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To think this was not enough food?

324 replies

Klex · 09/04/2023 08:14

Went to visit a relative yesterday.

There were five adults, a teenager and two younger kids.

Dinner was two supermarket pizzas, 4 potato waffles and 15 chicken nuggets between all of us.

As usual her kids dived in and had to be reminded there were others.

DS is autistic and pizza is one of his safe foods. He would only touch one of them as it was plain cheese, and this only had about three slices (because DH and I gave him ours). He was hungry as he hadn't eaten lunch (he only eats one out of lunch and dinner most days).

Ended up having to get food on the way home.

AIBU to think that this wasn't enough, and I f you offer to cater for people you actually provide enough food?

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GrandmaWins · 09/04/2023 09:13

That’s 517 calories.

TBF, that's not bad for one meal. If you have two other meals and a snack or two then you'd have enough calories by the end of the day.

CherryCokeFanatic · 09/04/2023 09:13

If it wasn’t enough and you felt you and your family wouldn’t be full why didn’t you ask if they had anything else to throw in the oven?

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 09:14

GelPens1 · 09/04/2023 09:10

OP says ‘large supermarket pizza.’ I looked and a large cheese pizza from Asda is 386 calories for 1/4 of a pizza (I assume 2 slices as the pizza would be cut into 8). There’s only 1/2 potato waffle available per person so that’s 47 calories (but who’s going to bother with 1/2 waffle?). McDonald’s chicken nuggets are 42 calories each (just checked).

That’s 517 calories. However, OP’s sister’s children grabbed most of the pizza and nuggets so most people didn’t have much food at all. People wouldn’t have bothered with 1/2 potato waffle so most people would’ve probably consumed a lot less calories. This is a very stingy amount of food for 8 people, especially when these 8 people aren’t all primary school aged.

Take your eating disorder elsewhere. I hope you don’t shame your children for eating more than 1000 calories a day seeing as you grossly overestimate calories.

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I don’t have an eating disorder? I don’t shame anyone regarding food. I’m merely commenting that the food is enough food though it is not a healthy meal by any measure due to the lack of vegetables/salad. I would actually know the calories of the food we eat, but the OP scenario is short on details to be able to accurately estimate the calories. I’m not the one who introduced calories to the conversation, so there’s nothing wrong with me participating in that side bar as are many other posters.

latetothefisting · 09/04/2023 09:14

Grumpybutfunny · 09/04/2023 08:17

How much did they eat? It's much less than I would serve up but then DH ends up eating it for days afterwards.

I'm putting a lot of effort into correct portion sizes and a 1/4 of a large pizza, a waffle and a couple of chicken nuggets would be a lot of calories! So she was possibly right that it was enough food.

I've just looked on my calorie counter
1/4 a large pizza, half a waffle (because there were 4 between 8 people) and 2 chicken nuggets (slightly more than the host actually provided) comes to approx 330 calories
Not a lot for what is usually the main meal of the day by anyone's point of view!

WilsonMilson · 09/04/2023 09:15

I have questions….

Were you invited for dinner or just drinks and nibbles?
Who in the world serves up potato waffles and nuggets to adults they invite for dinner? The whole thing was bad kids meal.

Of course it’s not nearly enough food, the teens could polish that off easily between them and be looking for pudding.

Competitive under eating is a mumsnet thing though, so you’ll get plenty of miserable sods telling you it’s more than enough, but it bloody isn’t and I’d be mortified to serve up such a pathetic and low quality dinner to invited guests. Embarrassing.

GoodChat · 09/04/2023 09:15

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 08:21

I think it’s actually enough food unless the pizzas were very small. No wonder we have an obesity crisis if the OP thinks three slices of pizza for their DS is so little they had to stop and buy more food on the way home. It’s also depressing to note zero salad or vegetables in that meal.

If this isn't shaming people I don't know what is.

knittingaddict · 09/04/2023 09:16

shutthewindownow · 09/04/2023 09:10

If course it wasn't why do you need to ask

Maybe to set us off and let us go. Food threads are always "interesting" on MN.

PapadamPreach · 09/04/2023 09:16

Honestly @L3ThirtySeven , if you’re buying 3000kcal pizzas to then purposely restrict yourself to a very small portion just so you can assert that you’re in control, that does sound like an eating disorder.

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 09:17

GoodChat · 09/04/2023 09:15

If this isn't shaming people I don't know what is.

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Yes, you don’t know what shaming people is. I agree.

AfterTheGoldBrush · 09/04/2023 09:17

knittingaddict · 09/04/2023 09:16

Maybe to set us off and let us go. Food threads are always "interesting" on MN.

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Quite.

Factor in poor quality food and feral children reaching for a slice of pizza before the guests managed to grab it all and Bingo!

Casilero · 09/04/2023 09:17

GrandmaWins · 09/04/2023 09:13

That’s 517 calories.

TBF, that's not bad for one meal. If you have two other meals and a snack or two then you'd have enough calories by the end of the day.

It wouldn't be enough someone with an avtive lifestyle though. I think as we get older and less active ourselves we forget how much energy we used to need.

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 09:18

PapadamPreach · 09/04/2023 09:16

Honestly @L3ThirtySeven , if you’re buying 3000kcal pizzas to then purposely restrict yourself to a very small portion just so you can assert that you’re in control, that does sound like an eating disorder.

I’m not. What a wild assumption to make in order to create a narrative that I have an eating disorder.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 09/04/2023 09:20

Sounds very stingy, not to mention very little effort. I certainly wouldn’t be going again!

HomeTheatreSystem · 09/04/2023 09:21

Are they much older? Appetites can decrease to quite birdlike portions with age, and it's quite possible that in their mind it seemed like a huge amount of food for you all.

GoodChat · 09/04/2023 09:21

@L3ThirtySeven you're telling people that expecting more than a quarter of a pizza for lunch is the reason for an obesity crisis...

I don't know why I'm surprised, actually.

RideACockHorseToSunburyCross · 09/04/2023 09:21

I think if your teenager needs specific foods then you provide them for him. It sounds like they were planning on feeding the kids and you waded in. Maybe they didn't expect you to stay that long

Ilovecleaning · 09/04/2023 09:22

Order should have been doubled at least. But potato waffles and chicken nuggets are crap food to offer anyone especially kids.

midsomermurderess · 09/04/2023 09:22

Yerroblemom1923 · 09/04/2023 09:08

What's an Almond Mom?

Just look it up.

MasterBeth · 09/04/2023 09:22

"A slice" of pizza is not a standard measure. Neither is "a pizza".

It makes a lot of the comments on this thread redundant.

KnittingNeedles · 09/04/2023 09:22

Come on, @L3ThirtySeven. You were the one who stated that two slices of pizza, half a waffle and 2 chicken nuggets was an adequate meal. Then when posters pointed out that actually it's like 400 calories, you desperately rushed off to Google to find some figures to back up your claims. And failed, miserably, to do so.

Yes perhaps you are right that the meal is a bit lacking in veg/fruit but as a one-off that's not an issue, is it? It's fine to eat beige freezer food every so often, as long as that's not ALL you're eating.

Spendonsend · 09/04/2023 09:23

I make it around 330 calories for the combo of pizza, half a waffle and a nuggeg side, but based on the supermarket pizza we buy. So its a bit on the small side for a main meal.

Its probably about right for the younger children, but for an active teen boy the nhs says an aveage 2900 calories a day.

RideACockHorseToSunburyCross · 09/04/2023 09:23

"Order should have been doubled at least. But potato waffles and chicken nuggets are crap food to offer anyone especially kids"

Order? It wasn't a restaurant. And chicken nuggets are on every kids menu 🤣

SurferRona · 09/04/2023 09:24

PPs, I think you’re right that L3ThirtySeven has some food issues/eating disorder. When I google that same term those hits do not come out for me. Google more highly rates the sites which you’ve previously been to or shown an interest in, so L3ThirtySeven spends a lot of time on what look to me to be not authoritative and reliable food info ”info” sites (eg NHS or Change4life)

GoodChat · 09/04/2023 09:25

Ilovecleaning · 09/04/2023 09:22

Order should have been doubled at least. But potato waffles and chicken nuggets are crap food to offer anyone especially kids.

Pizza, chicken nuggets and potato waffles are pretty safe foods to serve children

ScottBakula · 09/04/2023 09:26

For everyone that is going on about the calories, pizzas vary hugely depending on the brand / type of topping but how many of you go to someone's home and work out how many calories you have eaten to decide if you liked the meal and thought there was enough purely on calories.

I am sure if you went to someone's home and they gave you a huge bowl of boiled rice you may be full and it would be very low on calories but would you be happy ? I think not.
Equally if you were given just a 2 hard boiled eggs much higher in calories but equally not satisfying.

We all need to be aware of the calories we are eating but this is not what @Klex was asking .