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AIBU to go nuclear now about f'ing piss!!

244 replies

LicensedToLoseMyShit · 09/04/2023 14:46

Every time my DSS (14) comes to stay there always ends up being piss all over the toilet seat, up the back of the lid, in between the cistern and seat etc..

I've just gone to use the toilet and it's splashed everywhere, not just a drop but like someone's just pissed all over the seat, like they haven't even bothered to look where it's going and walked out.

I know it's him because it's not like this when he isn't here. I've mentioned it to DH before who's spoken to him but it still happens and I'm honestly ready to lose my shit over it. It's fucking disgusting and just shows a complete lack of care. Who pisses all over the toilet and just walks away?!

I'm half minded to storm in his room whilst he's talking to his friends on his playstation and shout to get in there and clean his piss up off the toilet (I won't but I'd like to).

Is it just me or is 14 way to old for this to be a regular issue? No SEN.

OP posts:
Suzi888 · 09/04/2023 16:38

Tell him to sit down and pee.

BignBootiful · 09/04/2023 16:38

Stravaig · 09/04/2023 16:37

Tell DH he's an absolute embarrassment of a man and an utterly useless father to have a 14 year old son who, barring medical causes, cannot pee neatly and/or clean up after himself every single time. You have a DH problem, not a DSS problem.

I don’t think it’s very respectful to talk to a dp this way.

OhBeAFineGuyKissMe · 09/04/2023 16:40

Have you spoken to his mum - does he do this in his other home?

Whowhatwherewhenwhy1 · 09/04/2023 16:40

Sod that. You go in immediately you fond it and make him stop gaming and clean it up properly. And tell him the next time you find it like that he loses his access to his gaming console for 24 hours. He is 14 not 4 and knows he is doing it. He is just too lazy and disrespectful to clean it up. Moaning at hum is pointless and with teenage boys they either tune out or it goes over their heads so a consequence that hits him where it hurts is the fastest solution.

HerRoyalStressHead · 09/04/2023 16:42

He's absolutely doing it on purpose at 14. I have a 14 year old who wouldn't dream of pissing on the seat, and a 7 year old who, if he does miss, which isn't often, is made to clean it after himself. They know its disgusting. And I'm sure your DSS has been taught that it's disgusting too.

Stravaig · 09/04/2023 16:42

BignBootiful · 09/04/2023 16:38

I don’t think it’s very respectful to talk to a dp this way.

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DH and DSS routinely expecting OP to clean up piss for them is far, far worse.

TequilaNights · 09/04/2023 16:43

Have you checked he is able to pee normally?

A common problem in my family is small pee holes that create fan piss everywhere!

Whowhatwherewhenwhy1 · 09/04/2023 16:44

BignBootiful · 09/04/2023 15:30

I am pretty sure she would “go off her dinger” with her ds if she is as fastidious as she sounds. And good for her. Some people like to keep a clean house, you know.

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A 14 year old pissing everywhere and not cleaning up is just not acceptable ever. No way is she over reacting and if you think its ok and it wouldn’t annoy you god only knows what your bathroom smells like. Personally I think she is being more than tolerant.

Princessbananahamock · 09/04/2023 16:47

Gross marking territory. I have 3 lads the elder two by 16 years I told them… fucking aim right! you can on Halo dudes. The youngest aim for the water ! If it goes anywhere else I seriously go mad !

BadNomad · 09/04/2023 16:52

He needs to clean it up himself. Not his father. Grubby boys like this grow into grubby men who then expect their wives and girlfriends to clean up after them. Nip this in the bud now.

ClaudiaCustard · 09/04/2023 16:53

Total over reaction from you and no, I doubt it's deliberate. They just don't think at this age

That's no excuse however.. just do what you'd do if he was your own son. Wipes or a cloth in the bathroom and just ask him to wipe it clean. And do that each and every time.

It's clear you don't really like him btw

TokyoStories · 09/04/2023 16:55

It’s possible he has a narrow urethra which causes it to spray. However in that case he should sit down to pee, or clean it up.

Noodlehen · 09/04/2023 16:57

Turn off the wifi. He’s 14 not 4, don’t be letting him sit upstairs on PlayStation with his mates while you’re downstairs silently seething at this.

also agree with others that he’s doing this on purpose 🤢

MzHz · 09/04/2023 17:00

Gymmum82 · 09/04/2023 14:48

I’d give him a cloth and some spray and make him clean it up every single time

This. I had to educate my own son at that age. It’s totally unacceptable and has to be dealt with

MyFaceIsAnAONB · 09/04/2023 17:00

LicensedToLoseMyShit · 09/04/2023 14:51

I'll go in shortly. I just need to calm down about it for a minute because otherwise I'll go in shouting I'm so fed up of it, it's fucking disgusting.

YANBU to go nuclear, no need to calm down. I don’t know why you’re not going in and embarrassing him in front of his friends. My 5 & 7 year old have never been that messy.

HerRoyalStressHead · 09/04/2023 17:01

It's clear you don't really like him btw

Oh give over. Its clear she doesn't like the behaviour, and who can blame her, it's vile. That doesn't mean she doesn't like him ffs.

Supersimkin2 · 09/04/2023 17:01

Deliberate.

This one needs the riot act, both chapters, loudly.

DustyLee123 · 09/04/2023 17:01

He needs to sit down to pee.

Exhibity · 09/04/2023 17:04

Small pee hole or not, he should clean up after himself.

FrostyFifi · 09/04/2023 17:04

It's clear you don't really like him btw

I wouldn't like someone who sprayed bolidy fluids all over my house either. Like a fucking tom cat.

QuintanaRoo · 09/04/2023 17:06

I’d tell him if he can’t aim like most adults manage to he needs to sit down like a toddler until he can cope with it. Gross.

TheNewlmprovedMrsMadEvans · 09/04/2023 17:09

l think he's doing it on purpose because he resents you

BaroldBalonz · 09/04/2023 17:10

Apologies if this has already been suggested, but tell him if he does it again you'll take a photograph and tag it on social media - that worked for my boys!

BaroldBalonz · 09/04/2023 17:10

Didn't actually do it, the threat of public skid marks was enough

TheNewlmprovedMrsMadEvans · 09/04/2023 17:10

l would be very worried he was doing something else behind your back too . Be careful .