To expect her to pay for all of it?

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My home has two bedrooms.

On Thursday I went on a night out with friends and didn't drink. I went home early.

My friend couldn't get a taxi back from the town and was very drunk, she called me and I got out of bed to pick her up at 3am and brought her back to mine as she lives 8 miles away.

She slept in my son's bed as he wasn't here.

I went in yesterday to change the bedding to see she had been sick all over the mattress, wall, duvet and pillows. All the bedding will need to be replaced.

She says she doesn't remember being sick.

She has offered to pay half for new bedding. Is this reasonable?

Half? Where does she get half from?
If she thought it was the dog she'd offer nothing.
She pays for all of it.
How utterly embarrassing that she wouldn't offer.

Adult human sick, not your own child's,

The fact that it was soaking for two days is on you 100%

Who wouldn’t completely strip a bed if someone had been sick in it?

That’s gross. Was the dog not sniffing around there for the past couple of days?
she should of course pay for a full replacement of bedding.

If she had genuinely thought it was the dog she would've said so when she saw you that morning - "the dog was sick in the night". But she didn't, because it wasn't. Wow. I don't think you'll get the full amount from her because she's a CF. You were a good friend to her and she has abused your friendship. I would show her the bill, get what you can from her. Then tell her you won't be in contact again. She has no integrity.

I had a friend who borrowed a pair of shoes for a night out and somehow managed to lose one. after being v apologetic and giving me the remaining shoe she asked me how much they were . When i told her the amount, she gave me half - as if i could go back to the shop and pay for one shoe 😂 i still regret not saying something to this day. MAKE HER PAY THE FULL AMOUNT! xx

She should pay for all of it. There's no way she didn't notice when she woke up. Disgusting cow.

It's not on OP because she didn't know that this woman had been sick in it!

If she had no need to go in the room for two days, how is she supposed to know?

HALF?? Why should you be expected to pay HALF for new bedding because she threw up most completely and disgustingly all over it then got up, pulled the duvet over and left?!

Absolutely she should pay for it, you were good enough to get out of bed, collect her and bring her home to sleep and she would of woke up and seen the vomit everywhere and just left it there? Jesus never would I do that, I'd make sure the sheets were off the bed and thrown in the bin 🫣

Another who refuses to believe she didn’t know the state she had left the bed in. To not say anything is unbelievable, I could not stay friends with someone like this.

If it wasn't for the stench of drunk vomit that's probably still in your nostrils, blaming the dog would almost be funny. So Fido got into bed, puked everywhere, then carefully covered it up with the duvet to hide it from mummy, did he, aye?

Just the fact that she got you out of bed at 3am to come and pick her up would be enough for me.

@Kaibashira has it right. Why she would offer, unprompted, to pay half if she thought it was the dog?
Ditch her.

She should pay for all of the bedding and to get the mattress cleaned too

To be honest, you lost me when you said you got up at 3 am to pick her up. No way I would do that for a friend. My husband or child, yes, but no one else. She's a user and she saw you coming. As for the sick? Absolutely rank. I would delete and block and pay for my own new bedding. Don't have anything to do with her again.

I haven’t read the whole thread so sorry if this a repeat but

It’s a pretty remarkable dog if it can throw up in the bed and then pull the duvet to cover it!

If they were used sheets etc, I guess it's reasonable not to expect her to cover the price of new ones. On the other hand, if I were the friend, I would be pretty mortified about the whole thing and would want to buy new plus a big bottle of wine or something as a way of saying sorry. Making someone else clear up your vomit is just minging.

Misread the OP apologies.

I can’t imagine not going in the room after someone sleeps in it for two days. Her friend should have told her. I don’t think I’d ask for money though.

I would be absolutely livid. There's no way she didn't know about it. Leaving without saying anything or attempting to clean it up is bad enough, but offering to only pay half of the cost of replacement bedding is utterly outrageous.

I wouldn't want to be cleaning someone's puke off bedding and would bin the lot.

DH was once ill on a friend's bedding after a very drunken night. He cleaned up after himself and replaced the bedding and also gave chocolate and flowers as an apology.

She needs to do better! And as for blaming it on the dog, what a c**t.

I’d have sent her photos as proof. She knows what she’s done! I’d asking for full replacement.

how do you throw up in a bed and then cover it up and pretend you never saw it?!

This is not a friend Op. It’s disgusting. To get you to save her at 3am in the morning, offer her a bed and look after her, and for her to then do this and accuse your dog. It’s disgusting and if I had done this to someone I’d pay MORE than the cost to replace. I’d be round to clean up with cards and flowers apologising profusely, too. Absolutely shocking behaviour. She should be SO ashamed.

This. Absolutely this.

She left without telling you. It's fucking disgusting and utterly disrespectful.

Grow a backbone for your own sake.

What’s she trying to suggest saying she can’t remember? That you’re lying, or that you did it yourself? Whether or not she remembers is irrelevant, she barfed all over your house, and now she needs to pay for any damage she caused. I’d be demanding all the money off her then sacking her off, just for her bloody attitude.

*The fact that it was soaking for two days is on you 100%

Who wouldn’t completely strip a bed if someone had been sick in it?*

I didn't know there was sick. I obviously stripped it as soon as I realised.

Was the dog not sniffing around there for the past couple of days?

No, my son hasn't been here so the door has been closed. No reason to go in.