DH gave our two year old chilli coated peanuts whilst I was at work

[Staffielove23]

I wouldn’t dream of giving her a whole peanut. I asked him why, and he said he was sat with her and she was chewing properly. Aibu to think that’s really risky regardless?

I do give my 3yo whole nuts; but we actively sit together and practice exaggeratedly how to chew and swallow them safely. We did this because I also look after my 8yo autistic nephew and nuts (specifically peanuts and cashews) are one of his safe foods, and while he's careful with them they do sometimes get dropped etc and I didn't want my 3yo to be cavalier if he one day found/stole one and decided to eat it.

We also do grapes whole at home. He knows he must take bites and chew chew chew. When out and about we do quarter grapes as advised. I just don't want the first time he comes into contact with a whole grape to be at a birthday party or playdate or something and for the worst to happen - so we prepare at home (yes I have pretty bad anxiety)

Foreign body aspiration can cause death and the main victims are small children. Peanuts are the right size to get lodged in a toddler's windpipe and are very difficult to get out. Pieces of hotdog, incidentally, are supposed to be very dangerous for young kids due to size, shape and general difficulty of extraction.

My friend's little nephew choked to death on a grape, given to him by his dad whilst his pregnant mum was out shopping. On the day of his funeral, his baby brother was born. No family should go through that pain for such a trivial little thing. It's not worth the risk.

No. Never heard this before.

There are a billion foods a child can have safely. Nuts are not one of them, why risk it? I could confidently follow the procedure to stop them choking, but it's not always successful & id much rather it have to try.

nuts are very easy to be 'eating properly' and yet accidentally inhale one.

@Staffielove23 explain to numb nuts why even sitting down, eating them nicely will not prevent her from choking on them. Jesus Christ the man's an idiot...but seems he's not the only one!

Exactly this! Awesome she is adventurous with her eating but at that age they can gulp with out chewing sometimes A&E are full of stories of little ones choking on everyday foods that were not chewed but gulped down

I don't know how I survived my childhood.

I don't know how I survived my childhood.

Yep And I was never in a car crash so don't bother with seat belts.

When my son was 2 he LOVED pistachios. I wouldn't leave him unattended to eat them and I had watched various training videos of how to help a young child who was choking so I felt confident I could have helped if needed. I didn't ever need to but better to be prepared.

My now adult son helped himself to nuts left on a low table at Greek in-laws. He was aged about one or two. Back then, any type of nut given to a toddler was considered a massive no-no. Got to him too late. He ate them, survived. I relaxed.

This

I only learned about the slicing grape thing, well after I'd let my baby/toddler have grapes whole, it didn't cross my mind and he could chew them fine. After reading the horror stories I started slicing. My now two year old loves a coated peanut and has whole blueberries. I still slice grapes, but I kinda think they also need to learn how to consume things, and of they're being supervised, then that should be OK.