SIL going out

[Lopsylol]

So I know this is none of my business just my opinion and I was wondering if people thought the same as me or not (I’m sure many of you will say it’s not my business and that’s okay I’m just someone quietly sat here in the corner it’s not like I’m actually going to say something to her)
so my SIL is literally 12 days out from having a c section and she’s going out on a boozy brunch today, her boyfriend well he’s out too because her mum has the baby tonight not sure what he is doing but AIBU to think that that is just too much too soon? Last thing I thought after having my baby was going out let alone after major surgery like surely at least one of them should be home with their new born?

Not your baby or body so keep your opinion to yourself.

It's entirely up to her. Not your business.

None of your business whatsoever, get over yourself.

If she feels up to it then why not? I'm sure the baby will be well looked after.

Nothing to do with you

It's not a choice that I would make for myself but since I wouldn't want anyone to judge my choices I wouldn't be getting involved at all. We all deal with life in different ways.

Literally none of your business. As long as the baby is happy, healthy and left with a responsible adult that’s all that matters.

What's the issue with it?

It’s surprising to be fair; at 12 days post c section just having a shower was an effort so going out wouldn’t have been on my radar and yes everyone is different and it’s not anyone’s business but I wouldn’t have thought to leave my baby

I would be in awe she felt up to it. It's so easy to lose yourself in motherhood.

AIBU to think that that is just too much too soon? Last thing I thought after having my baby was going out let alone after major surgery like surely at least one of them should be home with their new born?

Okay so don’t go out of your house so soon after having a baby if you don’t want to. In the real world there’s nothing wrong with her going for a brunch with friends.

So shit stirring, god help your SIL and DH too at that.

Everyone is a winner sil gets night out
her boyfriend gets night out
her mum gets to look after grandchild
and you have the pleasure of bitching and judging her

I wasn't up to it 12 days after my csection . I did leave mine from quite early by mn standards though. Think about 4 weeks with ds 3

I think it’s lovely that she feels comfortable and well enough to catch up with friends over brunch- hope she has a lovely day and the baby has quality gran time

Good for her!! So glad she has such a supportive network around her so she is able to let her hair down after (a) being pregnant for 9 months (b) having a newborn baby.

YANBU, NHS guidance is not to exert yourself too much for 6 weeks after a c-section.

The replies are so predictable on here.

Now if the
grandmother wanted to have the new born overnight the replies would be brutal 😁
A new born needs to bond with mum ect.

I'm sure the baby won't grow up with long lasting psychological issues because their parents went out for boozy brunch for a few hours.

What interest has a 12 day old baby in getting time with a third person? Two primary care givers is enough at less than two weeks old.
I think it's good she's getting out but the baby would be better off with his dad.

I’m amazed that she feels up to it but fair enough! To be honest I’d have given the baby to anyone for a break by that point 😆 it’s not like the baby will remember it or whatever, it’s a night out and the baby is well cared for by someone who loves it. All good.

I've had for dc , going on a night out occasionally didn't stop any bonding etc

Totally their decision. I had a c section and I was fine after a week, but my hairdresser commented after her c section she struggled for three weeks. We are all different so I would never judge. The baby is going to be well cared for.

It was brunch, not twelve hours down t' pit

That's brave of her, I would have been a hormonal mess with sore boobs.