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To be glad the Guardian have stopped describing the school shooter as a woman?

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Greatly · 28/03/2023 10:48

They headlined with the shooter being a woman yesterday.

Today of course we learn the shooter is transgender.

They would have known this yesterday.

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DotAndCarryOne2 · 28/03/2023 18:40

TheHoover · 28/03/2023 14:40

Squiblet · Today 14:35
Some transactivists online are openly celebrating. Others are upset that more people weren’t killed

oh for fuck’s sake. This is like those fake videos of residents of Islamic countries cheering at the 911 bombing. Created purposefully to drum up islamophobic hatred.

Have a look on Twitter. Lots of other stuff openly posted online in support of what she did.

TheHoover · 28/03/2023 19:00

From the pp’s twitter link I can see victim blaming and perpetrator sympathy. Clearly these are both very wrong but where is the ‘open celebration’ and being ‘upset that more weren’t killed.

Boudicasbeard · 28/03/2023 19:10

@TheHoover

You can easily find it on Twitter and Reddit

https://twitter.com/AnnaMcGovernUK/status/1640650774186274820

And don’t try to argue that this person isn’t trans. By the principle of self id people are who they say they are.

https://twitter.com/AnnaMcGovernUK/status/1640650774186274820

Boudicasbeard · 28/03/2023 19:11

And that was just one. There is far more of this out there.

People talk about 4Chan and QAnon as a breeding ground for Alt Right violence. But some of the the trans sub reddits are the most openly violent, misogynistic places on the internet.

But that is fine, apparently.

Brefugee · 28/03/2023 19:22

The grieving families and community of Nashville deserve better than others arguing about gender and pronouns , some of the comments I’ve read on this thread beggar belief !

So hide the thread then. Last time i looked we were allowed to speak about a whole range of subjects, and that includes how the media report crimes and the sex and/or gender identities of the perpetrators.

As for discussing mass shootings and killings - we're allowed to discuss those too. Sad, tragic, devastating as these events are, they crop up with such alarming regularity that it would be daft if people didn't.

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RedToothBrush · 28/03/2023 20:23

sunshineandstrawberryjam · 28/03/2023 18:06

Yeah, I agree, but we aren't the authorities. This thread isn't happening between psychologists or FBI agents or other professionals. It's the public giving this shooter a load of attention and trying to get hold of the manifesto the shooter wanted to be seen, and without even an editorial code to limit the lurid speculation. This thread is the exact kind of publicity that feeds shootings.

But we HAVE to talk about it if we have a situation which involves institutional capture and political power which is actively saying nothing but 'trans is untouchable and not subject to safeguarding'.

THAT'S part of the problem - poor handling by the authorities because there isn't freedom to explore the causes without prejudice because of adherence to ideological purity.

ItIsFiat · 28/03/2023 20:25

bellinisurge · 28/03/2023 16:24

"The school was affiliated to the Presbyterian Church of America, members of which have been outspoken on trans issues."

Victim blaming is never a good look, mate

She was 28, she didn't have to live with her parents she could go live her best life.

Her parents and the parents of her victims are allowed their own world view as was she.

Boudicasbeard · 28/03/2023 20:29

I totally agree @RedToothBrush

I hope this starts a conversation about those violent echo chambers online where people are egging each other on to do stuff like this.

The Witch Trials of JK Rowling has a brilliant episode that covers just how some of these really extreme ideas have become so main stream and about the cross over between the Christian right and tens activism in America.

ItIsFiat · 28/03/2023 20:32

I don't think America can continue as they are, they will likely have a national divorce.

They have one side that wants guns, no abortion, no woke ideology.

I don't think either wants to tolerate the other anymore, like a couple they have contempt for each other.

ChristinaXYZ · 28/03/2023 20:35

Greatly · 28/03/2023 10:50

Well that shows what I know.

Thank you for correcting me.

Shows how confusing it is - and the double standards in the press. They would not have dared identify a man who identified as woman under his biological sex, nor dead named him. Lots of people have been confused OP and there is a bit of interview footage of the police and reporter clearly talking across purposes over the sex/gender of the shooter.

ALongHardWinter · 28/03/2023 20:56

TeaserandtheFirecat · 28/03/2023 11:26

Could it possily be MRA want natal women and girls to lose their protected status? Surely not.......

Totally agree.

DotAndCarryOne2 · 30/03/2023 15:56

ItIsFiat · 28/03/2023 20:25

She was 28, she didn't have to live with her parents she could go live her best life.

Her parents and the parents of her victims are allowed their own world view as was she.

That quote was from one of my posts, and it wasn’t intended as victim blaming. It was one of the possible motives the police were looking at for the shooting, as she was a former student at the school and it was mentioned in the manifesto they found.

bellinisurge · 30/03/2023 16:28

PSA: the murderer was a woman. She murdered 6 people including 3 children. Who knows whether she was on testosterone. Who knows whether her mental health problems were ignored in favour of affirmation.
But she was a woman. An adult human female. One of the bad ones- we do have them among us. But still a woman.

I saw the Independent using fucking he/him pronouns but still calling her Audrey rather than her other name.

We need accuracy in everything.

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