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He called his ex when drunk

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confuseddotcom201 · 06/05/2023 11:44

My partner went out and had a few too many.
When he got home I heard him on the phone telling someone he thought of them every single day.
He also said he missed them and something about a holiday.
I snooped on his phone this morning and it was his ex.
Aibu to think he still has feelings for her? They split properly 4 months ago but I think things were rocky for a bit before that.

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VaddaABeetch · 06/05/2023 12:10

Are you mad woman?

How many dates have you been on?

He’s playing you for a fool.

The question is are you a fool?

LaviniasBigBloomers · 06/05/2023 12:11

Oh come on mate, you cannot seriously be calling someone you've dated longish distance for four months your partner and talking about him moving in. Give your head a wobble. He's still hung up on his ex yes, but that's not the most wrong thing in this situation.

OhComeOnFFS · 06/05/2023 12:12

Financially it makes sense for him to move in with you? You've only known him for four months! Look, you heard him - you don't need more evidence than that. You heard him tell his ex he missed her. Put yourself first here, OP and bin him.

FishChipsMushyPeas · 06/05/2023 12:12

I wouldn't consider moving in with someone after just a few months because it makes financial sense.

How long have you guys actually been together?

confuseddotcom201 · 06/05/2023 12:15

Tbh we've been talking for 6 months but didn't get together until he split with her. I know it sounds bad.

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C2190 · 06/05/2023 12:16

Drunk or not, he still called his ex, telling her he thinks about her every day and possibly a secret holiday on the cards too....wake up OP, he's taking you for a MUG

DeflatedAgain · 06/05/2023 12:16

confuseddotcom201 · 06/05/2023 12:15

Tbh we've been talking for 6 months but didn't get together until he split with her. I know it sounds bad.

You sound perfect for one another tbh

BranchGold · 06/05/2023 12:19

confuseddotcom201 · 06/05/2023 12:15

Tbh we've been talking for 6 months but didn't get together until he split with her. I know it sounds bad.

I guess that answers the question of if you’re an embarrassed fool or not then doesn’t it.

Good luck to you, it started as a shit show and it looks like it’s set to continue in the same manner. I hope it’s only yourself that’s caught up with this drama and there are no children involved.

confuseddotcom201 · 06/05/2023 12:19

Definitely no secret holiday. She won't talk to him.
I think he was talking about one she cancelled.
Do you really think he's using me?
When I'm with him I don't feel used.

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VirginiaQ · 06/05/2023 12:19

confuseddotcom201 · 06/05/2023 12:05

But what if it was a drunken mistake? I don't want to lose him over something he did after a few drinks. He genuinely a lovely guy who treats me so well.

In vino veritas.

Darkroot · 06/05/2023 12:19

Oh dear.
The truth comes out after a few drinks.

Doesn’t sound like he’s your ‘partner’ anyway. You’ve been talking for six months (for two of those he was in a relationship, no wonder it was rocky 🙄) and you’re long distance?
I wouldn’t waste my time personally.

confuseddotcom201 · 06/05/2023 12:22

I do have children. He's really good with them. That's why I think he's not using me as he's happy to take my kids on.

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OhComeOnFFS · 06/05/2023 12:22

Arrrgh you're going to let some bloke move in with you and your kids because it's better financially?

ARE YOU INSANE?

ChocHotolate · 06/05/2023 12:23

You see him once or twice a month due to distance and have been together for 4 months. So you've seen him no more than 8 times since you have been "official" and you are planning to have him move in?

trevthecat · 06/05/2023 12:23

4 months in, long distance and he's already involved with your kids and looking to move in with them?! Are you mad?

Darkroot · 06/05/2023 12:23

confuseddotcom201 · 06/05/2023 12:22

I do have children. He's really good with them. That's why I think he's not using me as he's happy to take my kids on.

Good god 😫

Utterly ridiculous. Grow up.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 06/05/2023 12:23

How many times have you actually met him?

AperolWhore · 06/05/2023 12:24

confuseddotcom201 · 06/05/2023 12:22

I do have children. He's really good with them. That's why I think he's not using me as he's happy to take my kids on.

@confuseddotcom201 hes met your children already?! What on earth are you doing! Protect yourself and your children and do not let this man move in.

FuckKnowsMate · 06/05/2023 12:24

You stupid stupid woman. I’m sorry but it fucking baffles. Seriously, grow up. Don’t care if that’s harsh.

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DeflatedAgain · 06/05/2023 12:25

I'm calling BS on this post.

There's no way this is real.

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TashaG · 06/05/2023 12:26

Introduced to kids and moving in after 4 months and a handful of dates 🙈

confuseddotcom201 · 06/05/2023 12:26

I've actually known him over a year and he'd met my kids before. I am friends with his brother.
I know it seems quick but we're good together. Or that's what I thought until I heard him on the phone. He was trying not to cry when he was talking to her.

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