My mum wants to come on holiday with us

[Supermummy88]

Hey everyone,

I just need some advice. My husband wants to go on a beach holiday this year with me and the kids. We have one holiday every year and he hasn’t had any time off for a while. However, my mum really wants to come with us. My mum travels and goes on holidays about 4 times a year. My husband wants it to be just us, as he wants to just chill out and feels it won’t be the same if my mum comes. I don’t really know what to say to her because I feel really bad saying no and that we just want to go as a family. My husband said that considering she goes away 4 times a year and we only go once it’s not fair that we don’t get that time together as a family.

I’m thinking we will go with her this year and then next year we can go as a family just me husband and the kids. But he’s still not happy about it and has now put me in a difficult situation!

Any suggestions?

Thank you x

Perhaps you should just explain to her that it's your only holiday with husband and children and, as your lives are hectic, it is important that you have time together as a family. I think it would be quite different if your mum didn't have regular holidays herself.

Perhaps, as someone else suggested, you could organise a relatively inexpensive weekend away and invite her.

Definitely no, if this is your only holiday, when do you get quality time as a family together.
if you feel strongly about mum coming away, arrange a weekend break with her to the beach at another time or you and the kids join one of her holidays.
I have had MIL come on long weekends and I can categorically say it’s not the same, it’s not as relaxing, you can’t be open with your other half through worry MIL might jump onto sides and it is v v unfair that she’s even asked given she has 4 per year.
I had to put my foot down to husband re his mum as she has plenty of trips on her own, so I said 2 nights max and no to the main holiday.
imagine how you’d feel if it was his mum.

https://www.nottinghampost.com/news/real-life/im-difficult-situation-husband-doesnt-8306764?fbclid=IwAR358izFx3xsMy2ipmBhpEnAptqthcB34kmb30txulU3aIEnR42Vx0AaZxQ#lfydbqgbd79yph61dsl

This, & I’ve noticed another recently, has made it onto Nottinghamshire live FB page…

OP?

Oooops! Well I guess her mum knows now…

Nor can I.

That doesn't affect the fact that the OP;s husband deserves to have his one holiday just with his own immediate family

Over 350 responses and OP doesn't have the basic manners to at least acknowledge the responses. Bad form.

She won't like the fact everyone is on the husbands side not hers

If you read her other threads, her husband and MIL are pretty abusive.