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Lizziespring · 09/04/2023 19:47

My favourite of all these massively difficult tasks is definitely "Feed the dogs water".....

Mirabai · 09/04/2023 19:52

@Gablonz I think a lot of these ludicrous posts are not down to stupidity and jealousy but people simply coming on here to be as mean and awful as they possibly can.

And just like that @Lizziespring appeared with her ohsofunny GIF.

Delatron · 09/04/2023 19:54

Lizziespring · 09/04/2023 19:47

My favourite of all these massively difficult tasks is definitely "Feed the dogs water".....

Do you understand the phrase ‘the straw that broke the camel’s back’?

Obviously it’s not a difficult task. But the OP was pointing out that along with doing everything around the house - her partner does nothing - doesn’t ever even fill up the dog’s water bowl, doesn’t see all the little things that need doing along with all the big things such as cleaning the bathrooms and cooking every single day. That is why she listed it.

Delatron · 09/04/2023 19:56

Mirabai · 09/04/2023 19:52

@Gablonz I think a lot of these ludicrous posts are not down to stupidity and jealousy but people simply coming on here to be as mean and awful as they possibly can.

And just like that @Lizziespring appeared with her ohsofunny GIF.

Yeah - I’m giving up on this thread! Utter stupidity.

Gablonz · 09/04/2023 20:00

Delatron · 09/04/2023 19:54

Do you understand the phrase ‘the straw that broke the camel’s back’?

Obviously it’s not a difficult task. But the OP was pointing out that along with doing everything around the house - her partner does nothing - doesn’t ever even fill up the dog’s water bowl, doesn’t see all the little things that need doing along with all the big things such as cleaning the bathrooms and cooking every single day. That is why she listed it.

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Exactly. And I assume she actually meant feed the dogs and give them water, rather than just give them water.
The whole point about it is that the useless fuck does nothing and expects the dogs to be magically fed, watered and walked, in exactly the same way as he expects shopping to be magically ordered, bills to be paid, food to be cooked and the house to be cleaned.
He contributes absolutely nothing whatsoever towards the nice life he is living there and is so comfortable he's even talking about going part-time.

Quartz2208 · 09/04/2023 20:03

I find this thread incredibly frustrating. OP is clearly in an unhappy relationship that she wants out of because she gets nothing out of it at all. Why should she live like this - certainly not to make his life easier considering he does nothing to make her life better.

Anyone who wants the OPs life and day rather than being jealous of a clearly unhappy person trapped in a loveless relationship should maybe take a look at theirs and work out why.

because if it is how much she earns then that is one assumes because she has worked hard

WorkHardPlayHard1 · 09/04/2023 20:29

You are definitely doing more in the home and bringing more into the home so the imbalance is real.

He is taking you for granted and will be getting a free ride if he has his way.

Time for you to have a serious chat so he pulls his weight and you don't feel like a mug. Sounds like you are getting fed up and he needs to know this!

Best wishes and let me know how you get on.

You are right for what its worth xx

HomeTheatreSystem · 09/04/2023 20:35

WorkHardPlayHard1 · 09/04/2023 20:29

You are definitely doing more in the home and bringing more into the home so the imbalance is real.

He is taking you for granted and will be getting a free ride if he has his way.

Time for you to have a serious chat so he pulls his weight and you don't feel like a mug. Sounds like you are getting fed up and he needs to know this!

Best wishes and let me know how you get on.

You are right for what its worth xx

No to the chats: once he realises he's about to lose his cushy lifestyle, he'll be promising her anything and everything. It won't last 5 minutes before he lapses and takes the piss again.

Plenty on here think he's a catch, OP has wised up to him.

Twentyfirstcenturymumma · 09/04/2023 21:03

@Delatron 'It’s rare that the woman would sit around and do zero housework or help out with anything though isn’t it? It’s even rarely 50:50 even with both working full time so irrelevant post.'

Not totally irrelevant. 'rare' is a sexist assumption. I have 5 adult ds and 4 adult dd. In all these partnerships the men do the big majority of cooking, shopping and cleaning chores as well the more understandablly male 'heavier' jobs, requiring more muscle power. All the adults work full time outside the home.
Throughout lots and lots of years between them at university in shared student houses it was similar in that the 'girl' students were messier, sometimes in really revolting ways, than the 'boy' students in the houses.

Please don't tell me this is irrelevant to OP's post, I know it is. I've already expressed my support for her more than once on here.

I am simply replying to @Delatron@Delatron's comment

Couldntgive2hoots · 09/04/2023 21:15

Spiderplantweb · 05/04/2023 10:42

My day-
alarm goes off at 7, I get straight up get ready take the dogs out at 7:30, back at 8:30, feed the dogs water, put kettle on, unload the dishwasher, have breakfast. Go upstairs make beds
9:00 start work at my £85k a year job.
12:30 take dogs out, put hoover round and grab lunch.
1:30 get back to work. Pay a few bills and organise shopping delivery.
6:00 he comes home, we take dogs out. I cook dinner load dishwasher, feed dogs, wipe round kitchen.
8:00 we sit down to watch tv

his day

7:00 gets woken up by my alarm, tools over goes back to sleep until 8:15.
8:30 gets out of bed, gets ready to go to work
9:00 leaves house for £28k a year job he loves
17:00 comes back home and sits down to watch tv until I am ready to go out.
1800 accompanies me on the evening walk and then watches tv until dinner is ready
1930 joins me for dinner and then goes back to watch TV.

Im an absolute bloody mug aren’t I.

😂😂😂Jesus christ...I'd love even just a week of your typical day...heck I'd live a day of it. Sorry love but you basically do naff all either.
Try having 3 kids who earn 0...but spend like they on your salary. 3 kids with 3 - 4 extra curricular clubs/sporting activities each that you have to attend with them because they're too young to go alone. Plus a volunteering job in the evenings on top of your (not quite £85k) normal job as well.

Get a grip,you're not a mug....you're deluded

Couldntgive2hoots · 09/04/2023 21:19

billy1966 · 08/04/2023 15:17

Me neither.

I feel so sorry for the OP that she has tolerated this lazy selfish waster who could care less about her for so long.

Wasting her life paying for the lifestyle of a man who could care less about her.

She works hard for thinks she deserves no more that to be this losers skivvy at home.

Of course he loves his life eith her🙄.

He has it made.🙄.

One precious life and she's wasting it on a complete loser.

So sad.

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The saying is "couldn't care less". Not "could care less".
If someone COULD care less it means they care enough, that there could care less and still care.
However, when you use the saying properly..."couldn't" care less means that they already care so little that they cannot less less...because they do not care.

BlueLabel · 09/04/2023 21:20

Couldntgive2hoots if you truly look at a situation where a woman is being taken advantage by a man and think "God I'd love that" then both you and likely your kids need therapy. It's mad how you've made your choice to have kids sound like a burden, rendering you incapable of compassion or logical thought.

Your poor kids.

Mirabai · 09/04/2023 21:40

Couldntgive2hoots · 09/04/2023 21:15

😂😂😂Jesus christ...I'd love even just a week of your typical day...heck I'd live a day of it. Sorry love but you basically do naff all either.
Try having 3 kids who earn 0...but spend like they on your salary. 3 kids with 3 - 4 extra curricular clubs/sporting activities each that you have to attend with them because they're too young to go alone. Plus a volunteering job in the evenings on top of your (not quite £85k) normal job as well.

Get a grip,you're not a mug....you're deluded

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And they just keep coming. Oh if only you’d RTFT eh?

Mirabai · 09/04/2023 21:41

I'd love even just a week of your typical day

Why have 3 kids then? 🤔 That choice was open to you.

Couldntgive2hoots · 09/04/2023 21:46

BlueLabel · 09/04/2023 21:20

Couldntgive2hoots if you truly look at a situation where a woman is being taken advantage by a man and think "God I'd love that" then both you and likely your kids need therapy. It's mad how you've made your choice to have kids sound like a burden, rendering you incapable of compassion or logical thought.

Your poor kids.

She only has herself to care for...she chooses to do it for him then complains.

I love being a parent..but it is also a chore. Any parent being honest will tell you the same. Its hard work...but its also rewarding. But yeah...I wouldn't mine a day where I just get up and only have to get myself dressed, can pee when I want to without an audience and can maybe even get a hot brew whilst also having time for an actual breakfast. As I said tho ..only a week at most. I enjoy being mum too much for any longer than that.

And let's face it...she's exaggerated her story to death. She does her shopping and pays bills EVERY DAY ??
Most of us have direct debits set up so don't even have got think about them...and they're usually monthly

Shopping is weekly surely?

If you're going to come on here looking for sympathy, tell you truth. Don't make an already pathetic woe is me story sound even worse by covering it in bull crap too.

Couldntgive2hoots · 09/04/2023 21:48

Mirabai · 08/04/2023 09:34

MN is full of women who are far too self-centred to answer questions objectively. They simply relate everything to themselves, attack posters they perceive as having better lives than them, and call other people “narcissists”. You couldn’t make it up.

My view of MN is that its full of women with such little self confidence (or so much self importance) they feel the need to share every tiny insignificant decision and get the opinions of total strangers when it would be easier to just put their big girl knicks on and follow common sense

Mirabai · 09/04/2023 21:56

Couldntgive2hoots · 09/04/2023 21:48

My view of MN is that its full of women with such little self confidence (or so much self importance) they feel the need to share every tiny insignificant decision and get the opinions of total strangers when it would be easier to just put their big girl knicks on and follow common sense

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So much self confidence they would overlook a sponging layabout 🤔

Thrashing a thread about a lazy boyfriend with self-centred whiffle about your 3 little smashers? Why not just start your own thread on Netmums?

Couldntgive2hoots · 09/04/2023 21:58

Mirabai · 09/04/2023 21:56

So much self confidence they would overlook a sponging layabout 🤔

Thrashing a thread about a lazy boyfriend with self-centred whiffle about your 3 little smashers? Why not just start your own thread on Netmums?

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I function perfectly well in my life without having to ask strangers what they think of me / shower me with sympathy...if I have a problem I discuss it in real life with actual friends.

Mirabai · 09/04/2023 22:05

You don’t seem to be able to function without hijacking a thread to talk about yourself? Why not bore your friends instead?

Nanny0gg · 09/04/2023 22:11

hayleymj · 09/04/2023 16:37

Your day seems very nice to me 🤷🏻‍♀️ a lot easier than most . IMO you’re making a big deal out of nothing .

Can you read?

Nanny0gg · 09/04/2023 22:13

Couldntgive2hoots · 09/04/2023 21:48

My view of MN is that its full of women with such little self confidence (or so much self importance) they feel the need to share every tiny insignificant decision and get the opinions of total strangers when it would be easier to just put their big girl knicks on and follow common sense

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So why are you here?

BlueLabel · 09/04/2023 22:20

I enjoy being mum too much for any longer than that. but presumably if you were expected to be a mum to a fully capable adult you'd tap out here like the OP is doing?

Your post reeks of self centred ignorance. Because the OP doesn't have three kids she'd wish away for a day or 6 she must be exaggerating her shit partner?

Most parents don't look at shit relationships and say that sounds dreamy compared to their kids.

Delatron · 09/04/2023 22:22

Twentyfirstcenturymumma · 09/04/2023 21:03

@Delatron 'It’s rare that the woman would sit around and do zero housework or help out with anything though isn’t it? It’s even rarely 50:50 even with both working full time so irrelevant post.'

Not totally irrelevant. 'rare' is a sexist assumption. I have 5 adult ds and 4 adult dd. In all these partnerships the men do the big majority of cooking, shopping and cleaning chores as well the more understandablly male 'heavier' jobs, requiring more muscle power. All the adults work full time outside the home.
Throughout lots and lots of years between them at university in shared student houses it was similar in that the 'girl' students were messier, sometimes in really revolting ways, than the 'boy' students in the houses.

Please don't tell me this is irrelevant to OP's post, I know it is. I've already expressed my support for her more than once on here.

I am simply replying to @Delatron@Delatron's comment

It is irrelevant- unless the women in the situations you describe sit around on their arses doing nothing around the house whilst the men do everything? No I thought not..

Delatron · 09/04/2023 22:24

Mirabai · 09/04/2023 21:40

And they just keep coming. Oh if only you’d RTFT eh?

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Yeah, they are just making themselves look very stupid though!

LowBar · 09/04/2023 22:34

Idtotallybangdreamoftheendlessnotgonnalie · 08/04/2023 08:52

Get him to feed the dogs, implement the rule "one cooks, one cleans, you pick".

Sorted.

She doesn't love him so we are beyond that.
Op just get rid.
I bet all your friends will not be surprised.