AIBU to go nuclear now about f'ing piss!!

[LicensedToLoseMyShit]

Every time my DSS (14) comes to stay there always ends up being piss all over the toilet seat, up the back of the lid, in between the cistern and seat etc..

I've just gone to use the toilet and it's splashed everywhere, not just a drop but like someone's just pissed all over the seat, like they haven't even bothered to look where it's going and walked out.

I know it's him because it's not like this when he isn't here. I've mentioned it to DH before who's spoken to him but it still happens and I'm honestly ready to lose my shit over it. It's fucking disgusting and just shows a complete lack of care. Who pisses all over the toilet and just walks away?!

I'm half minded to storm in his room whilst he's talking to his friends on his playstation and shout to get in there and clean his piss up off the toilet (I won't but I'd like to).

Is it just me or is 14 way to old for this to be a regular issue? No SEN.

That's horrid OP, I would make him clear it up every time.
So glad I don't have to see my SC much, I dislike him anyway, without putting up with dirty habits in my house.

Meh, different opinion, no biggie to me, is it worth causing WW3 over? I'd leave the cleaning product / cloth in there & have a big sign printed..
'My aim is to keep this toilet clean.
Your aim helps.'

This.

Aaargh I couldn't embarrass him.. do you want to lose him forever? :-(

Surely though if it's embarrassing you clean up after yourself?

Lots of posters saying this is deliberate. Maybe he can't stand the OP like she clearly can't stand him.

It's like pantomime season on this thread, all the SMs out to express their "disgust" and "revulsion" at a bit of pee.

I'm not saying he shouldn't clean it up - of course he should - but all the cat's bum faces and weird attempts at humiliation will not help the situation.

I’d stay out of it and get his father to deal with it.

Tell him calmly that it’s ok, that when his penis finally starts growing it won’t happen as much as it’s an issue that affects little boys. Then look sympathetic and hand him the cleaning stuff.

I was thinking like a PP mentioned, stenosis or phimosis. It's still gross that he just leaves it, and he ought to clean it up, but your DH should have a quiet word about spraying everywhere and whether it's a foreskin issue, as it'll be awfully embarrassing for him and few teenage boys would feel comfortable raising it without a prompt.

Either the conversation will be excruciating because he's got no issues, and hopefully it'll stop, or it'll be time to make a GP appt, and to reassure him that it's totally treatable.

Turn off the Wifi every time it happens. When he comes running to tell you, ask him to clean up the toilet. Wifi doesn't go on until it's clean.
Do this every time and he'll soon stop.

Kudos to anyone who can produce a large smelly poo to order.

That really doesn’t make it sound any better. The first issue is the idea that your son inherently associated cleaning his mess up with women - he left it ‘for her’ and not his father. Secondly, your husband groomed a teen girl and ruined the family and they ‘expressed their opinion’ by being blatantly disrespectful to the teenage girl? That doesn’t sound good at all.

I'm half minded to storm in his room whilst he's talking to his friends on his playstation and shout to get in there and clean his piss up off the toilet (I won't but I'd like to).

I right that’s exactly what you should do.

Tell him that you’ve put a ping pong ball in the toilet so that he can practice his aim, it works for two year olds.

That's the term, meatal stenosis. I couldn't remember. It can also happen even if circumcised, due to the way the skin heals. Again, very easily fixable with minor outpatient surgery, child should clean up after themselves in the meantime while waiting for an evaluation.

If you DON'T clear up, surely

My sons are made to clean it up and it's nowhere near as bad as you describe. Get thr cloth and spray and tell him to clean it, if his mates hear then that's his fault

Surely if it's medical he'd be embarrassed at peeing everywhere and would be cleaning it up to avoid drawing attention to it. Different situation and obviously I'm older but I have had incontinence problems from childhood and often don't totally get it all into the loo but I have ALWAYS cleaned my pee up because I didn't want other people to see it or have to deal with it.
How do you get along in general OP?

FFS watch him clean up or he'll do a shit job and you'll be even angrier.

I agree.

Tell your DH to tell clean up now - right now- draw a line in the sand and give him the stuff and tell him if it happens again SDS needs to go to the GP or counselling - immediately to rule out a urine infection first and then GP.

Id turn off the wifi every time you find it like that, or change the password, and say it wont go back on/get the password u til he cleans up his mess. Truly disgusting. A potential future incel

This.
He knows exactly what he’s doing. This is one for your DH to deal with.

Probability wise, without the info about if this happens at his mums house, I think not enough people are taking into consideration the zombie being on their phone in the bathroom scenario. But also I’m not sure OP took into consideration the possible medical aspect so it’s good she posted.

The protest thing I don’t understand but we used to know a weird guy and he once spoke about how he’d love to come over and see my dhs art studio and I saw my dh’s face change just as I was about to invite him. Turns out he pees in peoples houses or gardens.. which I still don’t know why and I’m too afraid to google it. Marking territory? Like dogs? I’m not 100% sure I want to know.

The occasional mess is common and most boys/men can relate (although we tend to clean up afterwards!) but that much, every time, not being cleaned up had to be deliberate. For whag reason I don’t know