Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Do you think it is ok for men to post sexualised reviews of women's knickers on M&S website?

304 replies

EllenLRipley · 13/04/2023 20:48

M&S does:

https://www.marksandspencer.com/se/kalina-embroidery-high-leg-knickers/p/P60574443.html

IABU: It is fine
IAMBU: Women do not want to be used to facilitate men's fetishes, they should delete sexualised reviews

Kalina Embroidery High Leg Knickers | M&S SE

Shop this Kalina Embroidery High Leg Knickers at Marks & Spencer. Browse more styles at Marks & Spencer Sweden

https://www.marksandspencer.com/se/kalina-embroidery-high-leg-knickers/p/P60574443.html

OP posts:
Thread gallery
26
JMSA · 13/04/2023 21:12

As I said, I'd find it more offensive if men were writing the reviews as an objectification of women.

FuckNuggets · 13/04/2023 21:14

baddecisions11 · 13/04/2023 21:04

I don't understand the problem? It's just a review from a man saying he likes the knickers and the reasons why. He hasn't said anything crude? Or maybe I am misreading his review as it is quite descriptive. I have no issue with men wearing women's knickers - each to their own!

To amend, ever so slightly, Shakira's 'hips don't lie' mantra, the immediate focus on these sexy panties is on the front design. Teasingly revealing with embroidered fullsome red lips

You don't find this crude?

pickledandpuzzled · 13/04/2023 21:14

It's like flashing and dick pics, JMSA. Are you ok with them too?

WarningToTheCurious · 13/04/2023 21:14

baddecisions11 · 13/04/2023 21:04

I don't understand the problem? It's just a review from a man saying he likes the knickers and the reasons why. He hasn't said anything crude? Or maybe I am misreading his review as it is quite descriptive. I have no issue with men wearing women's knickers - each to their own!

He’s stating quite clearly that he likes wearing women’s knickers and posting that n M&S. How did you miss that?

VestaTilley · 13/04/2023 21:16

YANBU. M&S should delete.

PriOn1 · 13/04/2023 21:16

Having looked at the knickers in question, there’s a panel on the front that makes them look like a codpiece. Not sure why they don’t just use a male model and have done.

Greenfairydust · 13/04/2023 21:16

The guy who posted this is very obviously getting off on writing this review which is just gross.

It would be fine to leave something that says these underwear are sexy, but a long, slobbering comment is not appropriate.

funinthesun19 · 13/04/2023 21:17

JMSA · 13/04/2023 21:09

This is what I thought. It's hardly 'phwoar, my girlfriend was really fuckable in these'.

That would actually bother me less than some disgusting man with a fetish talking about how good they make him feel. 🤢

CaloriesShmalories · 13/04/2023 21:17

knightsinwhitesatin · 13/04/2023 21:06

But women would be buying them to be sexy too? They’re hardly everyday granny pants so I’m not sure why you’re offended by a (pretty PG) sexualised review. Would you be offended if a woman had written it?

I had a look at other sexy knicker reviews - women reviewers tend to give a factual post, commenting on fit and material. I haven’t seen one review from a woman that reads like they have a fetish or are turned on by wearing the pants.

As M&S allow men in their changing rooms and given the social media fetish that many TW appear to have of taking aroused selfies in these unisex changing rooms, I now give them a miss. I’d like to think that M&S have seen a downward turn on sales given that they value their target customers so little.

BlackBarbies · 13/04/2023 21:18

EllenLRipley · 13/04/2023 21:00

I wrote and complained and was told I was wrong. I wrote back and was told they would not be removing it and I was not to write to them about it again. They seem to be focusing on the male fetish market.

Really?!! I clicked the link, read the review and thought ‘maybe M&S haven’t seen the review’ or something dumb like that. But you actually complained and they came back to you saying not to write to them again about it?🤯 that’s madness.

Why do they actually want men’s weird reviews on their sites? So strange

Bluebells1970 · 13/04/2023 21:19

It's not on their UK site.

EllenLRipley · 13/04/2023 21:19

Bluebells1970 · 13/04/2023 21:19

It's not on their UK site.

What am I looking at then? I am in Yorkshire and it is right there!

OP posts:
RedToothBrush · 13/04/2023 21:20

This has been happening for years. Been lots of threads in the past about these pervs.

WeAllHaveWings · 13/04/2023 21:21

OMG - and it says age 65+ too 🤮🤮🤮

I'm "only" 50 and wouldnt wear those 🤣

Bluebells1970 · 13/04/2023 21:21

That link is to their Swedish website.

Not their UK one.

twinmum2022 · 13/04/2023 21:21

@EllenLRipley she's means it's not a Co.uk site, you can access any website from the UK. It doesn't make it a UK website, the one you linked isn't in GBP but I'm not 100% sure where it's from.

SageHoney · 13/04/2023 21:21

M&S have been doing that for ages; they approve reviews before publishing so these are the ones that made the cut; there are thousands! That's actually a really mild one compared to some which read like X-rated sissy porn. (Many have been removed but only because the product is no longer available.)

I can only assume a lot more men than women buy M&S knickers, so the high ratings are great publicity and it doesn't matter that logically knickers that suit/fit most men will not work well for most women. There are lines that do tops and bottoms modeled on traditional women's lingerie styles but designed for male bodies for exactly that reason. (Perhaps if people start writing reviews about how crap the penis coverage/comfort is, they'll delete those!) They used to have a "gender" flag so you could sort and filter a lot of these out (not all, some reviewers set it to F because they want the reviews seen by women who'd rather not see them) but that's gone, too.

Since COVID a LOT more people are ordering online so legit pants reviews are needed, and who has time to dig through the porn? Plus M&S underthings have gone seriously downhill (which may or may not have any link to these reviewers' frequently requesting construction changes to widen guessets, etc. to make the ladies' knickers more penis-friendly) and I'd say M&S are not good enough to be worth the trouble.

Here's a thread from Style & Beauty with some options for shopping elsewhere: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/style_and_beauty/4762380-ms-knickers-reviews

GCAcademic · 13/04/2023 21:21

Apart from the evident fetish aspect of the review, when I buy a pair of knickers my priority isn’t whether I can fit a penis in there. So I’m not going to buy a pair positively reviewed by someone whose requirements for this undergarment are anatomically different to mine. Same as I won’t be buying a sports bra advertised by that male woman-mimic since my requirements for a sports bra are that they support my tits.

funinthesun19 · 13/04/2023 21:22

Why do they actually want men’s weird reviews on their sites? So strange

To be honest it doesn’t surprise me. Pandering and all that.

NashvilleQueen · 13/04/2023 21:23

Men and their endless quest to be seedy fuckers never cease to amaze me.

Growlybear83 · 13/04/2023 21:24

baddecisions11 · 13/04/2023 21:04

I don't understand the problem? It's just a review from a man saying he likes the knickers and the reasons why. He hasn't said anything crude? Or maybe I am misreading his review as it is quite descriptive. I have no issue with men wearing women's knickers - each to their own!

I agree. I can't see a problem with this either. I can't see anything in the review that would warrant M&S removing it.

pickledandpuzzled · 13/04/2023 21:25

It's a Swedish website, for some reason, but it says the reviews are from the uk website.

I went on a lacy multipac and one of the reviews was from a bloke. It's not 'just the odd one'. It's a thing.

FelicityBeedle · 13/04/2023 21:26

I mean they have bought it, I don’t see why they shouldn’t leave a review.

Tempone · 13/04/2023 21:26

What's the problem in men wearing knickers and feeling sexy? I don't see an issue with that? It's not for me but sensuality is different for everyone and it's hardly hurting anyone?

Rubyupbeat · 13/04/2023 21:27

I've not read these reviews, as it would make me feel sick.
I love m and s undies, although I very much doubt they would be getting off in the full briefs that I wear!