AIBU to be a little miserable

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We are supposed to be flying out this afternoon on a big family holiday. First big holiday since our plans were cancelled in April 2020 - and with us both working in the NHS we could do with the break

Unfortunately DP has started with a migraine this morning. Happens once every few months. Severe headache, paracetamol and ibuprofen not touching it. Doesn’t look like we can fly today - and no flights tomorrow

Obviously we are all a bit pissed off about this - but DP has just told me off for being miserable and said I need to snap out of this. Given this is a much wanted holiday - and we’ll probably not be covered by insurance for this - am I allowed to wallow in a little misery?

They're not tiny humans, they're teenagers

How would you walk through an airport?

I usually have to have someone to help me up out of the bed to the toilet and it has to be very slow or I will fall down.

The few times I had to try to go by myself, I had to slide down to the floor and crawl to the toilet, lie on the floor for awhile and then get myself on the toilet, then lie back down on the floor for awhile. I'm guessing it would take an hour to do it myself in total.

I don't see how people can just get up and walk with a migraine?
The zig zaggy auras I can't see so would run into something if I could walk and my balance is so messed up, I can't stand without assistance.

My auras are bad, like cracked glass surrounding me, I get dizzy but can walk l, even at its worst I can walk while wearing dark sunglasses and someone holding my arm. Assisted by my husband and with children who were independent I could get onto a long haul flight then fall asleep.

I’d be bloody furious a grown man had never seen a doctor to get proper medication when he knows it impacts on his family. Sumatriptan is the thing. He really wants to spoil it for everyone? What a wanker.

Yes, migraine is not a bad headache for those who think it is
I once developed a migraine during flight to Australia with teenagers and DH. I had to be taken to the back of the plane, vomiting, put on oxygen, it was very cold there
During a slightly longer transit stop at Dubai I was rushed on a stretcher to the medical facility there, seen by a doctor, pain-killing and anti emetic injections, allowed to rest for for 30 mins, flight delayed slightly for me. Reassessed by doctor, allowed back on, much better. Thankfully for me my migraines only last about 12 hours then fantastic post dromal euphoria, almost makes it worth it but not quite

🏖️👏👏👏

Are you equally furious that a grown woman has done the same?

Maybe stop being furious and read the updates.

RTFT

OP’s wife was the one suffering with the migraine and being the ‘wanker’.

They are now all on the holiday.

Why don’t people read the thread before commenting.
its over
done
end of
they’re on holiday having an amazing time!
nothing else to be said.

It’s the wife who is ill. Still a wanker?

Aw yay, now enjoy your holiday :-)

Only migraleave ( spelt wrong) works for migraines pain. I’ve had to work with it. He needs to man up.

He(the I’ll person) is a woman

still need to “man up”?

I don’t see why not, it’s a saying, we say it all the time regardless of sex.

Loads of people said the wife needs to toughen up and get on with it. This desperation to prove double standards where they are not at all in evidence here (see all the posters who got the sex right and still made numerous disparaging comments and insinuations!) is so tedious.

almost (if not) all of the disparaging, accusatory, man up type of comments are referring to “he”. Unless I’ve missed some, none refer to “she”

You've missed a lot then.

Look for drama queen, manipulative, selfish, making a fuss, trying to get out of the holiday, how can she contemplate letting the kids miss out, she needs to get on with it - the thread is absolutely full of it. It isn't plausible that you've read it and only seen criticism from posters who think the migraine sufferer is a man.

I found one post on page 4 saying she’s selfish, and one on page 9 saying she needs to woman up

there have many many saying “he” is faking it, being a wimp, being selfish, etc

There are a lot more than that. And plenty of posters making the assumption it's a man having been corrected then repeat the same comment applying it to her. People tend to default to assuming posts are written by heterosexual women referring to male partners hence the male pronouns. But those who read the updates and those who were put right put the boot into her too - as I said, drama queen and manipulative came up repeatedly along with the rest.

Of course you're allowed to wallow! I'd have ditched him and gone ahead

Just hope they're having a brilliant holiday, really!

Nothing to wallow about.

They are all on their holiday now.

Oh, and it was the wife who had the migraine.

Tbf, I can't take that for mine. Not everyone can. That said, I wouldn't not go on holiday even if I had a severe migraine. And certainly not if I was well enough to say get over it to my OH which he essentially did