Friend told daughter to 'fuck off and die'

[leepingup]

My daughter and her friend are both 10, unbeknownst to me yesterday whilst I was in the shower, they pranked called a few of my friends. I found out because one of my friends text me to tell me. I said no more and that was that.

This morning daughter says to me, 'when we prank called your friend, 'Pete' he told us to 'fuck off and die' three times.'

I wasn't really sure how to handle the situation as they obviously shouldn't have been prank calling but also I think it's pretty obvious they are children.

So I text Pete and the messages went like this -

Me - Hey did you say to Amelia to go fuck herself and die yesterday, she said her and her friend prank called you yesterday, I didn’t know. Did you not realise it was her I presume? Xx

Pete - I didn't until she said her name!!! My intuition was right!!!

I don't really know what he means but I feel really uncomfortable about this.

Am I being dramatic? Should I leave it at that? Is it their own fault for prank calling?

@leepingup Perfect age to nip this in the bud. Your daughter was in the wrong

It was a bizarre and dark turn indeed! And revealing of the posters who dreamed it up and agreed with it, rather than girls.

Yes this thread has became bonkers and such a shit show that all I can do is laugh about it. I've not been following closely but seeing the comments suggesting my 10 year old was pretending to be a prostitute was quite disturbing I must say. But I pity these people, as they must have very dark thoughts it this is where their mind goes to. I shudder.

I think we're all just enjoying watching OP applying zero parenting skills and mouthing off at the posters pointing it out.

I can't think where the brilliant Amelia gets it from.

If this is entertainment for you, then I kindly suggest you get yourself a hobby.

Only on Mumsnet do you get people calling your ten year old child all the names under the sun. And when you retaliate in the same manner, get accused of 'mouthing off'. It's like being pushed and pushed and pushed, but when you react, you're the bad guy.

I might take up prank calling... apparently it's the done thing.

@DHsPoorBack so witty 🥱

My son and his cousin did this exact same
thing... they were both punished for it and if they had been sworn at then that's the consequences of their silly actions... children so silly things of course but as parents our job is to discipline them and make them aware their actions have consequences.
I have known people to call the police over prank calls.

My DC, same age, pranked called a random number he and his friend found on some paper at school. He told me because he's 10 and didn't realise he had done wrong. He thought it was a funny thing to tell me about. I told him why what he did was wrong. I told him never to do it again. I told him all the different things people might think on recieving a prank call. I explained he doesn't know who is picking up. He could have scared an elderly person. He could have angered someone who could have yelled at him, been rude to him etc... He now understands never to do it again

How people respond to prank calls is driven by their emotions (fear? Anger? Confusion? Irritation?) at the time. The respondent is never to blame, always the caller. Kids need to learn never to do it again. I don't think 'Pete' is at any fault. My elderly mum used to respond to prank calls by sounding her personal alarm down the phone - likely to pretty much temporarily deafen anyone on the end of the call. Thats her right. The prank caller is always wrong

At ten years old this reaction would have made my day- we’d have been howling laughing 🤣and no way would I have told my mum what we’d been doing!!

Whilst this is absolutely correct, it's entirely wasted on OP, who thinks brilliant little Amelia did not wrong. And has no intention of parenting her child. In fact it's Pete she is angry with, and has taken it out on.

In fairness OP, I would say that’s exactly how Pete must have felt. He was pushed and reacted…

I told him why what he did was wrong. I told him never to do it again. I told him all the different things people might think on recieving a prank call. I explained he doesn't know who is picking up. He could have scared an elderly person

You mean you taught him what he did was wrong? You didn’t immediately phone the person he had pranked and have a go at them? You didn’t make a thread on MN telling everyone what an angel he is but how horrible the call receiver is? I’m shocked, shocked I tell you 😉

Please copy and paste where I said my daughter was an angel? Also where I had a go at my friend? I asked him a question. I then apologised and then we moved on. You know, like most normal people do in the real world.

£1.50 for a cat ! Hardly offensive

🐈‍⬛ begs to differ.

oh, and I also thought the little prankers were likely to be working the ‘pussy = cat but also = something rude’ discovery. Not quite the same as pretending to be sex workers, just juvenile and profoundly irritating.
Team Pete here too.

You moved on but started a thread on here about it🙄.

Being prank called is really really horrible and scary for some people.

My best friend's child does it to me sometimes and my anxiety goes through the roof as they all seem to prank with the same thing of some angry person shouting down the phone. She pranked called me on the day of my Dad's funeral (she is young and obviously didnt know).

I would be making sure that your children are prank calling your friends and if mine ever did this i would be having serious words with them rather than my friend who shouted down the phone!

I would also make them apologise.

It really isn't that obvious when you are on the receiving end of the calls.

I honestly cried when my friend's daughter did this to me.

I also think that you dont know what that other person is dealing with at that time and the last thing anyone needs is a prank caller. It is horrible.

Your daugther should stop doing this and hang out with her friend and it would worry me if my daughter decided that instead of doing - tiktoks, hanging out with her friends, playing etc that they would go into my phone and decide to prank call people.