Friend told daughter to 'fuck off and die'

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My daughter and her friend are both 10, unbeknownst to me yesterday whilst I was in the shower, they pranked called a few of my friends. I found out because one of my friends text me to tell me. I said no more and that was that.

This morning daughter says to me, 'when we prank called your friend, 'Pete' he told us to 'fuck off and die' three times.'

I wasn't really sure how to handle the situation as they obviously shouldn't have been prank calling but also I think it's pretty obvious they are children.

So I text Pete and the messages went like this -

Me - Hey did you say to Amelia to go fuck herself and die yesterday, she said her and her friend prank called you yesterday, I didn’t know. Did you not realise it was her I presume? Xx

Pete - I didn't until she said her name!!! My intuition was right!!!

I don't really know what he means but I feel really uncomfortable about this.

Am I being dramatic? Should I leave it at that? Is it their own fault for prank calling?

I don't remember my 10yrs olds doing this stupid shit. I definitely would be more concerned with dealing with my child than the repsonse that they got.

Prank calls are annoying and they shouldn't have been doing it (and yes I did it when I was younger too). Just forget it and move on.

Beautiful! 😂

Yeah, sounds like mother like daughter!

If she wasn't bothered, she was telling you because she was either boasting/found it funny or was trying to get your friend into trouble - which you fell for! 🤦‍♀️

Has she apologised yet? Or have you at least apologised on her behalf and dished out consequences to her?

That would have been more appropriate action than challenging her victims blunt, harmless, but not unreasonable reaction to a prank call from someone he didn't know who it was.

So by saying 'my intuition was right' he already knew it was your 10 year old daughter.

To reply Fuck Off And Die to any child, let alone the child of a friend is nasty. To repeat it 3 times is quite frankly unhinged. He sounds an arsehole. What sort of person gets so angry at being asked by a child if they want to buy a cat for £1,50. That is not normal behaviour by any stretch of the imagination.

99% of kids go through a prank calling phase, yes even the children of posters on here that think their little darlings are incapable of such behaviour.

I've heard of people making prank calls.

Was on the receiving end of them at the girls' hall of residence, as I was right near the telephone. Not nice. Not nice for them as I either gave them a mouthful or blew a very shrill whistle down the phone. I do so hope I didn't hurt their tender feelings or their hearing.

Had my daughter the recipient of them after the Queen Bee ejected her from their friend groups hive. She got told (sans swearing), when I picked up one day, and so did her dear little mother too, when I told her what her daughter had been doing, and in no uncertain terms that she was to parent her daughter and make sure she ceased and desisted.

’Fuck off and die’ is a reasonable response to repeated harassing calls - he didn’t know it was your DD so it’s not personal.
She should be made to apologise to discourage her from doing it again.

Pete must have known it was your phone, surely almost all phones have caller ID?

You do stupid shit, you sometimes get a shitty response.

🤷‍♀️ They prank called him

It’s not like he knew it was your daughter, he’d have assumed it was a teen or some out of control bratty kid.

The life lesson here is if you do things to annoy people they may retaliate.

Don’t be precious OP.

Your kid was being silly, if they were putting on accents then it might not have been obvious how old they were, they could have been 15/16 for all he knew.

Pete is saying that he didn't know it was your daughter until she said it was and that his intuition was right that it was a stupid prank call. Their prank call wasn't malicious but this is what can happen when you do silly things and pretend to be someone you're not. There's a lesson for them to learn here but you don't seem to be able to see it.

You're angry that Pete told a random (as far as he was concerned) prank caller to fuck off and die because he did not want 100 more prank calls that day because someone thought it was funny. You can't control Pete's behaviour towards prank calls but you can teach your daughter that if you do silly things like this it can come back and bite you on the bum even if it's not intended maliciously and is a one off joke - other people cannot read your mind and know your intentions.

It was go fuck yourself and die

Anyone who wastes my time with prank calls or scam calls will get told to fuck off.

If this is real then you seem awfully calm about your daughter's massive disrespect of you by using your identity to call your friends and dick them around.

Get an actual grip! There is no indication anyone is actually going to kill your child. It's an expression of annoyance not an actual threat with intent - particularly because at the point of saying it Pete didn't even know it was your dd! Even your dd doesn't seem bothered so not sure what possible rationale you'd have for 'taking it further'.

The only further action you need to take, which it doesn't sound like you've done, is apologise to Pete and all of the other people your daughter called, and punish her for doing so.

Suicide should never be joked about, ever. I can understand fuck off but the "and die" part was out of line and I personally would no longer be friends with that person. Kids are dumb and make dumb choices but we were all kids once and we all probably prank called people at some point in our lives. A prank call is not worth dying for. If all they said was fuck off I'd be embarrassed and have my kid apologise but the "and die" part would be a deal breaker for me.

Team Pete here. Prank callers get what’s coming to them. Amelia should get on the phone and apologise. Fuck off and die might not be what you want your daughter to hear but it’s a fairly common expression to use when you’re pissed off with someone and shouldn’t be taken literally. She wouldn’t be hearing it if she wasn’t prank calling people.

10 is old enough to know right from wrong,yes you are being dramatic.Your delightful sounding child needs to apologise to Pete.

I can totally see from that Ew please seek help🙄 why you would be more bothered about what someone said in response to a orank call than get your kids to apologise

If you don't want people to say things to your children when they prank call them get them to not prank call instead of complaining your friend didnt have oerfevt manners and wasnt as polite as they could have been

Does it really matter? if you dd is such a naive sweet 10 year old 🙄 she won't have registered the difference.

Had she or you apologised to those she pranked yet?

It's harsh but your DD needs to learn that prank calls are not OK, there are so many situations where people need to be close to thier phone. Honestly if I had gone through all the effort of getting through to the doctors or 111 and was waiting for a call back I would be tempted to tell the prankster to fuck off, probably fuck off and die if I was waiting for a call regarding my DCs.

If your daughter doesn't want to hear offensive phrases, she shouldn't invade someone's space the way she did. Likewise OP, if you don't want your daughter to hear offensive phrases, put a better lock on your phone!

Now you’re trying to increase the emotional leverage to gain sympathy. Ain’t working
The kids were completely out of order. Be a parent set boundaries and set a sanction for their inappropriate behaviour. Sanction like no phone time

Your take from this is to be upset with Paul? You need to lock down your phone and discipline your daughter.

My daughter and her friend prank called me when she was at a sleepover once. I sort of knew it was them and I laughed, told them not to do it again. No way would ever tell anyone to go fuck yourself and die. Not even a scammer or a telemarketer. That says a lot about your friend's character.

I was with you, but you lost me here. He clearly wasn’t intent of killing your child and no one thinks a child should die for making prank calls. You took that too far.

What deal has Pete broken?

Did he make a deal to be the perfectly behaved victim if pranked?