SIL going out

[Lopsylol]

So I know this is none of my business just my opinion and I was wondering if people thought the same as me or not (I’m sure many of you will say it’s not my business and that’s okay I’m just someone quietly sat here in the corner it’s not like I’m actually going to say something to her)
so my SIL is literally 12 days out from having a c section and she’s going out on a boozy brunch today, her boyfriend well he’s out too because her mum has the baby tonight not sure what he is doing but AIBU to think that that is just too much too soon? Last thing I thought after having my baby was going out let alone after major surgery like surely at least one of them should be home with their new born?

It's shocking. You never get that time back.

just to be clear the rationale that this is fine is to compare a brunch to working and a newborn to a 10year old…

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

No the rationale that this is fine is that its fine.

How is not?

What harm is being done?

@Newname221 , good on you mate and I mean that. Like I say I misread as "proper drinking night out", no experience of c-section and was just cringing at if the night took a turn for the daft.

No. It's fine because it is absolutely fine.

1 brunch not attached to your baby is such a non issue.

It's not my rationale, my rationale is that it's fine because it just is.
What's yours? Tell us what might feasibly happen as a result of going to brunch?

Thank God for you @Newname221 good to see you know how to do mothering properly.

My baby is nearly 30 and I still use reins when we are out and about. I like to feel he is properly attached to me at all times.

I definitely definitely didn't go out for an Italian meal when he was two weeks old with my DH, enjoy wine, pate and espresso whilst abandoning him to the arms of my ever so capable and loving MIL, who did a sterling job with aforementioned DH. What kind of monster would I be to do that? Certainly not a real mummy.

I don't see it that way at all.

Newborns need their parents. That's my opinion, based on what I feel is right. Not based on any of my "issues".

I went back to work 10 days after mine. Do not project your emotion onto someone's else.

She's going absolutely nothing wrong

Parents are allowed to have a break. It may do wonders for their mental health which is beneficial to both parents and baby.

Babies do need their parents but a loving family parent for a few hours or even overnight occasionally is absolutely fine too. It doesn’t have to be 24/7 with no break.

Sorry, *member, family member not family parent.