DH gave our two year old chilli coated peanuts whilst I was at work

[Staffielove23]

I wouldn’t dream of giving her a whole peanut. I asked him why, and he said he was sat with her and she was chewing properly. Aibu to think that’s really risky regardless?

Seems stupid. Peanuts are such a choking hazard, and I'd assume the chilli makes it that much riskier. A peanut is basically the exact size of a child's windpipe. I wouldn't risk it personally.

I knew you had to slice grapes and small cherry tomatoes, but I didn’t know about peanuts.

I knew they said don’t give them to kids, but I presumed it was because they used ti say it increased allergy risk.

Every days a school day!

A friends 5 year old died after choking on a small vitamin tablet, so there is no way I’d give a 2 year old whole peanuts.

Oh giving nuts to a toddler and coated in Chilli? No, I am not surprised you are unhappy, I would be as well.

@Staffielove23
"He would listen. I was just worried about choking because I had a scary moment with her when she was little. I cut up everything including blueberries. He’s abit more relaxed, clearly and it gives me anxiety. Maybe I need to take a chill pill. Haha, thanks. She won’t eat veg, sadly but loves her fruit."

Make sure you cut the chill pill in half before you swallow it. You don't want to choke on it.

It's because they are solid, and even if bitten a chunk could easily block the air pipe. Avoid all nuts until 4 I think it is. Also only give smooth peanut butter (not chunky).

Beside the point ... but how can you choke on coffee? Choking is when something blocks your airpipe and prevents you from breathing. How can a liquid do that? Surely that's just when it "goes down the wrong way"?

@Phoebo you absolutely can choke on liquid. This wasn't a "gone down the wrong way" thing. He went blue and passed out.
When my mum did the heimlich on him a big glob of coffee shot out of his mouth, hit the window and then run down it. So it was completely liquid.

Non problem

In this case we are discussing a two year old.

Oh r you not meant to give 2 year old peanuts ?

The Solid Starts website is really useful for this kind of info. My partner and I both have the app on our phones and look up new food items before serving. According to it peanuts are a slight choking hazard but can be served at this age with proper precautions, which it sounds like he took.

But peanuts are smaller than grapes sliced lengthwise as recommended?

I would be very concerned. Do you know she’s not allergic to peanuts? I’ve heard that you shouldn’t give peanuts to kids under 5. I don’t know if that has changed recently.

That’s completely wrong, nuts can be given as first weaning foods (you’d obviously go peanut butter not whole nuts) and the current school of thought is that earlier introduction may prevent allergies. Obviously there’s different guidance if there’s family history of allergies though.

Would you say whole nuts covered in something which may make a child cough (chilli) is appropriate precautions?

Guidance from NHS is very clear. Whole not for under 5s. YANBU

You're supposed to introduce a small amount of peanut butter early on to check for allergies. But not whole peanuts.

That she could choke.

Nope, you're 100% wrong there. The guidelines have indeed changed recently (and were never suggesting you shouldn't offer a 2 yr old with no allergy in the family peanuts) and suggest parents should feed babies small amounts of peanut from 4-6 months to COUNTERACT serious nut allergy. Prior to that, but fairly recently, there's also the suggestion that pregnant and breastfeeding mothers should eat peanuts during and after pregnancy, again to sensitise babies to peanuts and avoid serious allergy.

The take-home here is that carefully guarding children against potential allergens (unless you have good reason to think they may have food allergies) does far more harm than good. Serious food allergies are spiking now and it's fairly clear that it's human behaviour that has caused this.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/mar/17/give-peanut-foods-babies-four-months-cut-allergy-risk

Of course they're not. Grapes and sausages (particularly hot dogs) are a far greater risk because of their shape and texture.

Of course they're not. Grapes and sausages (particularly hot dogs) are a far greater risk because of their shape and texture.

No you're wrong. Nuts are a choking risk also.

Back to the NHS guidelines.