To be so angry with ‘DH’

[Maisemoo]

I was bought a pair of trainers for my birthday by my DM- they were expensive at £180 in comparison to my normal converse so use them when I know not muddy etc.
Cleaning hall and found them covered in paint and mud- DH saw them and hadn’t seen me in them for a few weeks (baring in mind he works away 4 nights a week so doesn’t see me everyday) so decided to use them for work- he works in a building site!
they are completely ruined and stink of sweaty man feet and I am really upset as they are not just something I can replace due to cost. DH thinks I am being dramatic and has whacked them in the washing machine- but I hate trainers in the washing machine as they never feel the same and right now am so angry I want to throw them in the bin or at at his face

Is it possible he was concerned about going into the client’s house and wanted to wear the ‘cleanest’ soled shoes he could find so that he wouldn’t have to wear those plastic booties etc? And so is why he didn’t wear his own scruffy boots?

Trying to see if there’s any sane explanation at all for this extremely bizarre behavior.

Or else he did it on purpose out of malice. Or, op is secretly married to Dylan Mulvaney. Now that would make all this make perfect sense.

It's got more to do with the fact I'm very much married. ( to a tall, big footed, large of peepee man 😂)

He needs to replace them.
It couldn’t happen here though as my DH shoe size is 11 and I’m size 4.5.

I’m sure the men of Mexico are devastated.

My dh is also a (small) 7 and I'm a 6 so we have shared trainers in the past.

I would also be furious if he ever did that to me. He does need to replace them, even if it's using money allocated to his birthday/christmas or activity just about him.

I'm a 6 and my husband is a 13 so thank you for the mental image of him trying to squish a toe into my doc martens 🤣 like Cinderella and the stepsisters

I expect so, we all have our crosses to bear.

They're specific trainers the OP wanted that were bought as a gift..

Their cries of despair could be heard all the way to Peru.

As an aside, fanatstic response OP, glad you got some new shoes!

The small feet wouldn't bother me - and anyway, the most repulsive thing on this thread is referring to a penis as a peepee.

Going against the grain here, but maybe he didn’t realise they were expensive trainers. Maybe, like me, he doesn’t understand the fetishisation of trainers and for him they’re just a pair of sports shoes.

He intentionally ruined your special gift.

🤣

And being proud of his peepee as if brandishing it as a weapon

Ughh my mum bought me a pair of trainers for my birthday too (not as expensive as yours but still nice), and I only wear them in the gym, use my old ones for running outdoors in bad weather etc. I’d be devastated if anyone did that to them so I totally get why you’re upset.

My husband and I have exactly the same size feet-10’s

We do use each others shoes sometimes!

But he knew that they weren't his & I'm guessing that he does have shoes of his own?

YANBU - who takes a obviously pristine pair of shoes that aren't theirs and wears them to a building site... without even asking permission?!!

I could vaguely understand taking a battered old pair thinking 'Ho hum, doesn't matter what happens to these'. Even if they have been revived after a wash, it's the priciple of the thing.

Honestly, mumsnet has become full of truly hideous people. Get a life nasty people!

I wear a 12 in womens usa size and my husband wears a 9 usa size. Some of us ladies have huge feet. My adult daughter is in a child's 2. While shoe size does correlate most of the time to height, it is not an all the time thing.

Me too. I've got the second hand ick.

She made it sound as if Mexican men are a 'prize' now lost because we're (jokingly) shunning small feet lol. That's just bizarre, unexpected and funny. How is anyone supposed to respond to that besides more humour? Please lighten up...

Out of interest, does anyone know what size feet Tom Cruise has? He always looks like he wears small shoes.

How did she make Mexican men sound like a ‘prize’? Why are you putting ‘prize’ in quotation marks when no one has said it?

Well done to whoever reported the comment about Mexican men being a risk, it wasn’t me.

"men" isn't just one homogeneous person.

Rather than men Vs women why not think of it as "people". Some of which are considerate in their way of speaking about others and some are not.
Quite a few on this thread are in the"not" category.

"men" isn't just one homogeneous person.

Thanks for the enlightenment

Good result op, definitely the right outcome.
Very disrespectful of him to take something of yours and ruin it, if it was worth £18 or £180, worse that they were a gift.
He should still be wearing correct PPE even if he is the only worker on site, work boots/trainers can be purchased for much less than £180 so hopefully lesson learned for him.
My partner is size 8, Im a 5, wore his battered old trainers for a muddy walk because I hadn't got suitable shoes with me, he's 5"8.
My 13yo is 5"10 and wears size eleven.