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Friend told daughter to 'fuck off and die'

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leepingup · 16/04/2023 17:20

My daughter and her friend are both 10, unbeknownst to me yesterday whilst I was in the shower, they pranked called a few of my friends. I found out because one of my friends text me to tell me. I said no more and that was that.

This morning daughter says to me, 'when we prank called your friend, 'Pete' he told us to 'fuck off and die' three times.'

I wasn't really sure how to handle the situation as they obviously shouldn't have been prank calling but also I think it's pretty obvious they are children.

So I text Pete and the messages went like this -

Me - Hey did you say to Amelia to go fuck herself and die yesterday, she said her and her friend prank called you yesterday, I didn’t know. Did you not realise it was her I presume? Xx

Pete - I didn't until she said her name!!! My intuition was right!!!

I don't really know what he means but I feel really uncomfortable about this.

Am I being dramatic? Should I leave it at that? Is it their own fault for prank calling?

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SecretiveSquirrel · 16/04/2023 17:46

Having read the thread, OP I see why your daughter did this. You sound like one of those indulgent parents where your kid can do no wrong. I expect you won’t learn anything from this thread.

Focus on teaching your daughter the difference between black and white. Ten is very young for this behaviour. Hopefully an adult in her life can guide her to learning from this.

sadsack78 · 16/04/2023 17:46

It sounds like a massive overreaction on his part. If I knew or suspected I was being prank called, by an adult or a child, I think I would hang up long before I said that to anyone 😮

it depends on your past history with this friend. Is he touchy? one of those people who thinks everyone is out to get them/ make a fool of them?

Now all I can think about is Bart prank calling Moe in The Simpsons😂

SemperIdem · 16/04/2023 17:46

Your daughter sounds like a poorly behaved little madam

sanityisamyth · 16/04/2023 17:46

They should know better at the age of 10 to not pull stupid pranks. I'd have told them to fuck off too.

PussBilledDuckyPlait · 16/04/2023 17:48

I'm on Team Pete here, I'm afraid, OP.

pookiedoodlepuppy · 16/04/2023 17:48

Pete can say whatever he likes to people who prank call him , your daughter on the other hand , you are responsible for her behaviour and tell her to stop whining about what Pete said .

MrsMitford3 · 16/04/2023 17:48

leepingup · 16/04/2023 17:20

My daughter and her friend are both 10, unbeknownst to me yesterday whilst I was in the shower, they pranked called a few of my friends. I found out because one of my friends text me to tell me. I said no more and that was that.

This morning daughter says to me, 'when we prank called your friend, 'Pete' he told us to 'fuck off and die' three times.'

I wasn't really sure how to handle the situation as they obviously shouldn't have been prank calling but also I think it's pretty obvious they are children.

So I text Pete and the messages went like this -

Me - Hey did you say to Amelia to go fuck herself and die yesterday, she said her and her friend prank called you yesterday, I didn’t know. Did you not realise it was her I presume? Xx

Pete - I didn't until she said her name!!! My intuition was right!!!

I don't really know what he means but I feel really uncomfortable about this.

Am I being dramatic? Should I leave it at that? Is it their own fault for prank calling?

To be honest the first thing my message to Pete would have been was "I am really sorry if amelia prank called you -I had no idea"

It's a prank call for a reason and I think you are angry at the wrong person here

MoroccanRoseHChurch · 16/04/2023 17:48

Massive over reaction on your part. You know he wasn’t literally telling someone to die, right? It’s just language. Take a chill pill. (See what I did there).

sadsack78 · 16/04/2023 17:48

And all jokes aside, it might be good to encourage your daughter to give him an apology, especially if he's a friend you see often.

I'm sure the prank calls were innocent and she might not do it again but it would be wise to nip it in the bud. That kind of behaviour can turn into bullying later on.

Itakecreaminmycoffee · 16/04/2023 17:48

Her friend apparently put on an English accent and said, 'would you like a cat for £1.50'

I can’t stop laughing at this!🤣

Americano75 · 16/04/2023 17:49

Fuck off? - yeah, not brilliant but kind of understandable.

Fuck off and die? - delightful.

Kids are twats sometimes but a grown man should know better. Still, chances are your daughter won't be doing prank calls again.

LizzieVereker · 16/04/2023 17:49

Am I being dramatic? Yes. Too dramatic with Pete but not dramatic enough with your daughter. It’s a shame he used that language with her but that’s the risk her own behaviour opened up.

Should I leave it at that? No, your daughter should apologise and you need to explain to her why her behaviour put her at risk as well as inconveniencing a friend of yours.
Is it their own fault for prank calling? Yes but that doesn’t mean it was nice for her to hear. She needs to know that if she telephones adults who are relative strangers, without identifying herself, they might react badly. If she starts phoning or connecting with actual strangers online she could get into very serious situations so you need make that boundary very clear to her.

mainsfed · 16/04/2023 17:49

'Pete' he told us to 'fuck off and die' three times.'

OR

Me - Hey did you say to Amelia to go fuck herself and die yesterday

Which was it, ‘fuck off and die’ or ‘fuck yourself and die’?

You can’t seem to keep your story straight.

mindutopia · 16/04/2023 17:49

Honestly, if my 10 year old prank called a friend of mine, I would expect friend to respond as if they didn’t know who the hell was calling them and I’m sure after the third call 😳 ‘fuck off and die’ is about the response they’d get from me too. The responsibility really lies on parents to make sure this doesn’t happen (why our phones have facial recognition) and my dd would be in such a massive load of trouble if she pulled suck a stunt.

Crocodilekneecaps · 16/04/2023 17:50

Has your daughter apologised?

bellac11 · 16/04/2023 17:50

leepingup · 16/04/2023 17:37

So you are suggesting that because my child prank called him she should die? Ew. Please seek help.

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Do you think when someone says this they're seriously suggesting/expecting the person goes off and dies?

Its something someone says because they're pissed off. Its a bit teenage perhaps but as someone said in another post, thats natural consequences, when you piss someone off, they're going to react badly to you.

MoroccanRoseHChurch · 16/04/2023 17:50

Also, yeah, offering a cat for £1.50 is actually hilarious 🤣

Lefteyetwitch · 16/04/2023 17:50

She fucked about and found out.

Hopefully she'll learn quickly

Peachy2005 · 16/04/2023 17:51

Are you for real?

Your child is the one who is out of order…FOAD might be a slightly old-fashioned phrase but it is a phrase. Anything said to them they brought on themselves. You should be apologising profusely to anyone they phoned and making your DD apologise to everyone in person.

Gofaster2023 · 16/04/2023 17:51

I think for some "fuck off and die" is more a stock phrase to be used when you're really annoyed. I doubt he meant it literally. He was just expressing extreme annoyance.

FatAgainItsLettuceTime · 16/04/2023 17:51

Yes @SorePaw I am aware that showers work 24/7 thank you.

I'm also aware that people tend to shower morning or night so it's reasonable to guess that the shower happened morning or evening.

Either way if you prank call people you have to accept that they won't be happy and people swear when they are unhappy.

The only people who were wrong in this situation are the annoying badly behaved kids and the parent who seems to think everyone should indulge their badly behaved offspring.

namechange3394 · 16/04/2023 17:51

Given you don't seem to want to give your DD any consequences for her idiotic behaviour, I'd say it's a good thing that she's had a bit of an unpleasant experience tbh. Maybe she'll think twice before doing it again.

mainsfed · 16/04/2023 17:51

leepingup · 16/04/2023 17:30

They're 10 😂 calm down.

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You don’t think 10yos should apologise? No wonder she behaves so badly.

Jonei · 16/04/2023 17:51

leepingup · 16/04/2023 17:37

So you are suggesting that because my child prank called him she should die? Ew. Please seek help.

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No one said that did they. And I'm pretty sure you know that Pete doesn't actually want your child to die. You don't need to take words so literally you know. It's a ridiculous path to take.

He probably did want her to fuck off though.

Now you need to make sure your child doesn't do it again.

HazyDragon · 16/04/2023 17:51

Not everyone reacts well to being mocked and laughed at.

If your DD chooses to treat people this way, then this is a possible consequence.

I don't think her and her friend sound 'funny' at all.

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