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To be glad the Guardian have stopped describing the school shooter as a woman?

265 replies

Greatly · 28/03/2023 10:48

They headlined with the shooter being a woman yesterday.

Today of course we learn the shooter is transgender.

They would have known this yesterday.

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GrinAndVomit · 28/03/2023 13:55

Absolutely!

Women are just what men say we are. It’s sickening

GrinAndVomit · 28/03/2023 13:56

FourTeaFallOut · 28/03/2023 10:55

What you need to know is that, in the media, when a man declares himself to be a woman - then he is a woman. And when women declare herself to be a man - they are still a woman. This is abjection. Men get to have a sex class that excludes men who won't acquiesce to gender norms and also excludes the women who come knocking on their door.

Thus, whenever a transgender person commits a crime - regardless of their sex - it is always a woman's crime.

Sorry, meant to quote you

EmmaEmerald · 28/03/2023 13:57

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 28/03/2023 13:54

Christ I've just watched that Biden clip it's so ludicrous it feels like it can't be real? Surely? Confused

I think he was addressing a business event, doing what he was planning, and maybe didn't know the news had cut to him for live comment

stitch up? i don't have a high opinion of him but I don't think he intended for the world to see him chatting about ice cream rather than what just happened.

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 28/03/2023 13:58

Hopefully that's what happened.

ItIsFiat · 28/03/2023 13:58

This reply has been deleted

This has been deleted by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines.

After watching them in New Zealand the weekend and the media and politicians in lockstep with their narrative, I think expect anything.

RedToothBrush · 28/03/2023 13:59

Emotionalsupportviper · 28/03/2023 13:53

"Respect" is what is, and always has been, missing from the trans issue.

The TRAs have no respect for anyone. They won't debate because they know they have no arguement. They rely on violence and terror to carry their cause forward.

So many gender critical people have said - "Meet me on X tv show/ at Y university debating society/ in Z studio, and I will listen you your argument, and you can listen to mine. We'll do it in front of an audience who can then decide for themselves which of us they feel is right."

Invitation after invitation has been proffered. Some have even been accepted. As far as I am aware, no debate has ever taken place. Something always happens to stop the trans-side from turning up. Or they manage to get the whole thing cancelled.

Well - this is where bully-boy tactics end; In a place where children are being murdered for imaginary "vengeance".

The reason why many women on MN are talking about this, is because they've seen or worse, been the target of threats of violence from TRAs which have gone unchallenged by public figures and people in positions of authority. For a number of years there's been considerable concern that it would eventually tip over into more extreme violence (than that we've already seen).

The concern is that, it is the first step in predicted escalation.

Whether that's a fear that has grounds to be taken seriously is open to debate and we can't make a judgement about without actual evidence.

ItIsFiat · 28/03/2023 14:02

Beamur · 28/03/2023 13:50

IF this reported manifesto is about this act being an act of vengeance with regard to trans rights and recent legislation then this conversation is absolutely central and timely.
The authorities dealing with this must realise how incendiary this could be.
There's no point at all putting this down to 'evil' - it's not a random act by an unknown agent, this is a human act done quite deliberately. Plus millions of easily obtainable guns.

If you can't destroy the children with the methods made illegal in that state, find an alternative?

Lifeomars · 28/03/2023 14:07

"Today of course we learn the shooter is transgender." Not sure why you have said "of course" and tbh the only thing that I have been thinking about are the lives lost, the utter terror that pupils and staff would have gone through. When will America, the country that purports to cares so much about the rights of the unborn do something to prevent the unending loss of life in school shootings. Imagine saying goodbye to your child in the morning and telling them you hope they have a good day at school only to find out that they have been murdered there. Sickening and incomprehensible.

anythinginapinch · 28/03/2023 14:08

DinnerThyme · 28/03/2023 12:37

It’s quite amusing watching all the usual “if you’re born as a woman/man, then you’re a woman/man” try to argue that this time doesn’t count and she was actually a man. Make up your mind!

No they are not saying that. They are saying - it's fucking INCONSISTENT and the very INCONSISTENCY speaks to the inherent confusion, illogicality and misogyny of the TRA.

MsJD · 28/03/2023 14:08

According to BBC, she was using male pronouns online, so not identifying as a trans man?

FourTeaFallOut · 28/03/2023 14:11

Imagine saying goodbye to your child in the morning and telling them you hope they have a good day at school only to find out that they have been murdered there. Sickening and incomprehensible

Then imagine that the murderer was inspired to violence by an extremist rhetoric but the media was uncomfortable with that particular narrative so they created a Kafkaesque reporting style, mangled with riddles so that nobody could speak of the hatred without being accused of being the monster?

anythinginapinch · 28/03/2023 14:13

hattie43 · 28/03/2023 13:53

The mother said she'd lost her daughter . Nuff said

No it isn't "nuff said". If a mother had a son who was a trans woman and who died or committed an act of violence, and she then described that child as a "man", then she'd be called a Terf, accused of dead-naming him, and generally be denied the right by the TRA to her own view of her own child.

Can you not see how inconsistent this is?? And how that inconsistency/double standard erodes women's rights even further?

Of course this person was a woman. Isla B is a man. But saying the latter, is a CRIME in Scotland.

ItIsFiat · 28/03/2023 14:14

FourTeaFallOut · 28/03/2023 14:11

Imagine saying goodbye to your child in the morning and telling them you hope they have a good day at school only to find out that they have been murdered there. Sickening and incomprehensible

Then imagine that the murderer was inspired to violence by an extremist rhetoric but the media was uncomfortable with that particular narrative so they created a Kafkaesque reporting style, mangled with riddles so that nobody could speak of the hatred without being accused of being the monster?

Imagine saying goodbye to your child in the morning and telling them you hope they have a good day at school only to find out that they have been sexually abused by being shown age inappropriate materials and gaslighted about biological reality at school by Teachers, that lead to sterilisation and mutilation.

anythinginapinch · 28/03/2023 14:14

MsJD · 28/03/2023 14:08

According to BBC, she was using male pronouns online, so not identifying as a trans man?

The BBC is absolutely no voice of independence on the trans agenda.

Emotionalsupportviper · 28/03/2023 14:16

anythinginapinch · 28/03/2023 14:08

No they are not saying that. They are saying - it's fucking INCONSISTENT and the very INCONSISTENCY speaks to the inherent confusion, illogicality and misogyny of the TRA.

@anythinginapinch is correct.

No-one is trying to wiggle out of the fact that this particular killer was a woman, who identified as a man. On the contrary - we are glad that it is correctly reported (at least I am). What we are saying is that this accuracy in reporting the sex of a criminal - especially a violent, murderous or sexually abusive criminal - should be extended to EVERY case.

Men will always be men, and women will always be women, and this needs to be acknowledged publicly by politicians, newspapers and organisations.

By all means, smash the gender stereotypes, wear what you want, call yourself by any name you want, but NO-ONE CHANGES SEX, and this needs to be acknowledged.
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DinnerThyme · 28/03/2023 14:17

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 28/03/2023 13:40

To be fair (and I think I speak for a few here) we don't believe this individual biologically was a man at all. Because that's daft.

We are drawing attention to the enormous discrepancy that when a biological male commits a crime as a woman, they're a woman and the crime is recorded as such.

So is this individual as a biological female committed a crime with male pronouns they absolutely are a man.

we don't believe this individual biologically was a man at all. Because that's daft

this individual as a biological female committed a crime with male pronouns they absolutely are a man

Like I said, make up your mind.

ItIsFiat · 28/03/2023 14:18

anythinginapinch · 28/03/2023 14:14

The BBC is absolutely no voice of independence on the trans agenda.

They are over represented by trans at the BBC.

www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/entertainment-arts-41265644.amp

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 28/03/2023 14:21

Dinner** I'm taking the piss out of the inconsistency of it Confused

unclebuck · 28/03/2023 14:24

She is a woman. She may have had her behaviour effected by testosterone but she is a woman. Her trans-ID may have been a red flag for mental illness that should have prevented the purchase of weapons but she is a woman.
Like male criminals are men.

Brefugee · 28/03/2023 14:28

It’s all too early. Just have some respect.

I forgot to come back to this. This is trotted out after every mass shooting. "it is too soon to talk about gun control"
When we move on (horribly quickly) nobody wants to talk about gun control

And now added to the too soon to talk about gun control, it is too soon to talk about the press getting a grip of themselves and reporting properly (biological sex followed by gender if their gender identity doesn't match that? using the word trans where appropriate? i don't know. pick one and stick to it)

Brefugee · 28/03/2023 14:31

blimey, this is shocking

How Rare Is It for a Woman to Commit a Mass Shooting? - The New York Times (nytimes.com)

"Most mass shooting suspects are male.
In a database of 172 U.S. shootings involving at least four victims over the last five and a half decades, all but 4 of the perpetrators were male."

sunshineandstrawberryjam · 28/03/2023 14:32

Wanderingowl · 28/03/2023 13:00

It matters because their trans identity appears to have been their motivation. Knowing a killer's motivation is actually extremely important because it's how society learns to recognise signs that may help them prevent further tragedies.

There's actually been a lot.of research done into this and current the recommendation is that when these mass shootings are covered as little attention as possible is paid to the shooter and the focus is on the victims.

Paying attention to the shooter, especially 'trying to understand why' glorified then, and gives them status which, in turn, can motivate others to carry out these kinds of horrendous acts. Many (if not most) mass shooters reference previous shooters, going back to Columbine. We (wider society) don't need to know their motivation. We need them to be ignored and forgotten and their victims remembered.

https://www.npr.org/sections/publiceditor/2021/03/25/981170871/npr-standards-need-more-clarity-around-when-to-name-a-mass-shooter

NPR Standards Need More Clarity Around When To Name A Mass Shooter

Not glorifying a shooter isn't enough to ensure good journalism

https://www.npr.org/sections/publiceditor/2021/03/25/981170871/npr-standards-need-more-clarity-around-when-to-name-a-mass-shooter

aModernClassic · 28/03/2023 14:34

RenegadeMistress · 28/03/2023 11:08

When women who think they are men commit crimes, they are reported as women. When men who think they are women commit crimes, they are reported as women. It really is a men's rights movement. They want people to think women are as statistically likely to commit violent crime as men are. Why is that.

This!

Squiblet · 28/03/2023 14:35

Some transactivists online are openly celebrating. Others are upset that more people weren’t killed

Where is this happening? Can you provide a link @Boudicasbeard ?

There is a mega thread about Nashville on Reddit 's r/trans. Post after post expresses sorrow, heartbreak for the victims and their families, anger and determination that "this shooter does not represent us".

ItIsFiat · 28/03/2023 14:36

sunshineandstrawberryjam · 28/03/2023 14:32

There's actually been a lot.of research done into this and current the recommendation is that when these mass shootings are covered as little attention as possible is paid to the shooter and the focus is on the victims.

Paying attention to the shooter, especially 'trying to understand why' glorified then, and gives them status which, in turn, can motivate others to carry out these kinds of horrendous acts. Many (if not most) mass shooters reference previous shooters, going back to Columbine. We (wider society) don't need to know their motivation. We need them to be ignored and forgotten and their victims remembered.

https://www.npr.org/sections/publiceditor/2021/03/25/981170871/npr-standards-need-more-clarity-around-when-to-name-a-mass-shooter

https://www.reuters.com/world/uk/uk-study-shows-link-between-domestic-violence-radicalisation-risk-2021-11-25/

If you ignore why, you miss out on this kind of data.

UK study shows link between domestic violence and radicalisation risk

There is a significant prevalence of domestic abuse in the lives of those referred to a British scheme for people at risk of being radicalised, according to research commissioned by British counter-terrorism police published on Thursday.

https://www.reuters.com/world/uk/uk-study-shows-link-between-domestic-violence-radicalisation-risk-2021-11-25