If she has kids?
There's a girl of 20 years old at work and she was asked if she had any children the other day. Felt that was a bit young to be asked. I wouldn't ask anyone under 23 personally.
AIBU?
At what age do you ask a woman....
LilacRain12 · 02/04/2023 12:30
Am I being unreasonable?
236 votes. Final results.
POLLTribute219 · 02/04/2023 12:32
Does it matter? She either does or doesn't.
I can't see how asking is offensive.
PurpleBananaSmoothie · 02/04/2023 12:34
You don’t. She might not want kids. She might be struggling with fertility. She might feel she can’t afford kids or hasn’t met the right partner. She might have lost her children. She might have children but want to be defined as more than just her role as a mother.
If someone has kids and they want to talk about their kids, they’ll bring them up. How is this even still a debate to be had?
Tribute219 · 02/04/2023 12:35
Obviously there's no need to ask anyone this. Or anything else about their life outside work ever.
But how do people get to know each other without asking questions?
Ridiculous how offended people are. On the flip side, no one showing an interest is also offensive 😂
L3ThirtySeven · 02/04/2023 12:40
I think it’s ok to ask if you’re getting to know each other and they know you have DC. It’s only natural to ask “have you got any too?”
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Aprilx · 02/04/2023 12:43
No. If you are talking about your children to someone and they don’t say anything back about their own, then the chances are they don’t have children. There really is no need to ask. I was unable to have children and was asked by a stranger at my new job on Friday and it was not a conversation I wanted to have. Perhaps you think it is natural to ask, but perhaps you should actually find more empathy and think a bit harder about it in future.
L3ThirtySeven · 02/04/2023 12:40
I think it’s ok to ask if you’re getting to know each other and they know you have DC. It’s only natural to ask “have you got any too?”
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