DH gave our two year old chilli coated peanuts whilst I was at work

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I wouldn’t dream of giving her a whole peanut. I asked him why, and he said he was sat with her and she was chewing properly. Aibu to think that’s really risky regardless?

She’s only just turned two also.

Did she like them?

What is your concern exactly?

Well apparently she had a tantrum when they were gone so I’d say so.

What's he done wrong? He gave her something, made sure she ate it properly, and nothing happened.

Choking

I love that she liked the taste, you clearly have an adventurous little eater! Unfortunately you are right though and they are a choking hazard. He probably didn’t realise so just tell him to crush them up for her next time. Or are you worried he won’t listen?

I'm.not sure why you think a child sitting down and chewing properly with an adult is something to be alarmed about?

I would be worked up over a brazil nut but not a peanut.

I'd make sure he was first aid trained.

I think peanuts are too small to be a choking hazard?

Aren't people aware you're not supposed to give a child whole nuts until age 5? I thought everyone knew this. They're one of the most choking hazardy things there is.

How do you think kids learn to chew food? They need to experience different food.

Nothing about what your DH has done is wrong. Your reaction is though.

He would listen. I was just worried about choking because I had a scary moment with her when she was little. I cut up everything including blueberries. He’s abit more relaxed, clearly and it gives me anxiety. Maybe I need to take a chill pill. Haha, thanks. She won’t eat veg, sadly but loves her fruit.

I am not sure I really go with the advice peanuts are hazards.

Most food ‘could be’ a choking Hazard. Kids should be eating food of different taste and texture.

I also think, since he is a her parent he can also make a risk assessment himself.

If you think he can’t be trusted there’s bigger problems.

Can’t see any problem if she’s supervised, how else will they learn to eat normally

I wouldn't give my 2 year old whole nuts so I understand your concern.

Well she’s still alive and everything was fine so you tell him you’re against it if you feel so strongly and then you move on?

advice for nurseries is not under 5 years of age but it is probably reasonable to assume that as your daughter was supervised 1:1 by a parent this wouldn't necessarily be a rule to follow so strictly at home (but there's quite a difference between 5 and 2.

Discuss with OH, make a plan moving forward. Whole grapes, cherry tomatoes and jelly cubes were the things that scared me.

I get you OP. People can be surprisingly naive when it comes to small children and choking. It can happen even under the supervision of an adult and sat down. Why take the risk when all your husband has to do is crush the peanuts in half or quarters.

It's great that your child enjoyed the strong flavour though. Very adventurous!

You don't need to chill OP a whole peanut is a ridiculous thing to give to a young child. Not too small to be a choking hazard, do people know how small toddlers windpipes are?

I don't give whole peanuts (or unsliced grapes) to my four year old. Even the seven year old still gets sliced grapes, albeit she slices them herself these days. School insist on sliced only in lunchboxes regardless of age so even the year sixes have them sliced. They're nut free so don't know what they'd say about peanuts.

Nothing wrong with toddlers having peanuts/peanut butter etc but tell your DH not to give them whole.

My 2yr 2mth year old has tried nuts. They are teeny tiny and she's supervised to bite them and chew properly.
Obviously we cut up grapes, cherry tomatoes, hotdogs etc (for her and 5yr old brother)

Of course you shouldn't give whole peanuts to a two year old. Amazed anyone would think otherwise. A quick google will tell you not to give them to a child under 5 - because they are a choking hazard.

Since she didn't choke I would just say that you would prefer she didn't have them due to the choking risk in future.

I’d agree with this.

All foods are choking hazards really. He gave his child food in a supervised, appropriate manner.

Unless there’s a dripfeed or history of crap parenting, I’d say yes, you’re being unreasonable.