To expect her to pay for all of it?

[sunmonlight]

My home has two bedrooms.

On Thursday I went on a night out with friends and didn't drink. I went home early.

My friend couldn't get a taxi back from the town and was very drunk, she called me and I got out of bed to pick her up at 3am and brought her back to mine as she lives 8 miles away.

She slept in my son's bed as he wasn't here.

I went in yesterday to change the bedding to see she had been sick all over the mattress, wall, duvet and pillows. All the bedding will need to be replaced.

She says she doesn't remember being sick.

She has offered to pay half for new bedding. Is this reasonable?

Have you ever thought, @Tiddlypomtiddlypom, that maybe your housekeeping skills are a bit ... lacking?

Dear friend, If I had left you to find your own way home at 3am - I now wouldn't be having to clean up sick that had been soaking for two day, and the cost of new bedding. I am very upset to say the least that you have tried to blame the dog and you would have seen the mess up the wall along with inside the bed in the morning and know - why on earth didn't you tell me? My suggestion is to rectify the situation you cover the cost of a new duvet and pillows

Are you still about, @sunmonlight ?

What happened in the end?

She puked all over your bedroom, and only offered to pay half the cost of putting it right, and YOU don't want to fall out with HER? You need some help with boundaries.

No 😆 because my house is truly glorious. And because literally nothing will happen if a bed is not stripped until 24 hours after a guest has left the building… nothing. It won’t catch fire. It won’t grow new life. It won’t spout new guests.

What is the fear if instead of stripping them in a Sunday afternoon, I don’t strip the beds until after I come home from work on a Monday? Seriously?

That being said, my guests are generally of such good manners as to strip their own beds, so it’s moot, anyway.

This is one of the most ridiculous replies I’ve ever read on MN, and that’s saying something.

Of course she knew - she woke up surrounded by vomit! Where did she think it came from? She should be mortified and offering to replace everything in full, not just offer half.

why has this been RESURRECTED?

No bloody way should she pay half. She needs to pay for ALL of it. You did her a huge favour by picking her up at 3am and letting her stay. Her behaviour is repulsive and if she didnt pay for it all, I'd be cutting her out.

Cant stand this type of behaviour - its utterly foul. She wont pay for that but presumably was more than happy to pay for multiple drinks (which are very expensive in pubs/clubs) to throw down her neck and vomit back up wasnt she?

That is disgusting. Some friend hey. I would have been mortified if it was me. I would have paid all. What happened in the end op?

Throw it away and ask her to pay for all of it. That's absolutely disgusting. Never offer her a room again.

She got up, saw all the sick then LEFT IT FOR YOU TO CLEAR UP?????

She's not a friend, she's a complete bitch. She pays for it all.

I'd also get her to come back and clear up. Foul.

I know 🙄. To read the OP and find the remarkable thing to be that OP didn’t go in the room to change the bedding for 2 days…well, it just beggars belief.

@sunmonlight please return and tell us how this ended? Did you get new bedding/bed/furniture/wallpaper? Did "friend" pay for it? Are you still friends? The people of Mumsnet need to know!

I would buy a new duvet and pillow at her expense and I would launder the sheets, twice with disinfectant, and dry in the sun.

That is foul. I would be mortified if I’d caused this kind of damage and inconvenience to my friend.

I would reply back saying you hoped she would foot the full bill as it was her that created the damage that means you have to replace the items.

WTAF??? If I'd done this I would have stripped the bed entirely, cleaned what I could, taken the bedding home and be tipping up to Next to buy new replacements immediately. What a cowbag!

This. What a vile person. Of course she should pay for it. Also she should clean it up not leave it for you to do. What a shitty person your 'friend' is

I thought this thread seemed familiar then realised it has been resurrected from seven weeks ago. I am now wondering if the CF vomiter did in fact pay for the replacement of all the bedding, duvet and pillows. I felt sorry for the poor son, that room must have reeked.

This is why I stopped drinking... you'll probably all judge me badly but...

I had too much, stayed at a friends house and I'm ashamed to say did the same - vomited in my sleep and awoke with it all over the bed.

The difference is I somehow managed to strip everything off bed, scrape off vomit and put it all to soak in a bucket of hot water and disinfectant before having a shower then putting the whole lot on a hot wash - all at 3 in the morning. I was sick a few more times but in the bucket this time! This wasn't the first episode like that but the first time not in my own bed.

I was so ashamed but it never crossed my mind not to clean up or hide it from my friend. I spent the whole of the rest of the day in bed and she was kinder than I deserved. I gave up drinking the same day and so my last drink was 28th July 2016. It took that to make me understand that I couldn't handle my drinking. When I want alcohol I remind myself how embarrassed I felt and how ill it made me that night and the following day.

I do not think there is any way your friend could not have noticed

I don’t judge you for that at all. I think you’re incredibly courageous to admit you had a problem then take steps to correct it 🙏

You took responsibility for the vomit, she left it, which is completely different.

Well done for changing your life x

Why thank you for this high accolade 🏆 I’m truly touched.

Have you been trawling MN for the last 50+ days looking for other ridiculous contenders? If so that makes it even more special.

@cottonwoolbrain no one could judge you badly for that. Absolutely courageous to admit you had a problem blemish, and strength you have shown to overcome this💐.

Ooh you’ve won another award! I should try being really shitty and hypercritical to OPs who’ve had a horrible experience, and see what I could win.