet.
I'd personally not invest any further in this

I know that is the only time he has called her.

Even so, he chooses now, the time he is changing jobs and moving in with you, to suddenly call her and say he misses her ...this is too soon for anybody.

Threads like these frustrate me. You heard him on the phone, and now you’re defending him because you don’t want to face reality. What’s the point. You know what the truth is you are hoping someone on here tells you that there’s nothing wrong. Up to you OP. Either way I’d be having a serious conversation with him because it’s no life to be second best. Sounds like he moved into a relationship with you too quick.
I’ve been there.

Also may I add most of the stuff I say when I'm drunk is how I'm actually feeling, and what I'm too scared to say sober so it's not a "drunken mistake" he most likely meant what he said.

What in earth have I just read?!

I'm not putting him over my children. They get on well.

So he’s cocklodging with you until he finds a job. Drunk and calling his ex. You should still be in the honeymoon period. Pack his things and off he fucks. He’s just using you.

@confuseddotcom201 so you're long distance... see him once or twice a month over a four month period so maybe 8 times give or take... and you want him to move in? Of course he'd say it makes financial sense, he's on a pigs back. He has already made it clear he has feelings for his ex. His only mistake was doing it within earshot of you. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

He's not a cocklodger. He works and has money. He's looking for a job where I live so he can move.
Since he split with the ex he's quite isolated.

Why are you posting on here? You’re just defending him and you’re not going to do anything about it so I don’t get what you’re wanting from this thread.

@confuseddotcom201 aside from anything else... 4 months into a relationship you're checking his phone? I'm a healthy relationship, adults don't do that. You really need to assess why you think any of this is ok.

Come on, you know full well that the truth is more likely to come out when drunk.

Introducing him as your boyfriend to your kids and planning for him to move in when you've only been together as long as you have is absolutely not putting your kids first OP.

This is what he does when you're nearby, I dread to think what he does the 90% of the month he isn't in earshot of you.

She doesn't talk to him. The phone call was 12 minutes. I saw it on his call log. He also asked her why she blocked him.

If he hasn't been trying to get in touch with her before then how would he know she's blocked him?

Can you really be arsed with all this teenage bullshit OP? You've got kids, one of whom has additional needs. You've got a lot of stuff on your plate already.

Yet you're entertaining a relationship in which just four months in you're checking his phone and finding stuff you don't like.

It's really not meant to be this hard.

4 months and he's already 'taking your kids on'? Christ 🚩 🚩 🚩