To stop seeing guy who lied about his age?

[JollieJullie]

Went on two lovely dates with a guy. I thought this had potential, we got on really well and there definitely was mutual interest.

However, a thorough Internet research has showed me that he is 3 years older than stated. I even asked him for confirmation about his age on the first date (casually in conversation) and he confirmed the age stated on his OLD profile.

3 years is not a big difference, but to me it makes a difference. I am 33 going on 34, so dating a 44 years old vs a 47 years old IS different. He is closer to 50 than 40 FFS!

More importantly, I am just bothered by the lie and unimpressed about the insecurity this reveals. I think I will have to call it a day.

What do you all think? Not a big deal or am I right to be so annoyed? AIBU or not?

Because men on dating sites think it is their right to date younger women. Why isn’t he dating a woman of his age? What women in her 30s would want to date a man in their 50s? Ten years later he will be over 60. Big gaps are ok when younger but not in your 30s, 40s or 50s. I’m in my late 50s and I am fit and healthy. But I know I am a lot older than a 30 year old.

Could he have been using the old 'Sorry I entered my age as if I was a canary'

Ditch now. I remember (years ago, before meeting DH) going on a date with a guy whose profile stated the guy was 35. The second I saw him I knew it was a lie😂
Decided not to leave on a spot as got curious if he mentions anything..kudos to him he did. He was actually 53 (and I was 31 at that point). Seriously, what did he hope for..

No brainer. A) he lied B) the age gap is huge C) he’s an older man targeting younger women 🤮

This! I know some people make age gap relationships work but you are at different stages in life plus I also think men targeting much younger women is creepy. He lied because he knew younger women would swipe on him based on age.

I remember lying about my age once. I’d just met someone casually at a nightclub and said I was about five years younger than I was just to see if I could get away with it (to see if I could pass for younger) which I did so ego boost there. I didn’t realise though that I would end up dating him and a couple of dates in I had to confess. I felt really embarrassed as it wasn’t done with any malicious intent. We ended up being together for several years and I wasn’t some untrustworthy twat but I would never lie about my age again as I can still cringe at my shallowness all these years later.

You're much too young to be with someone of 47. 8 years difference is a cut off for me. Not that I'm actually dating, neither is DH.

I would end it because of what it says about him as a person, rather than the fact that he's approaching 50.

Three years isn't the be all and end all but a man who's ego can't deal with being 47 would be.

Bin him. Because he lied to your face and will do so again.

There's a large age gap between my DH and I, similar to 34 and 47. He wanted children so dating someone his own age wouldn't have worked for him. We are happily married with DC.

Mind you, he didn't lie about his age to me.

I completely disagree that large age gaps are better when you're younger. 14 vs 28 is wildly different to 34 vs 47.

Personally I hate lying so I'd ask him straight up why he lied and decide from there.

If he has lied about his age what else has he/ will he lie about. My exhusband reinvented himself prior to leaving 26 years ago. He told his young (17) work colleague/ affair partner that he was younger than he really was, that he had had to divorce me, that I was preventing him seeing his children etc etc . I imagine every time he opened his mouth a lie fell out and each lie meant there had to be another lie.I had no idea and the young woman he had an affair with ,and eventually married, was so young she believed every word without question. She is now divorcing him and all his lies are seeping out.

You can tell on this thread who hasn't used Internet dating in the last few years 🤣
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🤮 to ALL of this

😂 fine wine my arse. He’s just a standard run of the mill, liar.

No thank you

Eww, what a creep!! Was he at least embarrassed at his own behaviour?

If its only 36 months and not a big deal why did he lie?
Why is the onus on OP to accept the lie rather than on the man to not lie in the first place, expecially if it's such a little lie, what was the point?

I’d end it. I am not interested in a partner who lies to me

The age gap isn't an issue but the lying is! Bin him!

He probably thinks you are lying about your age too.
The very idea that people lie about their age, IRL or OLD. Almost unbelievable, right?

Why would he think that?

i didnt find out mine was 12 years younger than me until after i married him!

Wtf how?!

This entire thing makes me feel uncomfortable.

Fine wine my girl, fine wine. ick

If he's "fine wine" then why fucking lie about it?

Because many women lie about their age IRL and OLD.