AIBU to think this is a complete waste of bloody money now?!

[TheScreams]

For Christmas, DH booked us a weekend away. In reality, what that means is that at 10pm on Christmas Eve, DH realised he hadn’t bought me a bloody Christmas present and so booked an airbnb hut on a campsite for next weekend. He spoke to a relative we were staying with for Christmas and they agreed to have DS and DD for the weekend (booked from Saturday to Monday). I tried to be grateful at the time and not express that it was bloody obvious that he’d thrown it together at the last second and not given it a single second of actual thought.

He spoke to the relative a few weeks ago and they told him they can only look after DS and DD from 8pm Saturday until 8am Monday. So, we’ll get to the campsite from midnight on Saturday and will have to leave by 4am on Monday. He’s also not planned anything for the dogs so they’re coming too - so, on Sunday, our only day there, we can’t do anything that’s not dog friendly. But DH didn’t think to mention this until today.

I live in a bloody national park so I’m not sure why my Christmas present is travelling across the country, for “two nights” where I don’t get a decent night’s sleep on either and then get to have a dog walk and to sit in a pub for the day. I could bloody well do that two minutes from my house!

It’s bloody non-refundable. It feels like a complete and total waste of time and money to go on this trip. AIB a complete bitch to be completely ungrateful for this “gift” that actually just sounds like shit?

I just wouldn’t go.

Nope, not U at all to be annoyed. As ever, half arsed, no real thought and you'll be expected to be grateful, or seen as ungrateful for not appreciating the "at least he.....I got zilch". I'd tell him to at least figure out dog care. Can he leave early to pick up the kids and you take a leisurely train ride back in peace with a book?

How do you know he got it on christmas eve?

The moneys already gone whether you go or not, so I'd just refuse to go.

Or I'd tell him to take the dogs and go by hilself and enjoy the house to myself for a few night.

Get a takeaway and a film.

You’ll spend more if you go, at least staying home saves money on pub and amusements! I’d pretend to be ill personally

Get him to take kids and dogs and stay at home and have a pamper weekend!

It actually sounds nice to me that he wanted time away with you!! I bet you’ll enjoy it more than you think you will

Leave him with the kids and the dogs and take a friend...

Is it a 4 Hr drive? I don’t think I’d want to go either, but probably would end up doing it.

Where's the person that's looking after the kids relative to your house and the AirBnB? Could you drop the kids off and go back home, get a takeaway and enjoy the child-free time in the peace of your own home?

Well it’s weird just from the point of view that you live in a national park already. Why didn’t he book a city break? And I’m afraid it’s typical for men not to sort out the child and dog care properly, my Dh always assumes that’s for me to sort 😡

That’s honestly how I feel. I had really managed to convince myself it’d be a nice time and to now realise I’m just going to end up sleep deprived and pissed off. DH has decided I’m ruining the weekend.

Either go with someone else or don't go at all. That is such a rubbish present!

Of course it’s your fault 🙄

Go with a friend, or even better go alone with a book!

he can look after the dogs and the kids!

I wouldn’t go either. What a crap ‘present’. A four hour drive each way at stupid times? No fucking way.

Send him on his own. Have a relaxing time at home without DH and kids.

He printed the booking email and put it in an envelope for me to open on Christmas Day. The booking email says the time/date of booking.

I would take a friend and leave Saturday morning. Have a proper break.

Love this! Your present so you get to take who you want!!! He can stay home and look after kids/dogs, you can take a friend with a few bottles of wine and a hamper from a local deli!!!!

I think, if we generally got on well and I liked him, I'd go. But he has to do ALL the driving and I'd want a hot tub and to be totally waited on with nice food and wine and plenty of relaxing

Send him with the kids. Stay home with the dogs and a book. Have a takeaway and a bubble bath and a bottle or your favorite beverage. And lots of chocolate.

@Backtoreality1 exactly, it would be lovely. I did similar with a friend in November and it was so wonderful to be away to talk and go got dinner and read and walk with my friend while DP took care of our child.

Have you told him that the lack of forward planning has upset you?

I mean, I wouldnt advise that you take a friend or not go...although i understand what youre saying about it being a massive faff. I think that it coukd cause issues between you.

But i do think it needs addressing that your present seems like an afterthought.

It is an utterly rubbish present.

Don't go, OP, and if he asks why, point out that it won't be restful or relaxing, because of the kids/dogs/timing, it may well be shit weather, it's not worth an 8 hour round trip and if you wanted to sleep in a hut for a night you could have done so in your garden shed and saved yourself a load of hassle.

Men's ideas of what makes a good present probably deserve a thread of their own.