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AIBU to think this is a complete waste of bloody money now?!

479 replies

TheScreams · 29/03/2023 16:09

For Christmas, DH booked us a weekend away. In reality, what that means is that at 10pm on Christmas Eve, DH realised he hadn’t bought me a bloody Christmas present and so booked an airbnb hut on a campsite for next weekend. He spoke to a relative we were staying with for Christmas and they agreed to have DS and DD for the weekend (booked from Saturday to Monday). I tried to be grateful at the time and not express that it was bloody obvious that he’d thrown it together at the last second and not given it a single second of actual thought.

He spoke to the relative a few weeks ago and they told him they can only look after DS and DD from 8pm Saturday until 8am Monday. So, we’ll get to the campsite from midnight on Saturday and will have to leave by 4am on Monday. He’s also not planned anything for the dogs so they’re coming too - so, on Sunday, our only day there, we can’t do anything that’s not dog friendly. But DH didn’t think to mention this until today.

I live in a bloody national park so I’m not sure why my Christmas present is travelling across the country, for “two nights” where I don’t get a decent night’s sleep on either and then get to have a dog walk and to sit in a pub for the day. I could bloody well do that two minutes from my house!

It’s bloody non-refundable. It feels like a complete and total waste of time and money to go on this trip. AIB a complete bitch to be completely ungrateful for this “gift” that actually just sounds like shit?

OP posts:
NewCarOldCar · 31/03/2023 19:44

And the sock puppet was never seen again 😂

ssd · 31/03/2023 20:55

What happened with this thread? Ive been working today and cant figure out whats gone on

yodayoga1 · 31/03/2023 22:21

Oh dear... 😂

yodayoga1 · 31/03/2023 22:22

ssd · 31/03/2023 20:55

What happened with this thread? Ive been working today and cant figure out whats gone on

OP was caught out sock puppeting. Very awkward.

ssd · 31/03/2023 22:34

OuchShock

BlackBarbies · 31/03/2023 22:44

TheScreams · 31/03/2023 12:09

Don’t! 🙄I copy and pasted parts of other people’s posts and got help writing it from my sister who is more eloquent than I am and then didn’t stop/change/fix it. I asked MN to remove when I realised and hoped I could repost with no one noticing. Awful. Mortifying.😂

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What bullshit. You were literally sockpuppetting and got caught out because MN keeps the same username with each post now.

Why sockpuppet to try and defend yourself? How embarrassing, no wonder you haven’t been back😂

WhoToldYou · 31/03/2023 22:44

got help writing it from my sister who is more eloquent than I am

Sure, Jan. Totally busted.

And if your imaginary sister is supposed to be more eloquent but cannot phrase it better than “why the fuck…” you might need to give your imaginary sister a real dictionary.

Minfilia · 31/03/2023 22:50

Busted 😂

piesforever · 01/04/2023 00:55

Sounds terrible. Especially night 2. And dogs! Tell him!

DeeCeeCherry · 01/04/2023 04:41

bang to rights😂

PollyAmour · 01/04/2023 06:56

I don't see the need to sock puppet on a thread when mostly everyone agrees with the OP. To be honest, any element of socking makes me doubt the veracity of the OP.

tuvamoodyson · 01/04/2023 07:16

thelionthewitchtheaudacityofTHISbitch · 29/03/2023 19:45

I agree with other PPs - he didnt think at all about what you might like, regarded it as a child-free sex weekend, but couldn't be bothered to organise it properly. Hence the relatives offer of a weekend's childcare being minimised to become close to useless. (I am also assuming that is his parents and they almost felt obliged to help).

My ex organised a "big" weekend for one of my birthdays - up at the crack of dawn to be flown (just me) in a old airplane. I was travel-sick afterwards - no aerobatics because I had to say No very firmly - but even so I dont do well with that type of activity. There might have been a boat trip next - I cant really remember - before finally getting to the very luxury hotel for a massive meal. I was asleep at the table nearly. At the time we both worked long hours in busy environments. It really was all the things he wanted to do but didnt quite have the courage. There is no way it was ever what he thought I might like. No sex that night was quite a big deal but I was knackered.

So I would be firm - lovely idea DH for you, the DC, and the dog. See you Monday morning!

😂😂😂😂

Ktime · 01/04/2023 07:26

TheScreams · 31/03/2023 12:09

Don’t! 🙄I copy and pasted parts of other people’s posts and got help writing it from my sister who is more eloquent than I am and then didn’t stop/change/fix it. I asked MN to remove when I realised and hoped I could repost with no one noticing. Awful. Mortifying.😂

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I don’t understand. Why would your sister be writing in the third person about ‘OP’ if she is helping you write your posts?

Can anyone decipher this? OP sounds like a little girl all of a sudden.

I hope MNHQ just lock the thread instead of deleting, this is a cautionary tale.

SunshineAndFizz · 01/04/2023 07:39

Eh? What's happening?

What's a sock puppet?

Did she go on the weekend or is this one of those made up ones?

NewCarOldCar · 01/04/2023 10:24

@SunshineAndFizz A sock puppet is a poster who changes their name on a thread they have started/ posted on to pretend they are someone else on a thread.

MN have put a stop to this by not allowing you to change your name mid thread, but @TheScreams obviously did not realise this

AdobeWanKenobi · 01/04/2023 10:32

NewCarOldCar · 01/04/2023 10:24

@SunshineAndFizz A sock puppet is a poster who changes their name on a thread they have started/ posted on to pretend they are someone else on a thread.

MN have put a stop to this by not allowing you to change your name mid thread, but @TheScreams obviously did not realise this

Not entirely accurate.
You can change username mid thread, but the reply box defaults to the first one you’re used on the thread, so if you’re the OP it will automatically put in the name you started the thread with.

You can manually override it, but you need to remember to do it.

TwinsAndTiramisu · 01/04/2023 11:57

Eh? I thought the puppet thing was when a person did new usernames to reply to their own thread under a new name?

Aren't all the responses by the same original OP username?

ReneBumsWombats · 01/04/2023 12:00

TwinsAndTiramisu · 01/04/2023 11:57

Eh? I thought the puppet thing was when a person did new usernames to reply to their own thread under a new name?

Aren't all the responses by the same original OP username?

Yes. But they weren't supposed to be.

Bamboux · 01/04/2023 14:41

ReneBumsWombats · 01/04/2023 12:00

Yes. But they weren't supposed to be.

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Some of the other posts are also presumably by op using a different username.

The last time, she fucked up and forgot to change it to a different one before posting as one of her sock puppets.

yodayoga1 · 01/04/2023 14:56

I guess we can't tell how many other times she may have sock puppeted. I suppose there is even a chance that the thread was real (looking unlikely) but she totally discredited herself and that's the death of the thread. It is now just a group of people straggling around at the end confused about what on Earth happened 😂

Equalitea · 01/04/2023 15:57

SunshineAndFizz · 01/04/2023 07:39

Eh? What's happening?

What's a sock puppet?

Did she go on the weekend or is this one of those made up ones?

Thanks for asking! I’m new, joined yesterday and had no idea what a sock puppet was. I’ll add that to the term ‘zombie thread’ that I discovered yesterday. 2 new phrases in 2 days 🙊

AnImaginaryCat · 02/04/2023 06:52

Equalitea · 01/04/2023 15:57

Thanks for asking! I’m new, joined yesterday and had no idea what a sock puppet was. I’ll add that to the term ‘zombie thread’ that I discovered yesterday. 2 new phrases in 2 days 🙊

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While I get what a sock puppet is (been knocking around MN for a while) I don't get the purpose.

I mean, I might get it in this case if the OP had replied being totally contrary to herself as the OP. Least then it might look like they were attempting to make their thread more "exciting'. (Well I'd see why they might, but not sure I understand the drive behind the need for it.)

But answering as a sock puppet defending yourself as OP? What's the point?!!! Other people where already doing that.

Unless MN is just me and the OP, and all the other replies ever have been the OP!! 😲

AdobeWanKenobi · 02/04/2023 07:25

You would assume, or at least I would, that the OP wasn’t genuine and that posts were designed to keep a thread running rather than to agree or disagree. The contrary posters were probably the OP too.

I suspect, had OP not rather hilariously shot herself in the foot, that this would have been a four thread saga of her weekend away, each part getting more unbelievable as it evolves.

nomoremerlot · 02/04/2023 07:26

Oh dear, how embarrassing OP!

🙈

Robinni · 02/04/2023 09:57

@AdobeWanKenobi genuine here. I wasn’t as sympathetic as there seemed to be more options available to resolve the childcare/or he could go on his own etc. And the breastfeeding issue would have been apparent 3m ago so didn’t figure how only creating a stink about it now. On first reading it was “bloody this, bloody that, bloody men, bloody everything” like throwing the toys out. Which seemed to me hard work, as the situation wasn’t at the “it’s completely ruined let’s have a meltdown” stage.

Then there’s all this passive aggressive, “I hope the men in your life can treat you better” crap thrown at me… They do, but I specify what I want and discuss with them because I don’t want money wasted or to have something unneeded/wanted. The surprise gift thing doesn’t really do it for me.

Anyway we were all had weren’t we…