To think most women do all of the self care beauty routines I do.

[summerfinn]

Had this conversation with a friend today that seems to think I'm high maintenance. I get my nails done every month and eyebrows and a facial. I also fake tan once a week. Botox every 6 months and get my lips slightly fillled twice a year ( I have naturally thin lips)

I was under the impression most women do these things if you care about your appearance. AIBU to think this ?

I think you idea of 'appearance' is lead by the current celebrity idea of the perfect look. Don't for get that fashion is only trends thrust on you by the media.
It won't be long until the dark shaped eyebrows, dark lashes, lip filler and botox look will draw gasps of amazement the people actually did that to themselves in the name of fashion just like we think the Victorian idea of a perfect figure of a slim waist held in by whalebone corset is equally insane.
Fashion changes, permanent body implants and surgery unfortunately aren't as easy to move on from.
Personally I prefer a more natural look rather than the current media lead looks.
I'll stick to a regime a little less rigorous than yours.

I don't think they do prove that. I think the view from the side is usually the give away.

I know some women not really in my circle and not in the professional world who do their nails. Acrylics seem to be a lower class thing but also for well off people with time and money.

I assume you are in the well off bracket considering all the other things you do.

I'd find the time commitment draining. I work 4 days though and wouldn't prioritise those regimes.

I colour my hair every 9 weeks and epilate legs irregularly so Im not too hairy to go swimming. That's it for self care for me.

I think people ruin their looks with silly eyebrows and fillers. I'm sorry but I think fake tan looks awful.

Still each to their own. I'm sure you'd think I look awful too!

Come on guys’ it’s clearly a wind up!!! @summerfinn maintains she does this as she isn’t good looking and it helps her feel normal but goes on to say she looks like a dark haired version of a woman who won a ‘most beautiful woman in the WORLD’ 😂😂😂😂

however if is true and you look like Rosanna then I’m afraid your cosmetic work is not as subtle as you think. She is a girl who looks like and has had too much done and her style is stuck back in 1990

im in Ireland too and the same age as you. Myself and my group of friends don’t do what you do. I get my eyebrows done every 2 months as I’m fair and they don’t show up otherwise. Some of my friends get their nails done sometimes.

for us caring about our appearance is trying to get fitter and eat healthier not injecting poison into our faces to pretend we are younger than we are and sticking on fake nails and fake tan.

I dont do any of those things. I get my hair cut well every 8 weeks, I do my eyebrow shape myself each month. Other than that I try to exercise and sleep well and eat healthily.

Rosanna’s ‘natural and subtle’ look for those who don’t know who she is!

Never bothered with any of it as I’m really ugly and it would be like putting lipstick on a turnip.

Sadly Sandra bullock has gone way way down the route of too much work imo. Meg Ryan also. Sorry yo disappoint but Michelle Yeoh had surgery earlier in her career and pictures suggest she uses light Botox as her face fluctuates between being slightly smoother and slightly less. But it’s all done beautifully so she looks natural just beautifully aging.

I would not consider this normal, natural or healthy, women with this much muck on dont look good, they just look artificial. and what a shocking amount of time and money to waste.

It is very concerning that you say your children dont copy you becasue they are boys- cant you see how sexist this is, and what you are bringing your boys up to expect from a woman? Someone totally superficial, who's only self confidence comes from covering up their normal face and skin.

I am being quite mild, as my feelings for the negative impact you are having on women's equality, respect for women, and the environment actually run quite a lot deeper than I would be allowed to say on here.

Sorry, but you asked

They don’t have side shots so I can’t prove otherwise but I find it incredible that you think they look filled

Am not trying to diss Rosanna. In her line of work, she may need to look like this.
I am in a line of work where everyone is very casual, and I would look foolish if I tried to look like this.

However, I am all on the S and B threads praising Tretinoin. It really is a miracle in a bottle. I do that and I don't do much else. I am also finding that as I get older ( I am 51) less is more for me. I can't seem to pull off heavy makeup any more.

I don't care who gets filler or whatever but suggesting that men have affairs because women don't partake in beauty regimes is quite disgusting. This type of post insinuates that women are only worth something if they look good. Incredibly misogynistic, old fashioned and "pick me".

Pffft, YABU.
If you do all that, that's your choice but YABU to assume everyone is the same as you.
I dont even wear make up, never mind do any of the other stuff . Never have, just not me.
If my hair looks brushed I feel I'm winning 😁

I am not keen on the posts criticising the OP's parenting. Leave that alone. Her boys likely don't notice because boys never notice anything!

Lip fillers are definitely always easy to spot. The lips don't lie flat after filler.

Do I have to look haggard and unkept and exhausted to be deemed a good mother?

Are you implying that botox and fillers are necessary to not look unkempt?

The competitive under grooming is just like the teedious competitive under eating

Define under grooming. If someone is clean and looks after their health, why should there be an arbitrary standard beyond that, particularly one that applies specifically to women?

Im sure your husbands appreciate the effort rather than you just letting yourselves go. And women wonder why so many affairs happen. Look after yourselves inside and out ladies!

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It's the turning up at the edges which gives it away. The part where lip.liner would be if you use it. You can see it more in the photo of just the lips of the ones you posted.

I do none of these things. Only 2 women I know do any or all of these, but maybe I'm in a particularly shabby group?

You must be bored. Or ....

Bahaha i just read that you "consider yourself beautiful "

But only with fake nails. Fake brows fake skin color fake lips etcetera 🤣
Too funny

I'm usually head in hand at some of the horrors I see, so this pic is actually 👌🏾.

I'll remember this whenever I see the other variations or anotherbthread saying no-onecan tell, because I'm guilty of rolling my eyes sometimes 🙂

You seem to think all lips are the same. Natural lips don’t lie flat either. What do you even mean?

No, I don’t do any of those things. But then I don’t like the false tan and fake nails aesthetic.

If I did, then I’d probably do the things on your list (except Botox and lip fillers, the idea of injecting chemicals into my face makes me a bit queasy).

As long as you’re happy and aren’t doing it because you think you need to, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.

There's always a bulge around the edges with filler, it's obvious when you see it side on. It can look nice, but it's always obvious. I don't get the whole trying to insist it looks "natural".