To be in tears over my nose?

[TheLostNights]

I never let anyone take photos of me as I am a very ugly woman. But the thing that bothers me most is my nose. It is very long and pointy. DH took a photo of one of the kids the other day and my side profile is in it and my nose just looked horrific.
Perhaps foolishly, I googled ways to minimise it naturally like with make up etc but came across an article about a man with the world's longest nose. His was 8CM. Or just over. Measured mine just now from top to the bottom and it's just over 7CM. Which now makes me feel even worse. DH started shouting at me saying it's getting like an obsession but I just hate how freak like it makes me look. Everyone else looks beautiful or at least normal. I hate the fact that unless I have a nose job (which I can't afford ) then I am stuck looking like this.

There is no way on earth that you have a nose longer then 8.8cm from bridge to tip. You're already measuring two sides of the triangle to try and make it sound longer (and you've probably taken the starting point higher than they did).

I thought you were measuring your nose from the top of your lip outwards, that's why I said are you sure it's 7CM.

Measuring top to bottom changes that dramatically! 7cm sounds like a very normal measurement?

That's really rude

Stop acting like a helpless victim. If it's that bad figure out a way to fix it! You got this!

This is ridiculous. People find different things attractive.

@DebbieElsden Yes! Let’s not forget Princess Diana and Sarah Jessica Parker.

Yeah that's what I was thinking. If it's making you this unhappy.

what an absolutely stupid comment

How so @moonspiral
It’s a compliment towards op.
And it’s true.
I’m ugly, wanna know how I know?
Because I’ve never been asked or been an a date in my almost 37 years.
That’s a reality of an ugly woman.
Op clearly isin’t one, even if she sees herself as one.
So again, how was I rude?

Were you the one on a thread in the last couple of days calling yourself a swamp monster?

I think you do sound slightly fixated on it. It sounds like you have low self esteem. I would spend a bit of money on some therapy to help you feel more confident. I highly doubt you are ugly or disgusting 🤗

I have wonky eyes, and very uneven boobs. No one is perfect, perfection isn't attractive

I always think this too. I’m off on a tangent here but I remember reading women’s magazines when I was young and there were always stories with women who had terrible self esteem issues- couldn’t go out- lost a leg etc etc and you’d always get to the bit about the husband and then the second husband and the five children etc. sort of undermined the whole tragic tale. In particular because I couldn’t get a date. Two legs and everything.

anyway op- you’re probably fixated on your nose and you’re not seen as a freak or unusual by others. Your husband clearly finds you attractive. We all have things we don’t like about our physical appearance and as you get older it gets even worse! The upside is hopefully you focus less on how you look so it balances out. Body dysmorphia seems to be really common. Don’t get surgery unless you are sure it’s needed. Be guided by your husband and family. My nose is a blobby type of thing. A bit piggy like. I don’t care!

All of these women have perfectly normal, unremarkable noses, including the author of the article.* Illustrates how things we fixate on are imperceptible to others.

(*Ok, Edith Sitwell's IS striking. But not in a bad way! It's impressively straight.)

A lot of people have very long and pointy nose that look witchy and must be 7cm or more if measured but luckily we're not often seen from the side profile but face to face. If side profile is what's bothering you, you have nothing to worry about.

Has anyone ever made fun of your nose in your life? If it's not been a common theme for you, I think you're seeing more than is there. I understand how one can hyperfocus on 'blemishes' though.

You too @Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious , how?
I’ll repeat my comment

It’s a compliment towards op.
And it’s true.
I’m ugly, wanna know how I know?
Because I’ve never been asked or been an a date in my almost 37 years.
That’s a reality of an ugly woman.
Op clearly isin’t one, even if she sees herself as one.
So again, how was I rude?

@GoodChat
This is ridiculous. People find different things attractive.

It’s not ridiculous at all.
Believe it or not, some women are totally unattractive to men.
I’m a living proof of that.

Do not trivialize my life experience.

It's not just rude it's gross .

I come from a family with large, pointy noses. My mum has a nose around the same measurements as you OP but she has always been beautiful. She knows the measurements because her psycho mother made her measure her nose as a teenager - probably because she was jealous of her beauty. She has hang-ups about her nose too but honestly, she has always turned heads.

I'm sure your nose isn't ugly. I have a large-ish pointy nose too and I own it - it makes me look like part of my family and I think the pointy-ness gives me character and I feel attractive. You CAN feel attractive too! Just as you are.

You will look back on photos of yourself one day and realise how harsh you were being on yourself. I hope you feel better about it all soon.

Dp has a Roman nose. It’s gorgeous.

philomena clunk has a gorgeous nose
marina abramovic has a beautiful nose

I have the opposite. A ridiculous small nose and a huge square jaw.

the suggestion of body neutrality is a good one. Look at what your body has done and does. It’s amazing how much our bodies do.

i hate people taking my photo as well.

I have a big nose with a bump in it OP. I wouldn't necessarily choose it, but I don't really mind it. At my auntie's house there's a side profile photo of my lovely nan as a young woman, and she has the same nose as me.

I'm honestly sure that your nose is fine and no-one else thinks about it.

Having said that, if it's bothered you that much for that long, I guess you could consider saving up to get it changed. Not because there's anything wrong with it but because it's making you unhappy. But honestly I'm sure no-one else even thinks twice about your nose.

Not talking about OP am I.

Ugly women don’t get to have husbands, they just don’t. they do

Again, sorry you feel this way, but man wanting to be with you is a proof you are pretty. this is ridiculous.

There was a girl I went to school with who was obsessed with her nose. No one else could see what was wrong with her, but it made her miserable. She had surgery.

It didn't change anything. A year later she had fixated on another (completely normal) body part. Surgery did not change her underlying insecurity, which was the problem all along.

The men you have met are fucking despicable and you are far better off without them 💐

And also who made men the decider of what is "pretty"

OP l have a little pot belly, frizzy untamed hair and loads more beside but l love it because it's mine, and l apply that way of thinking to everything in my life. I am a keen gardener, my garden is by no means perfect but l love it because it's mine. Same goes for my tired and well worn house.
A boy once called me ugly when l was about 15 yrs old, admittedly it took me a while to grow into my looks, since then l have received lots of nice compliments , but what he said hurt and stuck with me for a very long time.
Real beauty has nothing to do with looks, having a kind warm heart that attracts people and animals is what true beauty is about .
A beautiful woman could die tomorrow and nobody miss her because she had a heart of stone. You sound like you have a lovely family around you, you have lots going for you,.I woul.focus on that.

If it’s really that long and it makes you miserable - get a nose job! Start looking into how you can find it, there must be a way.