To be in tears over my nose?

[TheLostNights]

I never let anyone take photos of me as I am a very ugly woman. But the thing that bothers me most is my nose. It is very long and pointy. DH took a photo of one of the kids the other day and my side profile is in it and my nose just looked horrific.
Perhaps foolishly, I googled ways to minimise it naturally like with make up etc but came across an article about a man with the world's longest nose. His was 8CM. Or just over. Measured mine just now from top to the bottom and it's just over 7CM. Which now makes me feel even worse. DH started shouting at me saying it's getting like an obsession but I just hate how freak like it makes me look. Everyone else looks beautiful or at least normal. I hate the fact that unless I have a nose job (which I can't afford ) then I am stuck looking like this.

Also op remember that different people find different things attractive. For me men with large noses have been attractive. It seems strong and I like the feature. We are all different fortunately. Lots of top models have very prominent noses.

How.
Explain what’s rude about it?
Or gross.
It’s true.
And it a compliment when it comes to op.

If some people aren't in relationships, it's not because they're ugly. Everyone has a different idea of beautiful. To imply that pretty women get husbands is a really shitty attitude.

This really made me laugh 😂

@NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs

Why are you so determined to go on other peoples threads and basically tell them they're not allowed to feel unattractive or insecure just because you haven't had a date in your life? You've done this on a couple of threads now, as if it's a race to the bottom to be the ugliest because of a lack of dates. Perhaps it's not looks, but a personality problem.

You shouldn't be trivialising other peoples feelings.

Anyone can get asked on a date no matter what they look like.

Personality however...

All of them?
All men that has existed in my presence or come way the past 37 years are despicable?
And people said I’m ridiculous!

Believe it or not, some women are totally unattractive to men.
I’m a living proof of that.

Do not trivialize my life experience.

I'm not trivialising anything. I'm saying that presumably your experience isn't based solely on looks.

It's rude to say only people who aren't ugly have husbands, its also untrue. I'm no looker and am married. It's also weird because there must be ugly men out there wanting wives. It's also very heteronormative

I'd get it "fixed" as it bothers you so much.

Lol at ugly women don't get husbands. Omg.

I haven’t.

I literally said sorry op is feeling the way she is.
Are you the one who harrassed me on the other thread, the only ONE!! I’ve talked about this before.

I’m not the one / been the one trivialising anyone, people have piled on me and told me it’s my fault I’m ugly and it’s a self-esteem issue. Lies all around.

I fonmt know why being a ugly woman is a taboo, but we exist. And we don’t get to have live or partners. Pretty and average one’s do, unless they choose not to. But they have offers, of course they are free to turn men down.
ugly one do not have this privilege.

But anyway, stop twisting my words.

I'm so sorry you feel this way about yourself, and that you've had some really unhelpful messages on here suggesting surgery. That's not the answer!
Sometimes we can find something in our appearance we're not happy with and can obsess about it, especially if it's a feature which is not easily hidden like something on our face. But I can guarantee no one ever thinks the same way about it that you do yourself. It's a huge insecurity which is coming from the harsh way your inner voice is talking to you. But in reality I'm sure you don't look the way you feel, you're being too hard on yourself.
Your husband and children love and adore you, and to them you're the most beautiful wife/mum in the world.
I only hope you can find a way to accept yourself for how you are, and in turn come to love yourself too.
Imagine if a friend or especially if your child was talking to you about themselves like this, wouldn't you just want to reassure them and make them feel better about themselves? Give yourself that same love, care and compliments you would give a loved one.
You are beautiful and you deserve to receive kind words from your inner voice, if you will allow yourself to be kinder to you ♥️

Op,looks don't last,people are liked,loved,admired,wanted,respected,for who they are.
Please font see yourself as ugly or that your nose is too big.
If it is dragging you down,can you ask your gp about having a reduction in nhs for your mh?
Count all your attributes,I bet there are far more than you realize.
Carry some pink quartz for self love and keep it by your bed at night.
Also look into manifestation,it does work.
Wish you all the best 💐

Oh fgs. They're trying to pay a compliment.

Most of the 'advice' on this thread is fucking terrible, but this is actually worth a shot.

my husband has a huge nose, way way bigger than yours. You can't miss it obviously and I know he got teased at school for it, but he doesn't care - he's very body neutral naturally and just goes 'well it helps me breathe' and shrugs. Honestly there is a lot to be said for this attitude.

Ugly men want pretty women.
Just like the rest of them.

Women are willing to date men uglier than them.
It’s not even split.

OP if you see your GP, you can be referred to the Wellbeing service to talk through how you are feeling with a therapist/counsellor through the NHS. It sounds like you could be experiencing body dysmorphia and it would probably really help to get your feelings out with someone neutral. I guarantee that what you are thinking about your nose is nowhere near what anyone else sees or thinks.

Because there is far more to people than their looks . Some of us do have dysmorphia about our looks that others don't see , it doesn't stop it being real to us .

But a long nose can look really good on people, if it goes with the rest of the face!

Don't worry! Obviously your husband found you attractive.

And if it really bothers you a lot, just get a nose job. Lots of people have them done nowadays.

I for instance have a big forehead and people have made fun of this feature throughout my life. Hurtful, but it never held me back. I found my husband and was able to attract plenty of men before him.

Your nose is completely ordinary, op- just measured mine and it’s about the same and mine is as average as they come. So either you’ve got some sort of dysmorphia as your husband suggests or this is all made up to make people paranoid about their noses.

I had rhinoplasty and it changed my life so much that I just wish I’d had had it earlier. Life is too short to hate the way you look, so I’d say get a loan and go for it. My confidence went through the roof and I’m no longer bothered by photos or people looking at me.

We are our own worst critics but that doesn’t mean those things don’t affect how we feel and unfortunately our bodies and how we look is a huge deal to us even if it shouldn’t be. I’m considering a loan for weight loss surgery. Because I’m overweight and can’t bare looomg at the version of myself I see… you k ow how you feel but I also think there is weight in the figuring out why you put so much value of yourself in your nose and also think about using surgery to change it… or using the money to have some healthy therapy first to figure out if it’s the right move for you x I am sending you nothing but love and support OP x

Your husband married you so I don't suppose he thinks you are ugly.

Best post on this topic .

Of course there is more to looks.
Few men care about that.
And people are far more interested of seeing the ’inner beauty’ when the outside is already beautiful.

I don’t have dysmorphia, I have lived experience.
I’ve watched mean people get into a relationships, my co-worker doesn’t hide his misogyny - he has a wife who loves him.
Cheaters get into relationships time after time.

Inner beauty doesn’t mean anything really.

I am torn on this - firstly your nose sounds perfectly normal and when I have chance I am going to measure mine because it seems about that size. But if it makes you miserable then find a way to fix it.

however…….

I think you could fix your nose then feel no better because you get hung up on the next imperfection.

The reason I think this will happen is because it happened to me. I had an overbite and terrible teeth. So I had braces and double jaw surgery to fix it. Huge operation and a massive recovery period.

I am very glad I did it, but within months I noticed how small my lips now looked. So now I have filler once or twice a year.

My lips now look great (to me) but I don't see them anymore, or my perfect teeth, now when I look in the mirror I see my eye bags and consider tear trough filler. Or my lines that could be fixed or how hollow my cheeks look now I have lost 3 stone and still not happy.

That's the point, there will always be flaws and if you, like me are the type of person to focus on them, surgery will not fix it. That's a reality you need to be prepared for.