Why are you so concerned about my (in your mind only) codependency?
You are not required to understand the inner functioning of anyone else's relationship. It's enough to know those within that relationship are genuinely happy with it, no?
To indulge you, and answer your questions:
No, I do not suffer from anxiety, nor does he.
Career - now retired (early) as is he.
Friends - yes, likewise him.
Family - yes, likewise him.
Other interests - yes some shared (football, politics, walking, trading stocks/shares), some not (crime programmes, interior design, answering arrogant/up their own arse posters on Mumsnet (lol) who believe they have the right to apply a template (that works/doesn't work for them) on others. Him - gym bunny, arty stuff, DIY etc.)
This is the ideal to which we strive in our relationship. We're pretty damned good at it. It's On Marriage, Kahlil Gibran:
Then Almitra spoke again and said, And
what of Marriage, master?
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you
shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white
wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the
silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance
between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond
of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between
the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from
one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat
not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous,
but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone
though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each
other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain
your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near
together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow
not in each other’s shadow.
I hope this also answer covers your follow-up post demanding confirmation of my codependency. 🙄