To go for a drink with friends dad

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Iv been friends with this friend for ever and her dad has always been there for me and has messaged me a few times over the years but it's just been jokey flirty stuff nothing much of anything and he messaged me this morning to go round for a few drinks tonight. I want to go but I don't know how my friend will react.
Yanbu. Do what you want its nobody's business
Yabu. You don't cross that line with a friends dad

I cannot believe this thread hasn't been deleted yet.

This poster clearly needs help and this thread is making it worse.

OP just to put this into perspective - if you caught HIV from a sexual partner, then gave it to your friends dad, you'd have to come clean about having sex with him.

That's not gonna happen there's probably like a 1% chance I'd be more likely to get hit by a bus on the way to the clinic

Well thank god they didn't otherwise I wouldn't of gone to the pharmacy

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Oh honestly no, not at all ❤

I know that you are trying to push home some reality to OP and I am right behind you. The mere fact that this is not well known proves how unusual this situation is. It's all very sad.

I'm gonna speak to gp about different bc but the implant made me bleed constantly and I'm not keen on the idea of the coil

I never realised how lucky I was that I’ve never met a man who WOULDNT wear a condom

I mean, I never realised how lucky I was that I’d never met a man who would refuse to wear a condom

they just do 🤷‍♀️

OP you are living in a completely different world than most of us. Every guy I have been with has worn a condom when asked and none of my friends have ever been with one who refused either when asked. And if they did we wouldn’t have sex with them. That’s what it means to be responsible for your own sexual health

You obviously surround yourself with shitty guys if you can ask them that, including your mate’s dad last night

It’s not luck they are just normal guys, well certainly they are in my experience

Is it worth the risk of that 1%?

We need the old aid adds from the 80s.

I’ve been pretty promiscuous in my time (happily settled now though!) and I’ve never slept with a man who WOULDN'T wear a condom. OP, they’re about to get the ride, why wouldn’t they put a condom on ??? Raise your standards.

Oh op, you have met such shitty men, over 5 billlion, yes billion, condoms are sold each year across the world. Of course men wear them, in their billions.

I feel so utterly sad, you’ve been so let down and for so long, and by so many, you now don’t know what’s reasonable or normal. And think the decisions your are making are valid, when all that’s happening is the people who care about you, like your friends, are being discarded or screwed over, in favour of utter cunts who are going to hurt you and discard you. And you can’t even see it coming. So many women looking at this and trying to help you see it, to see the damage being done, and you won’t hear a word of it.

it’s just so unutterably sad.

I’d be interested to hear what he say if you told him that you were going to tell his daughter. I bet he’d call the whole thing off immediately. You’ve played into his hands by wanting to keep it a secret, as I bet he wants needs that more than you do

I’m glad you enjoyed your night, pleased that you got the MAP sorted out too.

enjoy your night out tonight.

🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

What is wrong with you?

This poor lass is by her own words having yet another mental crisis and there are two kiddies involved too.

At least four different sexual partners in as many months - I've done well more than that in the past but I've been careful with my sexual health, protection etc.

Four different sexual partners in as many months that has already lead to one abortion and another pregnancy scare and you are glad that she enjoyed another protection free sexual encounter?

This person is a mother of two kiddies, who is looking out for them? If she carries on like this she will loose the limited access she currently has so why are you applauding her?

That’s fairly fucked up ..

I don't have a dad so couldn't answer

So sleeping with the man that was seemingly the closest thing to a dad is not a good idea.

If you were looking for people to help you identify healthy boundaries, this was it. The answer to your question is a definite no: you shouldn’t cross that line. Neither should he. Given that you have, the advice is still no, don’t do it again.

O hands off OP. Are you mad? If you want to lose a friend then go ahead but you won't be forgiven. Don't.q

Your bar is set very low. Have a bit more self-respect. Shagging a random bloke because you’re bored and “it’s better than sitting at home alone” is not healthy.

I need to be using condoms everytime (which obviously no man is gonna agree to)

The right man will. Many men use condoms to protect their partners - look at how many are sold/distributed every day!

So much for “he wants to protect me”. He’s not protecting your sexual health. Your husband dirty secret. What a horrible position to be in.

You’re his dirty secret, that should be.