Friend told daughter to 'fuck off and die'

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My daughter and her friend are both 10, unbeknownst to me yesterday whilst I was in the shower, they pranked called a few of my friends. I found out because one of my friends text me to tell me. I said no more and that was that.

This morning daughter says to me, 'when we prank called your friend, 'Pete' he told us to 'fuck off and die' three times.'

I wasn't really sure how to handle the situation as they obviously shouldn't have been prank calling but also I think it's pretty obvious they are children.

So I text Pete and the messages went like this -

Me - Hey did you say to Amelia to go fuck herself and die yesterday, she said her and her friend prank called you yesterday, I didn’t know. Did you not realise it was her I presume? Xx

Pete - I didn't until she said her name!!! My intuition was right!!!

I don't really know what he means but I feel really uncomfortable about this.

Am I being dramatic? Should I leave it at that? Is it their own fault for prank calling?

I'm with Pete

So have you told your child she can't prank call people? Or apologised? If not, it's your parenting that needs to be checked. 10 or not, she's old enough to understand you don't prank call people. He obviously doesn't want them to die, he's used a phrase because he was pissed off

Prank calls can actually be classed as criminal. Extreme circumstances but if they are doing this at 10 it could escalate.

I wouldn't challenge Pete.

I'd teach your DD how to behave.

Maybe Pete went OTT to discourage future prank calls...

Maybe he's a big Simpsons fan and channelling his inner Moe Szyslak.

How do you think he should have handled the call, OP?

It is if they move onto the emergency services. Which unfortunately some kids/adults do.

She needs to learn this is completely unacceptable

Team Pete here, too.
Getting prank calls isn't funny. For all you know, Pete could have been waiting for an important phone call.
"Fuck off and die" is a bit over the top, but he wasn't actually wishing your daughter dead, you know.

If they're old enough to make prank calls - they're old enough to deal with the consequences. Being told to Fuck off and die is entirely appropriate. You don't know how Pete's day is, his social anxiety state at this time, if he's been harassed and let's get this straight, pranks are harassment in the past.

I fucking hate pranks. Loathe the twats making video about them and making it an 'in' thing. If my children were prank calling anyone they'd be making one last phonecall to apologise, before losing their phones until I felt them old enough to be trusted with one. It would be a month at the least, possibly a lot longer.

Why did they even have access to your unlocked phone? Poor parenting.

It’s a pretty well known expression when people are being a nuisance. The issue here is your kids prank calling. Not your friends reaction. Best case it upsets her and she thinks twice before doing it again.

did you even apologise?

Presumably Pete thought it was you? Confused.

Your daughter should apologize and that should be the end of it really.

Stop making excuses. Your DD needs to face the consequences of her behaviour. Of course your friend didn't mean she should die.... you can explain that to her. What if they had prank called an old person or someone with MH issues that had dire consequences for those people? you can reassure her re the 'and die comments of course, but please stop portraying her as a victim. Children are criminally responsible from 10, time for her to grow up and you to stop making excuses for her

Your dd and her friends should not be calling men.
His response is irrelevant. Though you're lucky it wasn't 'Come round and I'll make you happy.'

And I've never heard of children making 'prank calls'. I'm a mother, grandmother and taught for over 20 years. Never heard of it being a thing.

Pete sounds great.

People are sick of shitty scam calls.

And there's no way they phoned numerous people solely while you were in the shower.

They have learnt that their actions have consequences. I think if you prank call people you can’t then moan if you get verbal abuse.

You do realise he didn't mean it literally right? It's an expression "fuck off and die".

I see there's no mention of an apology ,at least from you ,in that text.

Hopefully your kid learned some boundaries as you don't seem to have put any in place.

Have you actually told your daughter to apologise to the people she called?

So your daughter says that he told her to "fuck off & die"?

Yet you asked him if he told her to "go fuck herself"?

What a load of bollocks.

Stop making excuses for your child and start parenting. Ffs I can't believe you msgd your friend.

"put on an English accent"

So the brat kid disguised her voice ?

Ew. Please seek help.

Is that you again Amelia.

Stop using mummy's phone.

I have a 10 yo dd, I can’t imagine her making prank calls.

I also cannot imagine why Pete felt the need to say fuck off and die three times to little
kids on the phone. The correct response would have just been to hang up, or yes please ill
take two £1.50 cats. Fuck and die is aggressive and quite base. No one I know would have behaved that way.

The children were rude & intrusive prompting a brusque swearie reply. Tough. It’s their fault. Lesson learned don’t be a prankster without anticipating a brusque response. You need to speak your child about manners,boundaries and consequences of inappropriate behaviour.