Page 9 | To be in tears over my nose?

TheLostNights · 2023-04-22T17:21:48+00:00

I never let anyone take photos of me as I am a very ugly woman. But the thing that bothers me most is my nose. It is very long and pointy. DH took a photo of one of the kids the other day and my side profile is in it and my nose just looked horrific. Perhaps foolishly, I googled ways to minimise it naturally like with make up etc but came across an article about a man with the world's longest nose. His was 8CM. Or just over. Measured mine just now from top to the bottom and it's just over 7CM. Which now makes me feel even worse. DH started shouting at me saying it's getting like an obsession but I just hate how freak like it makes me look. Everyone else looks beautiful or at least normal. I hate the fact that unless I have a nose job (which I can't afford ) then I am stuck looking like this.

rosiepozis · 22/04/2023 21:26

Not sure if this has already been posted, but OP, the guy with the longest nose was 7.5 INCHES! Not centimetres!
7cm may well be long, but it is not outside the realm of normal!

NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs · 22/04/2023 21:27

GU9 · 22/04/2023 20:11

You're completely contradicting yourself.

You're telling people they aren't ugly because they have husbands, and then in the same post say 'ugly people do exist' and it's a taboo subject.

And no, I wasn't harassing you ffs. i posted a reply on that thread.

So no, I'm not twisting your words. You're doing that on your own.

why do you think a woman's attractiveness is measured on the number of shags they've had or if they're married? You seem fixated on it. It's really odd.

You're telling people they aren't ugly because they have husbands,

Yep,

and then in the same post say 'ugly people do exist' and it's a taboo subject.

And yep, how does any of this cancel the other one? This is a you problem.
Pretty women get relationships, ugly one’s don’t, and we exist.

And no, I wasn't harassing you ffs. i posted a reply on that thread.

I’ll take it as you did.

So no, I'm not twisting your words. You're doing that on your own.

You’re doing it right now.

why do you think a woman's attractiveness is measured on the number of shags they've had or if they're married? You seem fixated on it. It's really odd.

I’ve never said anything about shags.
I have talked about this on two threads, that someone else started, and since I know a thing or two about it, I’ve commented.

Cheesecakeandwineinasuitcase · 22/04/2023 21:28

Life is short. It matters how you feel about it and is obviously causing you a lot of upset. Definitely consider getting a loan or saving or a combination of both. You will feel like a weight has been lifted.

mellicauli · 22/04/2023 21:28

Even if you got this nose sorted (I bet you look fine, by the way. A big nose can look very attractive & your husband obviously thinks it's OK), every woman here is on a trajectory away from perfection.

You need to reconcile yourself to who you are, embrace your strengths and recognise that you are just fine. You are an ordinary woman, not a princess or a model or an actress. The way you are going you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of self-loathing and dragging everyone down with you. What a waste.

It's a like waking up at 30 and being horrified that you are not a millionaire. To me, it's a bit childish and I understand your husband's frustration.

moonspiral · 22/04/2023 21:30

Pretty women get relationships, ugly one’s don’t, and we exist. speak for yourself.

NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs · 22/04/2023 21:31

CandlelightGlow · 22/04/2023 20:16

Stop being an incel, it's incredibly toxic and self desctructive. It always paints a completely ridiculous picture of the prospects and lives of conventionally unattractive people.

Ugly people can and do have relationships, there have been ugly people forever and if you're really as ugly as you say, the chances are one or both of your parents were not oil paintings but clearly ended up finding somebody to have a baby with.

I'm not minimising your experience or claiming that you don't find yourself very unattractive. But that just does not in the real world correlate with no chance at finding fulfilling relationships.

I see your incel ideology and it's just not something that should be tolerated, sorry

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You are disgusting.
I wish no violence or forced sex or whatever on anyone.
How dare you call me that!

All I wanted to do was help op, tell her why she can’t actually be that ugly and the reason why I know that.
And all I got for my kindness was people calling me horrible things!

You should be shamed of yourself!

I’m sorry if tellimg the truth that looks matter, a lot, is sensitive topi, but that is on you.

Youdoyoubabe · 22/04/2023 21:34

You can't be that ugly! You pulled your hubby!

Try to be proud of your immense sniffer!!

NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs · 22/04/2023 21:40

monsteramunch · 22/04/2023 20:30

Yeah this is a very important distinction and is what people have taken issue with when it comes to what you said @NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs

Can you see the difference?

Saying 'genuinely ugly women never get married' simply isn't true and it's offensive and hurtful to people who are single and feel they are genuinely ugly. It will also make them feel shit and hopeless.

Nobody has denied your personal experience, they've said it's not a universal one for everyone who could be considered 'ugly'.

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Okey single maybe, right now perhaps.

For those who went and made it all about yourself:
Have you bever been asked on a date?
Have you ever been on a date, had a relationship - even a short one?
If anyone of those are a yes, then this absolutely has nothing to do with you.

Saying 'genuinely ugly women never get married' simply isn't true and it's offensive and hurtful to people who are single and feel they are genuinely ugly.

Bro, this is me. I’m literally talking about my truth. I am the ugly one, who never has dad any interest, Of course it’s painful. Of course it makes me feel worthless, unlivable, wondering why am I even here - to suffer my life all alone until I die. And for what? Nothing.

Please don’t put ’’ on the word ugly.
It makes it look like it’s not an actual thing, I can’t air quote my ugly looks away.

icecreamisforwintertoo · 22/04/2023 21:40

Rinkydinkydoodle · 22/04/2023 19:15

Hello! I have just measured. 7.5cm long. I sort of knew, my brother used to call me Concordia. He is impressively lacking in self awareness, his nose puts mine in the shade (it literally could, though mine could
also be a sundial)

My dad’s is 8cm, he could be a world record holder tbh, he used to get into fights about it (think Cyrano de Bergerac but just punching people in beer gardens instead of poetry under balconies).

I sometimes get a bit dismayed when I’m caught in profile in photos simply because I look like if I turn too fast I could easily stab someone in the eye. I can turn lights off with it, and turn the pages of a book. It was great when I was bfing.

I don’t know whether it’s despite or because of the Nose, but I’ve also met lots of people throughout my life who’ve told me I’m striking, distinguished, elegant, all that crap. Someone once told me it makes me look clever. But honestly, it’s not beautiful, you want to see this fucking undeniably huge nose of mine. I comfort myself it’s now all that’s holding my face up, like those triangular supports they put up on the facades of listed buildings while they work behind them 😂

I have always wished I had a more standard facial construction, so I can understand how you feel. It’s all jokes, but what you’re describing isn’t helping you right now. You don’t need fixing, I absolutely promise you, and I know without seeing you that your nose is not making you look disgusting or anything of the sort. Noses don’t make people ugly, they’re just one part of your shell, the luck of the cosmic draw - in fact, I’ve just realised I am drawn to people with strong noses.

But how you feel is important, of course it is. Has this sort of urgent need to have it fixed come on suddenly? Has anything else been changing about your appearance or in your life more generally?

I love your comment by the way. I feel like we we should start a “Concorde club” with all the very cool larger nosed ladies on this thread

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/04/2023 21:41

Wiccan · 22/04/2023 20:30

Not judging it I love friends , just stating if I changed my nose and my daughter gets the genetic nose what if I don't have the cash for her OP , she has to put up with nose I hated ?

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Well yes, I guess so. The only way to change your nose is with surgery. What alternative is there?

So if she's so unhappy it's affecting her quality of life, it may be worth doing everything possible to get the money and prioritising it over other things.

Bibittybobittyboop · 22/04/2023 21:41

I love how people's noses are so different. I especially love really big noses. Maybe because plastic surgery makes it possible to change that unique feature into something mainstream that many can have.

I love the confidence and acceptance of people who appear so comfortable with their nose, especially when it attracts a first look. Kind of like I love the confidence of people with, say, a facial birthmark or a large mole, who could have had it removed but leave it because it is who they are, and they accept it.

This is not to say that it is wrong to change things about yourself, or to want to, but there is a beauty in our irregular.

My3cents1 · 22/04/2023 21:43

When I read these posts I think of a certain person. A person with so much confidence, swagger and coolness that when in his presence you literally thought he was 10ft tall. When asked why he wore heels, he didn’t answer because I’m only 5’2, tiny, skinny dude and I got picked on for my height. His answer “cos the ladies love it”. He didn’t let his height and size hold him back. He owned it because he was confident. It all really does comes from the inside. Rest easy Prince 💜

alltoowe · 22/04/2023 21:43

I've got a big nose! I was bullied all through high school and ended up very depressed. For some reason though I never ever got round to getting it fixed! I love it now. I genuinely love that it's different. Taken a while to feel like that but it would not change a single thing about me as a person if I was to fix it.

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NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs · 22/04/2023 21:43

moonspiral · 22/04/2023 21:30

Pretty women get relationships, ugly one’s don’t, and we exist. speak for yourself.

Well yeah, I am.
I’ve been saying that all along.
That’s why I know.
Did you really think that was a gotcha or an insult?

TeaAndCock · 22/04/2023 21:44

What's wrong with a big nose anyway?

Powderherface · 22/04/2023 21:47

TheLostNights · 22/04/2023 18:54

I can't exaggerate numbers sadly.
I just measured from the top of my nose to the tip, that's 6.5cm. Then right down to the base so below my lip, 8cm.
I'm afraid I won't post a photo as I know it looks awful and people's comments will only make me feel even worse.

Where did you measure from? Is the top of your nose from the bit between your eyes where it starts to come out and then measuring down the middle of your nose (and face, towards your chin) stopping at the tip? Mine is also 6.5cm and it's probably a bit strong, but not hideous....

or did you mean from the side of nostril where it meets the cheek to the middle of the tip? (and then same again down the other side to edge of nostril) If that was 6-7cm each side I'd agree that was quite large.

moonspiral · 22/04/2023 21:49

NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs · 22/04/2023 21:43

Well yeah, I am.
I’ve been saying that all along.
That’s why I know.
Did you really think that was a gotcha or an insult?

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No, you're not, you're trying to lump yourself in with all other ugly women and speak for them too.

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/04/2023 21:53

@NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs , I've seen you before and this is obviously something that's very much in your headspace right now.

Did you name change recently? What was the heartbreak? Is this really a lifelong thing or did something happen more recently to cause it?

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TheLostNights · 22/04/2023 21:56

I just got the tape measure, started at the top and measured down the length of my nose. I think it's the pointy bit at the end that makes it so prominent.
Women who are pretty and have average or good looks probably won't understand how it feels to have such features. Like those who have normal sized noses, lips, boobs, face shape etc. All mine are either too big or too small. I will never be pretty or average looking. I wish it didn't matter. I know it's immature. I have just always longed to look normal or just OK.

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Mochaccino99 · 22/04/2023 21:58

Youdoyoubabe · 22/04/2023 21:34

You can't be that ugly! You pulled your hubby!

Try to be proud of your immense sniffer!!

OMG what, how do you know her "hubby" is not even uglier/thick as 2 short planks/a mean and nasty person? Or more likely that her OP is lovely and her DH actually values her for something other than the size of her nose?? Some of the comments on this thread are ridiculous, as if only good looking women have husbands?! And all the husbands are after is a nice neat nose...
OP, I bet your nose is just fine!

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/04/2023 21:59

TheLostNights · 22/04/2023 21:56

I just got the tape measure, started at the top and measured down the length of my nose. I think it's the pointy bit at the end that makes it so prominent.
Women who are pretty and have average or good looks probably won't understand how it feels to have such features. Like those who have normal sized noses, lips, boobs, face shape etc. All mine are either too big or too small. I will never be pretty or average looking. I wish it didn't matter. I know it's immature. I have just always longed to look normal or just OK.

I simply don't believe that there isn't a single part of your body or face that's average size or that people pass you on the street and think you're not normal.

Who told you all this?

BadNomad · 22/04/2023 22:00

Genuinely, why does it matter if you are not pretty? Who is it that you want to see you as pretty? And why? What would you gain from being pretty?

NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs · 22/04/2023 22:02

moonspiral · 22/04/2023 21:49

No, you're not, you're trying to lump yourself in with all other ugly women and speak for them too.

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You said you’re ’no looker’ that could mean average.
Since you’re married, be happy.
Stay out of stuff that isin’t even about you.
You can choose not to be offended - since you know, this clearly isin’t about you.

Wiccan · 22/04/2023 22:02

What does pretty mean anyway ?

moonspiral · 22/04/2023 22:03

NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs · 22/04/2023 22:02

You said you’re ’no looker’ that could mean average.
Since you’re married, be happy.
Stay out of stuff that isin’t even about you.
You can choose not to be offended - since you know, this clearly isin’t about you.

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You know nothing about my appearance.