To be in tears over my nose?

[TheLostNights]

I never let anyone take photos of me as I am a very ugly woman. But the thing that bothers me most is my nose. It is very long and pointy. DH took a photo of one of the kids the other day and my side profile is in it and my nose just looked horrific.
Perhaps foolishly, I googled ways to minimise it naturally like with make up etc but came across an article about a man with the world's longest nose. His was 8CM. Or just over. Measured mine just now from top to the bottom and it's just over 7CM. Which now makes me feel even worse. DH started shouting at me saying it's getting like an obsession but I just hate how freak like it makes me look. Everyone else looks beautiful or at least normal. I hate the fact that unless I have a nose job (which I can't afford ) then I am stuck looking like this.

I've always found prominent noses more attractive. I'm not a fan of delicate noses on adults.

I just want to say I always liked big or long noses on men and women. It's a strong prominent feature.

@EarlGreywithLemon how bloody refreshing! Please post more on MN xx

Aw thank you so much!!

I think it gives my face personality at the end of that day.of nothing else. 😉

How does a bigger nose make anyone look Intelligent?

I used to get really upset about my nose when I saw it from the side- from the front it looks normal but any time I saw a photo/video of myself from a side angle I would hate it and obsess over it as it seemed long and pointy, kind of 'witch-like' in my mind. But I found that changing my hairstyle actually helped- once I got a fringe, it sort of balanced the nose out if you see what I mean? My nose didn't seem to jut out so far anymore. Maybe you could try something similar, see if a different hairstyle would flatter your face/side profile more?

BUT the other thing that helped me to stop obsessing over my nose was seeing a friend that I hadn't seen for ages; she used to complain about her nose a lot, and after meeting her recently, she mentioned that she'd gotten a nose job. I hadn't even noticed! She showed me from the side and showed an old photo to compare, and I could see the difference, but the fact that I hadn't noticed until then really drove home how much less obvious these things are to other people. I think we all tend to fixate on our own flaws and build them up to be much bigger/ more obvious than they really are! I'm sure no-one else gives your nose a second thought, try not to let it upset you so much... I know easier said than done!

Op my nose is bigger than yours (just measured it!) and worse, mine is bulbous... I look like a Muppet 'Happy Honker'! AND it will get bigger as my family all have the same nose so I know my future.
Two of my 4 kids have inherited my nose.. it sits better on my son, and my daughter occasionally complains about the nose she got.. but dear lord she is a stunning, elegant woman and hers looks positively regal!

I think it's fine to want to change it if it makes you so unhappy, (I've learned to live with mine) but the truth is no one else sees it the way you do... I've learned that! I know that people see me as the woman with that large fluffy dog, that daft woman at soft play who looks too old to be a Mum but they aren't sure I'm old enough to be Granny (I am), I'M the one who sees me as 'the one with the massive nose' No-one else seems to notice or care.

Please be kinder to yourself!

^^ Both of these.

OP, I’m really sorry to hear that your appearance is causing you so much upset. If your concerns regarding your nose impact your daily life and are becoming obsessional (as your DH suggested) I would urge you to ask your GP for a referral to your local community mental health team (CMHT). Some of what you are describing resembles body dysmorphia and considering this as a first course of action might be most beneficial for your wellbeing and longer term happiness. Wishing you well.

Don’t be ashamed! How you feel is how you feel. But absolutely honestly, it doesn’t even look like a big nose to me!!

@IKnowItsNotMine you are incredibly kind

That's not ridiculous. Anything to make you happier and more confident absolutely !!!

I’m not sure if you mean op ot life in general.
In op’s case, clearly not.
Life in general, of course.
It shoudn’t matter, but the way that people are, it sadly does.
It’s laughable to claim anything else.
There is no way anyone is that blind.

I reckon your nose is perfectly fine.

Plenty of actresses and singers with bigger noses and they don't change them and they have the money to do it. Barbra Streisand, lady Gaga, Bette Midler. To name a few.

My nose is has a slight hump and longer tip and if I could be arsed, I'd have it made a little more even but so far I'm not that motivated to and I've had other cosmetic surgery.

Take a look when you're out at all the different noses people have and I bet you don't think any less of them. They're just regular people, just like you.

OP, have you noticed that all the women who have posted pictures of themselves to show their supposedly big noses are gorgeous??

I don't have a big nose and they're all prettier than I am, no joke.

I agree about a lot of actresses etc having bigger than average noses and being attractive. You don't need to be conventionally beautiful to be attractive. Look at Rossy de Palma. She's very unusual looking but is an actress and model. But has amazing presence and confidence. Or at least appears so?
Some faces are very symmetrical and considered perfect but can actually be boring.

I hope you either find peace within yourself OP or get help to change (inside or out)

Rossy de Palma for anyone who doesn't know.

I just looked her up.

Ooh. She isn't conventionally beautiful but my goodness, I can't stop staring. That is exactly how I imagine a classic Roman woman to look, or Cleopatra (if she were lighter skinned). I know "striking" isn't always actually complimentary, but she really is. Not many people look like that and I love looking at her. I can see her in so many roles, all deep and interesting ones.

I'm starting to want a bigger nose!!!

Op I hear you
i understand that surgery isn’t an option, but even if it was if you’re an insecure person you are likely to find the next thing to hate. I grew up hating my hair- it was so hideous, big and frizzy. As an adult, I’ve learned to tame it and wear it in its natural curly state- I love it now. However! I now hate my teeth and my cross bite. I read lots of posts about those who have had braces and it’s been life changing and others who have hated the change in face shape etc.
My point is that confidence really does come from within and I suggest you doing rule out surgery but in the meantime while you find the funds, you get some talking therapy or read some self help books. Look at people like Lady Gaga who have a big nose but are amazing in every way.
i was watching some 90s music videos with my daughter this week actually and she commented on how pretty everyone was before everyone had access to enhancements
Im sorry you are finding this so hard.

Absolutely gorgeous.

I must have a skewed idea of what a big nose is because most of these pictures don't look like large noses at all to me. Not tiny button ones, but I look at the pictures and don't think the noses are in any way too large for the face.

Omg that’s just so funny. Exactly what I need today. Very stressed at the moment. I used a dress making soft tape measure.

I'm with you. I think some noses are more prominent because people have slimmer/more defined faces but there's nothing here that looks unusually large

I have a very noticeable nose bump OP and spent my childhood crying hysterically, demanding answers from my parents of when I was dropped as a baby. They swore they’d never dropped me. I understand your feelings, all I will say is that there are different degrees of hating something about yourself. As a child it was awful for me but it’s not now- I have accepted it as me. You know how people always stare at their own flaws in the mirror and others have often not noticed because they’re also staring at their own? My nose bump is so large that people can’t deny it, it’s from every angle. But they don’t care, why would they?
You can learn to live with it, like everything else in life. Like you, I’d never change mine because it’s a fully functional nose and I’m happy to have one that works. :)
My daughter has inherited my nose though and has commented on it a couple times already… that makes my heart sink. But she seems fine with it because she’s used to mine. 😂 😂 It’s just our look and we are unique.