Mud sticks.. how do I deal with it.

[Highfivemum]

So I live in small village. We all know everyone. Even if we do not socialise we all know of each other. Two new residents moved in 5 weeks ago into the next road up. For some reason the wife thought she knew me from school. She didn’t. We haven’t spoken since as she seemed to not believe me. We have never lived in same area before and she is a few years older. Whilst attending the Easter parade in the centre my DC (11) said he had been shouted at by this lady for looking at her. She said to him your just like your mum. She quite obviously thinks I am someone else and someone else who she disliked for whatever reason. I went over to her and said why had she shouted at my DS and if she had any problems then she should speak to me. I didn’t shout I was very calm but She ran off in tears. Which was seen by others. Since then I had been told by three people that she has told them she cannot join some village groups and go to things as I go to them and I am nasty and always have been since school. She is quite clearly having some issues and I have chosen to step back and not be in any contact but I am finding that some of the locals are looking at me and I am paranoid they believe her. I have no idea who she is. My DH said he could speak to her DH about it all. I have said leave it. I really don’t know how to handle this. Do I try again to talk to her and run the risk of her screaming at me and making it worse.

Glad they are taking it seriously. Also at least it’s not just you. This village idiot has outed her self fast so at least it’s being taken seriously now.

Wow @Highfivemum how weird and horrible! You are doing all the right things. Good luck and please keep us posted

Oh no.
I wonder what her motive is for harassing you all.
She hasn't been there long, sounds a right odd ball to move to an area and start causing problems pretty much straight away.

Awful as it is at least you're not the only one now and hopefully the police do take your complaints seriously and get to the bottom of it.

Sounds like both herself and her husband are unhinged

How awful.

At least you can make it clear to the police that you will be making a GROUP complaint of their handling of this if they don't take firm action.

This unhinged woman targeted your child.
You have every right to be wary.

How awful 😞 So sorry you are being put through this. Its horrible to say but its almost better shes doing it to more than one in your village to have more evidence against her and some support for you.

Sounds like they’ve escaped from Royston Vasey and moved to your village! Scary and bizarre hope it gets resolved asap.

Oh no im sorry its obviously escalated, though sort of reassuring in a way that its not JUST you,s hes targeted others and there is strength in numbers (obviously i am not pleased shes harrassing other people but you know what I mean hopefully!).

Hope its taken seriously and police can properly deal with her but defo do not jeopardise any police action by telling us lot about it (you can always tell us after!)

I had a distant acquaintance who called the police on one of my friends for stalking and harassing her....watching her on a train, following her to work and repeatedly peering in the window at her place of work.

Except she didn't and hadn't - hadn't even been in the same country as when some of the "offences" happened. Even though it was easily disproved it was very very difficult to deal with.

It eventually turned out she suffered from paranoid schizophrenia and had come off her meds....her main symptom was extreme paranoia and the belief people were watching and following her.

She was sectioned and we only found out as another friend spoke to her sister in passing and it all came out...perfectly normal woman when on medication and totally bizarre behaviour/accusations when not. I'd guess something similar here - just odd with the partner playing along...

thank you. I didn’t know that. It’s terrible that you can basically go around and make up any old shit to ruin someone’s life and there’s nothing they can do about it. How awful

Omg four other people! She’s obviously just not quite right. Really difficult but at least there’s solace in that your not the only one having to deal with this. I am sure the whole community has heard and is behind you; and now you only have to worry about her rather than everyone else. Still shitty though. What a palaver!

@Highfivemum This may bring the bill page closer, if I were you all I’d be arranging to walk dogs in groups so she can’t go mental at anyone on their own…
Im sure if you all meet and discuss this situation everyone will agree to avoid this couple … hopefully they’ll move !!

what a couple of nutters-sorry but they both cant be mentally ill can they

Can't they? Why is that?

At least other people getting the same treatment makes her stories less credible so nobody (or at least less people) will believe her. I suspect PP was right that she's ill and off meds or something otherwise what's the point in this behaviour? Wonder why her husband goes along with it though

whynotwhatknot
what a couple of nutters-sorry but they both cant be mentally ill can they

It's called a Folie a deux - the 2 people support each other in their delusions

Is it still going on op?

I swear I think about this thread at least twice a day. Hope it all got sorted OP

I know this is an old thread but I was thinking about it the other day and so dug it out. OP, if you're still around, it would be lovely to hear that this has all come to an end now - I hope things are quieter for you.

Suggesting the husbands sort it out made me vomit. Please don’t do that.
Don't engage, don’t go round. Ignore it.
But get your arse back to your groups/clubs! If you’re not there then it makes it worse. If you are there you’ll only need to share with a couple of people how batshit she’s being and that’ll be the new story.