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To think this was not enough food?

324 replies

Klex · 09/04/2023 08:14

Went to visit a relative yesterday.

There were five adults, a teenager and two younger kids.

Dinner was two supermarket pizzas, 4 potato waffles and 15 chicken nuggets between all of us.

As usual her kids dived in and had to be reminded there were others.

DS is autistic and pizza is one of his safe foods. He would only touch one of them as it was plain cheese, and this only had about three slices (because DH and I gave him ours). He was hungry as he hadn't eaten lunch (he only eats one out of lunch and dinner most days).

Ended up having to get food on the way home.

AIBU to think that this wasn't enough, and I f you offer to cater for people you actually provide enough food?

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AfterTheGoldBrush · 09/04/2023 08:36

It's not enough food, no.

But it is the perfect quantity for the original family of 4. It does sound as though the other family didn't expect the OP to be staying for dinner. Because 2 pizzas divided by 4 people, 1 potato waffle each, plus a couple of nuggets is fine.
Add the fact that the host's children "dived in" (possibly as they'd noticed there wasn't going to be enough to go round) sounds like there had been crossed wires at some point.

midgemadgemodge · 09/04/2023 08:36

Just to say dh and I are both healthy weight
That really looks like they were not expecting to feed you

I frequently dispair at the food threads - there's one at the moment as to soup and bread being insufficient for a lunch for example

We'd have a few bowls of soup , we'd also eat the largest shop pizza between us with a few sides

Easterfunbun · 09/04/2023 08:37

My teen boy could inhale all of that. Not enough. Unforgivable if not on breadline. I don’t do tight people.

BlackBarbies · 09/04/2023 08:37

TellHimDirectlyInDetail · 09/04/2023 08:16

Yeah it doesn't sound enough food. What do you want do you want to gain from this post? (Genuine question)

I’d also love to know the answer to that

blebbleb · 09/04/2023 08:37

@L3ThirtySeven dinner at your house sounds miserable!

lala2023 · 09/04/2023 08:38

@L3ThirtySeven I find your use of the term depressing rather offensive to be honest

A34 · 09/04/2023 08:39

No, not enough food. I bet your host was quite embarrassed to realise they made a mistake and under catered. And if they are reading this on Mumsnet they may well be extremely upset.

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 08:41

Beneficialchampion2 · 09/04/2023 08:31

No it wouldn't, what you have just described would be around 500 cal

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You have underestimated as many over-eaters do.

A large cheese pizza (no toppings) is 3000 calories
A potato waffle is 95 calories
A Chicken nugget (if baked) is 45 calories

So a 1/4 of a large cheese pizza is 750 calories plus a waffle at 95 calories and two chicken nuggets at 90 calories= 935 calories

For young women of average height, the recommended caloric intake is 2000 calories a day, for young men of berate height, it is 2,500 calories a day.

935 calories is a lot to use on one meal. And we haven’t even looked at drinks…

CherryBlossom321 · 09/04/2023 08:42

You have my empathy regarding taking your autistic child to someone else’s house for food. It’s actually quite stressful when your child has limited safe foods and you either have to make sure you can access it for them quickly before it goes, or ask specifically for them to be catered for/ offer to bring their own, and are then regarded as rude.

Oysterbabe · 09/04/2023 08:43

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 08:41

You have underestimated as many over-eaters do.

A large cheese pizza (no toppings) is 3000 calories
A potato waffle is 95 calories
A Chicken nugget (if baked) is 45 calories

So a 1/4 of a large cheese pizza is 750 calories plus a waffle at 95 calories and two chicken nuggets at 90 calories= 935 calories

For young women of average height, the recommended caloric intake is 2000 calories a day, for young men of berate height, it is 2,500 calories a day.

935 calories is a lot to use on one meal. And we haven’t even looked at drinks…

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A standard supermarket pizza is nowhere near 3000 calories, more like 1000.

GoodChat · 09/04/2023 08:43

@L3ThirtySeven calories don't determine if a meal is substantial - which this one was not.

Talkingtomyhouseplants · 09/04/2023 08:44

Nowhere near enough food and not really what you serve for guests. I regularly eat a whole supermarket pizza to myself (about 900 calories which isn’t egregious for dinner really). I’m a size 8 with a 24 inch waist before anyone comments that “it’s no wonder we have an obesity crisis”. Moderation is key - I wouldn’t eat that every day.

For 8 people, I would have probably served 6 pizzas, garlic bread, salad, coleslaw, potato wedges and something else like chicken goujons or breaded mushrooms. There would also be pudding.

Nothing worse than poor hosting YANBU op!

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 08:44

lala2023 · 09/04/2023 08:38

@L3ThirtySeven I find your use of the term depressing rather offensive to be honest

Sorry but you don’t get to decide what depresses me (and yes I have diagnosed depression).

supersonicginandtonic · 09/04/2023 08:45

@L3ThirtySeven 2 slices of a supermarket pizza and some salad is not enough food. Nowhere near, not for an adult who has been working or active or teenagers who've been at school and clubs.
Even my little ones would eat more than that.

RichardHeed · 09/04/2023 08:45

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 08:27

Yes, I’m being serious. 3 slices is enough unless it is a small pizza. We’ve always eaten 2 slices and a bit of green salad and that’s dinner as teens/adults.

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2 slices AND salad. That’s greedy and piggish. 1 thin slice and a half a cherry tomato should be enough to see an adult through the next week!! 🙄

blebbleb · 09/04/2023 08:46

Standard supermarket pizzas aren't 3000 cals. It's the more up market so called luxury ones with more calories. Even those don't always have that many calories. I can't abide stingy tight people. Unless there was a genuine reason to give that little food. I'd rather there was leftovers than people left hungry.

Talkingtomyhouseplants · 09/04/2023 08:46

AlexiaR · 09/04/2023 08:24

But what if that’s all they could afford?

Then don’t invite people round for a meal!

knittingaddict · 09/04/2023 08:47

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 08:21

I think it’s actually enough food unless the pizzas were very small. No wonder we have an obesity crisis if the OP thinks three slices of pizza for their DS is so little they had to stop and buy more food on the way home. It’s also depressing to note zero salad or vegetables in that meal.

How do you know that it's 3 slices of pizza?

Not to mention the usual competitive undereating in this post.

Daffodilwoman · 09/04/2023 08:48

No it’s not enough.
Its also not varied enough unless offered as nibbles rather than I’ll provide dinner.
What if you were vegetarians?
As expected though the competitive under eaters are telling you a bowl of salad is sufficient for a meal.

QuickNameChangeForMeToday · 09/04/2023 08:48

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 08:41

You have underestimated as many over-eaters do.

A large cheese pizza (no toppings) is 3000 calories
A potato waffle is 95 calories
A Chicken nugget (if baked) is 45 calories

So a 1/4 of a large cheese pizza is 750 calories plus a waffle at 95 calories and two chicken nuggets at 90 calories= 935 calories

For young women of average height, the recommended caloric intake is 2000 calories a day, for young men of berate height, it is 2,500 calories a day.

935 calories is a lot to use on one meal. And we haven’t even looked at drinks…

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You have underestimated as many over-eaters do. What a dickish comment!

You clearly overestimated substantially (x3).

To think this was not enough food?
elm26 · 09/04/2023 08:48

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 08:21

I think it’s actually enough food unless the pizzas were very small. No wonder we have an obesity crisis if the OP thinks three slices of pizza for their DS is so little they had to stop and buy more food on the way home. It’s also depressing to note zero salad or vegetables in that meal.

My DH could polish off 2 supermarket pizzas and nuggets in a sitting if he wanted to. No obesity over here, he doesn't do it but it's not the point. There wasn't enough food. At all. Not by a country mile.

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 09/04/2023 08:49

A standard supermarket pizza is nowhere near 3000 calories, more like 1000

Yep. Supermarket pizzas tend to have less calories than Pizza Hut, dominos etc. that posters massively overestimated the calories in the pizza.

MissTrip82 · 09/04/2023 08:49

People don’t count calories in meals served to guests surely.

Two mars bars each would be plenty of calories but I still wouldn’t see it as either a substantial meal or suitable to serve to guests.

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 08:49

supersonicginandtonic · 09/04/2023 08:45

@L3ThirtySeven 2 slices of a supermarket pizza and some salad is not enough food. Nowhere near, not for an adult who has been working or active or teenagers who've been at school and clubs.
Even my little ones would eat more than that.

I beg to differ. It’s enough for us and none of us are underweight or inactive.

RudsyFarmer · 09/04/2023 08:49

I’m not sure it would have bothered me that much. I’d have just made sure they are more later.