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To be glad the Guardian have stopped describing the school shooter as a woman?

265 replies

Greatly · 28/03/2023 10:48

They headlined with the shooter being a woman yesterday.

Today of course we learn the shooter is transgender.

They would have known this yesterday.

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Brefugee · 28/03/2023 12:30

so tell me @LadyWindermeresOnlyFans what is this thread about

since we're discussing media reporting of the gender/sex of people who hit the news. What do you think we're discussing.

I have outlined several times here that the crime itself is devastating but since the US are completely unwilling to attack the source of the problem, i'll continue to look at some details more than others.

BoredOfThisMansWorld · 28/03/2023 12:32

Yes consistency please, Guardian etc.

Otherwise it looks an awful lot like:

Transwomen victims are trans

Transwomen sex offenders and murderers are women

Transmen murderers are ....also women

All of which supports the agenda driven narrative that:

Transwomen are the most vulnerable in society

Women rape and murder too (look at the increased stats!) therefore single sex spaces are pointless

ancientgran · 28/03/2023 12:32

Beamur · 28/03/2023 11:02

She wasn’t transgender, she used male pronouns on social media. Slag men off all you like, this shooter was female

I'm pretty sure using pronouns that are incongruent to your sex puts you under the trans umbrella.

So she was transgender on social media but female in real life?

DinnerThyme · 28/03/2023 12:33

morekidsthanhands · 28/03/2023 11:27

This post has backfired quite spectacularly on you hasn't it

😂😁

Wanderingowl · 28/03/2023 12:34

PedroPascal · 28/03/2023 12:24

So she used male pronouns on one site, that makes her a man? I better rethink my username.

The fact that she looked female, had a female body/chromosomes/hormones, had a female name, and the police thought she was a female when they attended, apparently means nothing because online she used he/him... Don't you see how mad that is? Male and female is not an ethereal concept to be changed and discarded at will. It's a biological fact, and it matters.

Anyway RIP to those dead in this horrible event. Those poor babies.

She identified as transgender. The police, who have read her manifesto, confirmed this. Stop trying to disavow trans people who commit heinous crimes, quite possibly in the name of 'trans vengeance,' because it doesn't fit your chosen narrative. I don't know if we will ever get to know what was in her manifesto. I'm pretty sure that people working for The Daily Wire, headquartered in Nashville, will be using every local connection they have to get a hold of it. So we might. But there is certainly an implication floating about that this shooting is connected to her trans identity and the recent passing of House Bill 1 in Tennessee which is being dubbed a 'trans genocide' online.

Anonhopingforbaby · 28/03/2023 12:35

Does it matter that it hadn't transitioned? I thought as soon as someone declares themselves to be the opposite sex that's what they are?

/s

Brefugee · 28/03/2023 12:35

I don't know what it will take for the US to agree to reform their gun control laws. And when I saw reform, I mean radically reform. How many more children are going to have to die before someone says enough?! Utterly tragic

well, they won't so it's just a fact of life in the same way that plane crashes or car accidents are a fact of life (but more frequent than the former, mass shootings fewer than the latter but individual shootings? who knows)

It is interesting that in the UK after Dunblane there was decisive action, after Sandy Hook? we know what happened after that. The most tragic thing about all these mass shootings is that we know each time that it won't be the last.

It is perfectly legitimate to look into press reporting of events. I see pp thought it would be a good idea to not report on the shooter at all. I find that interesting (pretty much like the conventions now on reporting on suicide).

The shooter being trans or not (aside of the manifesto which i hadn't read about) is also neither here nor there, in the grand scheme of things apart from 2 points. One is that this is so rarely a crime committed by a biological woman that the sex of the shooter is hugely relevant. The fact that the shooter claims a trans identity is also hugely relevant. And clear and consistent reporting is definitely required here.

twelly · 28/03/2023 12:36

I disagree with the OP - the shooter was biological a woman, just as the biological men in women's prisons should be described as men.

Maedan · 28/03/2023 12:37

Coffeellama · 28/03/2023 11:00

She wasn’t transgender, she used male pronouns on social media. Slag men off all you like, this shooter was female.

Using male pronouns on social media makes her transgender, that's all you need to do, don't be transphobic now 🤷

DinnerThyme · 28/03/2023 12:37

It’s quite amusing watching all the usual “if you’re born as a woman/man, then you’re a woman/man” try to argue that this time doesn’t count and she was actually a man. Make up your mind!

FourTeaFallOut · 28/03/2023 12:37

Yes, you say your pronouns three times in the mirror and then the Guardian has an editorial policy to report your gender identity accurately. <Unless you are a woman>

Supersimkin2 · 28/03/2023 12:38

Men’s rights campaigners say men are called women cos they want to be, women are called women cos they’re bad.

Maedan · 28/03/2023 12:38

twelly · 28/03/2023 12:36

I disagree with the OP - the shooter was biological a woman, just as the biological men in women's prisons should be described as men.

They're not though are they, the'men' are never misgendered, only women (the traditional kind) get misgendered once they've committed a crime!

sst1234 · 28/03/2023 12:39

SashaPearce · 28/03/2023 12:19

Right because cisgender men never ever commit rapes or school shootings

Whataboutery

DotAndCarryOne2 · 28/03/2023 12:39

PuttingDownRoots · 28/03/2023 11:04

It appears the shooter was biologically female.

It also appears that they referred to themselves as male... and the precedent is that preferred pronouns and names should be used.

Or we could concentrate more on the tragedy that three 9yos didn't go home last night, plus three staff members.

This. There are several threads covering this subject and all are concentrating more on the gender of the perpetrator and confused reporting of same, than the tragedy itself. I agree the press and media should clean up their act and get it right when they do report on it but personally I think anyone who has committed a serious crime such as this has given up the right to any kind of respect towards their chosen pronouns, or anything else for that matter.

SidewaysOtter · 28/03/2023 12:40

Maybe then it would be more helpful if people were just referred to as their biological sex regardless of how they "identify". Then there would be no confusion.

TreesAtSea · 28/03/2023 12:40

RenegadeMistress · 28/03/2023 11:08

When women who think they are men commit crimes, they are reported as women. When men who think they are women commit crimes, they are reported as women. It really is a men's rights movement. They want people to think women are as statistically likely to commit violent crime as men are. Why is that.

Exactly

FourTeaFallOut · 28/03/2023 12:40

SidewaysOtter · 28/03/2023 12:40

Maybe then it would be more helpful if people were just referred to as their biological sex regardless of how they "identify". Then there would be no confusion.

Sounds good to me.

BoredOfThisMansWorld · 28/03/2023 12:41

I have outlined several times here that the crime itself is devastating but since the US are completely unwilling to attack the source of the problem, i'll continue to look at some details more than others

Regards this, there's fuck all point in UK women wringing their hands over American gun crime. America does not care what we think of it's insane gun laws, health care policies and approach to religion. America cannot understand British Left Wing politics or feminism, let alone see itself the way other countries do.

I feel sad for US the same way I feel sad for other countries whose citizens suffer unnecesarily. The difference is that US has a global influence that many of these other countries don't have. As a citizen of a country which - just about - remembers what Left Wing politics actually are, what feminism is and universal health care, I have an interest in untangling the pervasive influence of the US on UK culture.

DotAndCarryOne2 · 28/03/2023 12:41

ancientgran · 28/03/2023 12:32

So she was transgender on social media but female in real life?

Confusing isn’t it ? Just when you thought it couldn’t get any more so !!

happydappy2 · 28/03/2023 12:42

One has to ask how testosterone affects the female brain, did it make the killer more unstable & violent?

Mirabai · 28/03/2023 12:42

ancientgran · 28/03/2023 12:32

So she was transgender on social media but female in real life?

What are you implying? That she was biologically female or that she only identified as male online but not in real life? Because there are photos of her clearly presenting herself as male in real life - ie male clothing and short hair.

Wanderingowl · 28/03/2023 12:42

DinnerThyme · 28/03/2023 12:37

It’s quite amusing watching all the usual “if you’re born as a woman/man, then you’re a woman/man” try to argue that this time doesn’t count and she was actually a man. Make up your mind!

Nobody at all is arguing that. So I'm not sure what you are laughing at. Maybe your won ability to understand what people are saying in your rush to own the terfs or something. People are arguing for consistency. When transwomen (ie men) commit crimes, they are reported as women's crimes. This transman (ie woman) is being reported as a woman/female. It's accurate with regard to her but not accurate with regard to transwomen (men). We want consistency.

Mostly we want accurate reporting, if a transwoman commits a crime, I want to know that a man identifying as a woman has committed the crime. Especially if their chosen identity is relevant due to their motivation or access to victims. In this case a woman identifying as a man committed the crime and it appears that her trans identification could have been a motivating factor in her murder to 6 people, including 3 nine year olds. (And it's pretty sick that you are laughing at anything involving that, tbh.)

ancientgran · 28/03/2023 12:42

Brefugee · 28/03/2023 12:35

I don't know what it will take for the US to agree to reform their gun control laws. And when I saw reform, I mean radically reform. How many more children are going to have to die before someone says enough?! Utterly tragic

well, they won't so it's just a fact of life in the same way that plane crashes or car accidents are a fact of life (but more frequent than the former, mass shootings fewer than the latter but individual shootings? who knows)

It is interesting that in the UK after Dunblane there was decisive action, after Sandy Hook? we know what happened after that. The most tragic thing about all these mass shootings is that we know each time that it won't be the last.

It is perfectly legitimate to look into press reporting of events. I see pp thought it would be a good idea to not report on the shooter at all. I find that interesting (pretty much like the conventions now on reporting on suicide).

The shooter being trans or not (aside of the manifesto which i hadn't read about) is also neither here nor there, in the grand scheme of things apart from 2 points. One is that this is so rarely a crime committed by a biological woman that the sex of the shooter is hugely relevant. The fact that the shooter claims a trans identity is also hugely relevant. And clear and consistent reporting is definitely required here.

On the news this morning they were saying that the shooting stats vary between states, the said New York and New Jersey have low rates as they have stricter gun control. I have no idea if that is true but if it is then shame on the states that won't follow their example.

MandyMotherOfBrian · 28/03/2023 12:44

Starburst8 · 28/03/2023 11:24

Not wanting to be ignorant but what does it matter? The shooter went into a school, shot and killed innocent people. I've seen a lot of discussion regarding the shooter's pronouns etc as if it's disrespectful to the shooter for getting it wrong. I think our concern should be with the victims families.
Also as a side note, an article with the shooter's mother was released where she is quoted as saying "I think I've lost my daughter".

Our concern absolutely should be with the victims and their families. But that doesn’t mean that accurate reporting by the msm is therefore not important, does it?