Threatening police, have I done anything wrong?

[Salemtrust]

I've taken Dd and some of her friends(10-12) away for the week. Unfortunately I've had family emergency come up today and am going to have to leave tomorrow to help. Dsd (23) and her bf have offered to come and take over. The girls all seen more than happy with this, they have an event on Thursday which was the whole reason for the trip and want to stay.
I've called the other parents to let them know and one parent was furious and said that they don't want someone else looking after their child and that I need to either stay or bring their child home.
I've said they are welcome to come and get their child (4hour drive) and I'm happy to arrange and pay to send her home on public transport but I can't stay or bring her home so if not she will come home Friday as planned. They are now threatening to call the police saying its kidnap and endangerment and I've changed the terms they agreed to send their child on.
Have I do a anything wrong? Am I being unreasonable?

This is not true. It’s obvious from op response re the dc becoming distressed and sending them on public transport. No parent in their right mind would think it was ok for a 10 or 11 year old to travel on public transport from an unfamiliar location for 2 hours or more. Anyone who even considered this has a serious lack of responsibility and judgment. I don’t for a second believe this is real.

Not good.

To be honest, I wouldn't put this past a lot of parents. We've just returned from a well known holiday park in a typical British seaside resort. There were a large number of young children, unsupervised, left to their own devices, causing havoc, and just plain lacking in general parental oversight. We saw a lot of parents slobbing around, drinking, not observing their kids at all, and totally neglecting the basic needs of their offspring above their own. Frightening. Seriously, some of the parents bleating on here should possibly look a little more inwardly before criticising others who genuinely need support and a bit of compassion in a crisis. It certainly opened my eyes whilst away. Unbelievable some of it!

When my daughter was much older than 10, she had to make her way up to Cambridge, after school finished, (two train journeys) to join us there for her brother’s graduation. I was not comfortable with her travelling alone so asked a friend to go on the train with her, and take her across London to another station to catch train for Cambridge where we met her. The idea of letting a 10 year old travel for two hours on a train by herself, possibly with train changes, would be risky and irresponsible in my view. I can remember being alone on a train at 15, when I noticed the man opposite me was exposing himself behind his newspaper, I was terrified, having my back to the rest of the carriage, I didn’t want to turn round to check if there was anyone there incase there wasn’t and he noticed I had seen him. I got off at the next stop, and so did he. Luckily he wasn’t following me but it shook me up. A 10 year old on her own on a train, no way.

It says a lot about the OP to even suggest it …absolutely crazy.

Both here in the wrong as who in charge has changed. However not kidnapping etc and not police matter. Can you stay till they collect her or meet half way

I’m afraid that, because of my own experience, I am horrified when parents leave their kids to be looked after by others or let them go on sleepovers. The thought gives me nightmares so luckily I don’t have kids.