Is my husband right to be embarrassed when I serve soup for lunch to guests

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This is a bit of a long-running joke in our house, but underpinned by genuine feelings…

i like making soups from scratch (E.g vegetable, lentil, minestrone) and try to make them tasty, nutritious and filling. For some visitors I make soups for lunch or dinner, for the same reasons above, plus I can make them in advance and just reheat giving me more time to be attentive to guests. I also either bake or buy nice bread and butter to go with the soup. Something for pudding would be offered too.

DH gets embarrassed when I serve soup to guests, saying it’s not proper food and it’s not being hospitable. He would expect a pasta or rice dish round someone’s house, or meat.

He happily eats soup when it’s just us as a family.

AIBU to serve soup to guests? Or is he right? Generally he is more sensitive about social etiquette than me. He’s also from a Mediterranean culture, which could be a factor here.

Thanks for reading and helping us to settle this!

He can cook then if it bothers him

Soup for general lunch is fine. Not for Sunday dinner or evening meals though, unless it’s a starter.

If the soup was hearty, had protein (plant based or meat), and was served with some lovely bread I'd be very happy with that for lunch! Tbh its probably a bit light for dinner unless accompanied with a starter or some cheese after. As long as there was enough and I felt full I would probably be happy though

Is it lunch or dinner? Lunch - perfect. But I’d probably expect more for dinner.

For lunch soup is fine. For dinner it would only be ok as a starter, before a main meal.

Pretty light dinner, fabulous lunch
either way if he feels strongly about it he can cook, surely

Homemade soup and bread for a casual lunch with friends is fine. I'd love that. Also fine to start at dinner but would expect it to be followed by the main course.

Also I think being "embarrassed" is a bit harsh.

If he is that embarrassed why doesn't he do something more substantial? If I popped to a friend unannounced or it was a last minute invitation then soup would be fine but if it was a more formal/planned arrangement i would be hoping gor more than soup🙄

Soup and bread for lunch is lovely. I would find it slightly odd to be given soup and pudding for dinner if I was visiting. Nice for a family tea though.

Personly I would find it awful.

For a light lunch / snack maybe, for dinner, that would not be OK in my book. I find most soups not filling enough unless they are stew like.

absolutely fine as a lunch in general (as long as not Sunday and guests starve themselves thinking they’d get a Sunday roast or something!)
Not really something I’d serve guests for dinner (though I’d be happy with it myself if accompanied by nice bread and some pudding afterwards!).
If your DH wants something more to offer guests he can prepare and cook it himself!

As a starter for a winter' party, it's great, warming, tasty, healthy and doesn't fill people too much before the main course. And gazpacho in summer is fabulous.

If you are inviting friends for dinner and only giving them soup and bread, then that seems odd imo

If you are inviting friends for a light lunch (not main Sunday lunch), soup is fine, imo

Also , as husband is so vocal about the niceties of food, let him cook. I'm sure he'd be marvellous and get everything just right

Homemade soup, good bread and a decent cheeseboard would be a lovely lunch. Add in some red wine to go with the cheese and I’d be very happy with that!

I love soup so would be happy with that for lunch with some nice bread.

Lovely for lunch - really lovely with bread and cheese. But not for dinner no. I've not really thought about why before, so it's interesting. But in some weird way it's not formal enough? Too much risk of dribbling and sploshing? (or is that just me and my guests?) and I don't have 'formal' dinner parties either - just friends and wine... Oddly also I don't consider whether the food is particularly nutritious on these occasions. Just damn tasty and celebratory in quantity and style. Soup doesn't seem celebratory to me.

Soup anytime is good. I’d be happy lunch or dinner. Dinner you don’t need heavy meals anyway.

I would only serve to guests at dinner as a starter. At lunch I would only do one course, so no I don’t think I would serve just soup. I would have it myself for lunch, but I would offer guests more, no matter how good or home made it is. I think it is a bit embarrassing to be honest, although if your husband feels that way, he can always cook himself.

I would be happy with a homemade soup for lunch. I do it with bread and cheese or garlic bread with cheese . OK also for a quick informal tea but not for a proper dinner for guests.

Does his penis stop him from providing food for guests?

Would only serve to guests as lunch but with some fab bread and maybe cheese. For dinner not really - but would depend a lot on situation- family popping over yes

What an awesome thing to give a guest, I'd love that and would appreciate it far more than pasta and rice based dishes which often are high on carbs and low on quality nutrients (which is fine for a basic quick tea, but I wouldn't give it to a guest). For dinner it might need some other nibbles to add like a smorgasbord or cheeses.
Love a homemade soup!

He should do the cooking or shut up