Would you say this is standard for work day ?

[TinaTeaspoons]

Asking someone twice a week to-
Get up at 5.45AM
Walk for 40 minutes and then a 20 minute bus journey to workplace.
Work for 9 hours on feet all day but have an hours lunch.
40 minutes walk home and 20 minute bus journey back.

Person has autoimmune diseases also but they are well controlled. Aibu to say this isn't too much?

Im struggling to see the point of this question.

The details are so vague; no mention of the person’s age, their relationship to you, health or details of their illness, no description of the job or any context?

No one can answer this. I doubt any replies will influence your husband’s (?) decision.

All I can suggest is looking at making the 2 hour commute there and back easier? A taxi, or offer a colleague money for a lift or something?

How can we possibly answer? Surely the person to answer should be the person who's expected to do this.
There's too many variables too. Are the two days consecutive? What are they doing the other 3 days. Does the initial 40 minute walk involve escorting children to school or carrying awkward/heavy kit? Is it a long term arrangement or till eg the school summer holidays?
I have no physical health problems. I used to regularly walk 40 mins to and from work 5 days a week. My job was standing all day and physical. I was fit with no childcare responsibilities and l would sometimes come home, kick boots off and sit down with a drink for half hour before tackling dinner. Many times I'd wake up at 8pm with a cold cuppa as I'd dozed off.

I'm assuming something's come up (work opportunity?moving house?) What's the gain for the family short term and longer? Are there other options eg an electric bike/scooter?
Seems you're OH is saying he's not up for it. TBH the health condition is a red herring in my book. If I worked nights I could earn considerably more or work less hours. I could do it, but I don't want to work nights. I could also have a better standard of living if I worked as an accountant or commuted to London. I don't want to do that either.
What's motivating you to want to adjust the status quo? How much of this gain is for the family and how much is for you? If not exactly the same, will other similar opportunities come up again?
Not enough info

I have fibro. And also osteoarthritis but just had a hip replacement.

No way could I do that relentlessly. I exercise a lot too but it's all about pacing and with an expectation like that I'd really struggle.

Are you aware of the AS functionality OP?

because your history suggests otherwise

This.

What is the point of the question?

Obviously you want us all to say that he needs a kick up the backside and he should just get on with his little part time job without moaning, but surely it depends on the severity of his illness, what alternative work he can find, is there a better way for him to get to work (bike?), how much you need the money as a household, what else he could do (SAHP?) etc etc.

24 posts specifically about your DH’s health issues since back end of last year, including a number of threads you started about him and his health

and it was you that said on another thread he had “constant diarrhoea”

Honestly I couldn't do that - and I work 40hrs a week
But no commute (or I drive 15 mins to the office) and my job isn't physical
With a v short commute yes I would be fine to do a physical job

My autoimmune conditions just mean my body is doing twice the work to produce something then kill it off, then produce it again (with meds) and I'm so tired all the time

Empathy doesn’t seem to be your strong point OP.

Poor fucker.

@Youheshetheysaid not creepy at all that you have gone and checked all my post history. Maybe it's hard having a chronically ill partner and nobody to talk to about it. Consider that for a moment before judging me.

I wake at 5:15 am every weekday. My journey to work varies from none to 2.5 hours. I think a 40 minute walk is a nice part of a commute.

I would not say it is standard, no. And as someone who also has a well-controlled autoimmune condition, even under the best circumstances two days per week like that would leave me utterly flattened. Not that I wouldn't do it if necessary, but it would have to be extremely necessary or extremely well-compensated as motivation.

I’m kinda confused… is this a new job? Is it a change in transportation arrangements? Why are you asking him to do this?

This was my Q too. What's the reason for upsetting the status quo? Who will gain? If it brings in an extra £100 a week and you're in debt do it. If it brings in £50, which is 35 after tax and nearer £25 coz you've bought meal deals and coffees is it worth it

Depends how much the job/money is needed and wanted!

I could do a desk based job, no way I could be on my feet all day then do that commute.

No, it's not creepy, it's wanting to get the full picture before answering.

Could you give more detail? To be fair, a poster having a quick look at your past threads has at least provided some context.

Does dh work now? What does an average day look like? Can he exercise? Does he regularly walk for more than an hour a day? Has he been offered this job and passed an interview process?
What area is he qualified in, or have experience in? Perhaps we could suggest other employment?
Do you work or drive?

Im sure you’re struggling to get by on benefits and coping with a chronic illness must be a huge strain on you both.

Im sure people on here would be willing to offer suggestions.
Sorry you’re feeling so desperate x

Yes of course it creepy

Because it provides information you didn’t want to reveal on this thread in order to get a view that supported you! 😂

tbh i think if your DH says he thinks it's too much, then it might be too much.

Is there no way around the walking 40 minutes? can't he cycle the whole journey for example, or does his condition mean that's not possible.

Frankly? suck it and see is the way to go, surely. If he doesn't try, he'll never know. But it would be more than mean to try to force him to do it if he honestly thinks it's too much.

Yeah because that is what I was saying 🙄

It’s subjective really, so if he thinks it’s too
much I think that should be respected.

A 40 min walk to the bus seems a lot, though, I’d be annoyed at that and I’m mot
disabled. Can he get a taxi or something to and from the bus, if it’s only 2 days?

With the conditions you have revealed, it's very unreasonable to expect this. I really feel for your husband if this is the expectation.

I do have some one with autoimmunity in my family and I would feel cruel to make them do this.

I walk 40minutes to work both ways and don't think twice about it BUT i do have the option to get a bus if the weather is particularly bad or I have a lot to carry. If his only option is to walk that leg of the journey then that could be a downside depending on what facilities he has for drying / changing when he gets to work.

I have auto immune conditions (currently managed) and that would be too much for me currently and that's without being on my feet all day. My shift used to start at 06:00 and I couldn't do it - that's without a commute too as I wfh.

No, you can't make him do it. My DH also has a health condition and I do understand your frustration but he's the one living with it and therefore he gets to say what he can or can't do.

It would be worse if he took this on due to pressure from you, and then struggled with it and felt bad about having to give it up.

If he says he can't/ doesn't want to do something, then believe him. You need to be supportive.