To expect her to pay for all of it?

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My home has two bedrooms.

On Thursday I went on a night out with friends and didn't drink. I went home early.

My friend couldn't get a taxi back from the town and was very drunk, she called me and I got out of bed to pick her up at 3am and brought her back to mine as she lives 8 miles away.

She slept in my son's bed as he wasn't here.

I went in yesterday to change the bedding to see she had been sick all over the mattress, wall, duvet and pillows. All the bedding will need to be replaced.

She says she doesn't remember being sick.

She has offered to pay half for new bedding. Is this reasonable?

Oh and it's even worse that she then won't cover the whole cost and tries to blame the dog. She's not a friend.

I would be mortified and paying above and beyond the cost of replacement, even so far as getting a professional cleaner or decorator in. She is a chancer, don’t fall for it!

Well if everything needs to be replaced that’s a lot of money (depending on what you had as well).
Although like PP posters my first thought was most is washable, if done immediately, so she may have doubts on that too tbf (I’d say if several of us wondered the same, it may not completely unreasonable for her to wonder why you’re not asking half the price of even professional cleaning (given prices duvets can get to, it really depends)).

Do you have a total cost estimate ?

And I guess depends if both of you have the money - not saying it’s fair, but if she doesn’t, the chances of her putting it on a credit card are low to be realistic.

I only say this because I moved from Western Europe v close/‘similar’ 2 years ago, and your prices from Argos and the likes can be high ! So it depends what you had maybe

Dirty cow. I’d be very c;ear to her, no, it wasn’t the dog and you have ruined the bed. Half is not ok.

I think u should tell her the whilst you appreciate her offer to pay 50% that if she had not stayed over you would not be out of pocket at all. And tell her that your dogs food does not contain the food that was in her vomit. She needs to face up to what she has done. And as for u having to clean up after her 🤮yuck! She should have dropped around with a bunch of flowers.

One of the reasons why drunken friends, while of course welcome at 3am exceptionally for safety, only get a washable camping basic bed and a bucket (and a cheap but warm cover, I’m not awful either☺️ : those can be ruined, but if so it’s not a huge expense). Then they’re responsible for getting it all to the washing machine, and sorted.

This woman is not your friend. Friends do not ring friends at 3am to pick them up. Friends are not sick in their friends house (let alone friends child’s bedroom and bed) and then pretend not to remember. Friends do not offer to pay half when called out - they replace everything- including redecorating if necessary. You definitely definitely do not need a ‘friend’ like this- she is just a piss taking liability. Grow a backbone and firstly get the money from her to replace all bedding etc and then get her out of your life. If she’s hard faced enough to do it, she’s hard faced enough to deal with the consequences.

It wasn't done immediately because the "friend" didn't say anything. It was two days before the OP needed to go back into that room.

True, depends if friend knows/believes that though.

Im not saying she’s a great friend, I find it very hard to believe she woke up in a soaked bed not knowing, but most hosts would have gone in the room afterwards to throw everything in the washing (or smelt the odor). Unfortunate but depending on if the OP gave ‘friend’ a budget before her saying half, doubt she’ll change for more. Idk though

So depending OP’s realistic priority should be a non-shared with friend budget that relies on her only paying half.
Main reason why I mentioned finances, sorry that could have been more clear

She needs to pay it all!

Even though you say it was up the walls?

Tbh though I'd happily wash the bed covers.

What I'd want replacing if necessary is the mattress, duvet insert and actual pillows.

HMGov U.K. sets it out clearly

As I said, OP is better off not muddying the waters

www.gov.uk/employment-status/selfemployed-contractor

If the bed was against the wall, the duvet could have covered most of it. Or she could have omitted down the back of the bed against the wall.

Have O missed something?

Are you on the right thread?

*I, not O

Whoops no wrong thread!!

I'd just say "ok, you owe me £xxx" and not state how you came to that total.

Then don't bother with her.

Phew!

I thought I'd had a senior moment! 😂

Well if she made the bed (the fact you had to pull duvet back to see it) she knew what she did! Why does she think you should pay half? Have you explained to her it was half her meal you could clearly see? It's nasty and disgusting she would have done that in a child's bed! I would bill her for new duvet pillows and bedding and never ever speak to her again. Utter bitch

She cannot of not noticed this when she woke up - unless still very drunk. To then make the bed with it in, is vile. Even if she "thinks" it's the dog, she should of said something and helped to clean it all.
I think you will have to tell her exactly what you found (plus food in the vomit).
Take the duvet to the laundrette to see if it can be cleaned first. Does the top layer of mattress zip off at all (we have foam ones that do).
Replace what you need to, if she pays great, if she doesn't then you may have to write it off. But don't ever be fetching her again.

Disgusting! There is absolutely no way she didn’t realise she’d woken up in puke!!
Also how old is she? I struggle to believe grown arse women get so drunk they can’t remember being sick!!!! It’s rather sad behaviour really!!
I’d message her a simple message and say
‘hey, I’ve stripped the bed, it’s definitely your sick, it even contained kebab (or whatever she’d eaten), the duvet and pillows are ruined and were brand new, so I hope you understand why I’m asking but could you please forward £X’s to replace these items.

No. She needs to pay the whole amount. After all, if she hadn’t have destroyed it, it wouldn’t need replacing at all.

I think she should pay yes if the bedding is non salvageable or just too erk to deal with. Bag it up (sick and all) and say obviously it's hers now to do with as she likes now she's replacing it all. Tell her the 'taxi' was a gift.

On a serious note, imagine if you had walked in on your friend and she was dead because she'd choked on her vomit. Or perhaps left her to be the victim of SA. If she ever does that again I'd be passing the buck...so parents, boyfriend, police. Very irresponsible